Are you at peace with your past or would you give anything for a "do-over"?
Like most any human being on the planet, there are things in my life I wish I'd done differently. Duh.
But I would NOT want to see a "do-over" for one powerful reason--which requires a few "by the numbers" entries to explain:
1. I do like the person I've become as of this day, here and now. He ain't perfect, but he ain't all that bad, either.
2. Any change in my past experiences--ANY CHANGE AT ALL--would have sent me down a different path in Life. Maybe only slightly different in some cases, but I can't know that.
3. If my life had worked out differently, I would NOT be precisely who I am today.
4. I would not care to lose what I am today.
Thus (summary), the past is the past. Cowboy up; deal with it.
My message to me.
Most people probably have things they wished they had done differently at some point in the past,it's just human nature to make mistakes.My father told me once"Son if you don't screw up from time to time it means your'e not doing anything."
No one is without imperfections,mistakes made in life are one way we grow and learn.I myself have been less than honest and less than innocent and rather void of empathy and compassion early in my adulthood,and only through the birth of my first child did I return to values and principles that I had been taught growing up.I may not be very proud of some things I've done or how I behaved but I wouldn't go back and change it now for fear that my path might have lead in a direction that didn't include my wonderful wife and children.There is no future in the past so,in my opinion the best we can do is to accept our imperfect human nature and try to learn from our mistakes and strive to be better as we travel the road of life.If we beat ourselves up over the past we will surely be limited on the chances we take and shy away from challenges of the unknown that could enrich our lives or the life of someone else.
Yet we should not be totally at peace with our past to prevent complacency.Some degree of regret only strengthens the resolve to make change and growth of character.For someone to have never questioned at least some part of their history though,would surely be a sign of denial and limit the ability of intellectual and spiritual growth and wisdom.No human is perfect and every human has the capacity to change and grow.
This is just my opinion and I am but imperfect so,I could be wrong.
Would like a do over in some areas-mostly content though.
I always believe that what is done is already over. I don't dwell over the past.
Instead I will learn from it and be better than before. Mistakes are meant to be learnt and having that experience helps me to be a better person as not to make the same mistake as well as teaching my kids not to have that mistake.
Life is always a learning process and we should not dwell over things that had already done as nothing can change it (unless we can time travel). Learn it and make yourself a better person with it instead.
There are a lot of things I would change and do-over if I could with the knowledge I have today. But frankly I wouldn't want to go back because along with changing some things, you would have to live the painful times again and no thank you on that one.
Since I've learned more from my mistakes and failures than from my successes, any "do-overs" would make me less intelligent, less prepared, and less capable to handle life's calamities. So.... No thank you.
I don't regret anything in life. Whatever happens in my life is because of my own actions. I have to accept this fact. Yes, I am at peace with my past.
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