While chatting with a young friend, experiences of LIFE come up.
What would you say has been the biggest surpise along the way in your life? As for me, it would simply be a cliche, expect the unexpected. Learn from it and move forth, be it good or bad.
Talking with younger people is always enjoyable. I think my main response is similar to yours to make the best of situations and laugh in retrospection.
The biggest surprise for me was to grow up and learn to know what I didn't know. We all get institutionalized to a certain degree. And through our institutionalization, we get older and take so many things as a given, things we've believed our whole lives, but some reach the point in which you have to reevaluate everything. And life is never the same afterwards.
Some grew up being racist their whole lives and grew to realize how foolish and hateful it was. Some grew up in a religion or cult that they've finally learned to reconsider. For others, they've grown out of their political affiliations. Some finally fell in love with the right person and some finally fell out of love with the wrong person.
Whatever it is, some people finally evolve and grow to a point where their eyes have opened wider and see things from a better, clearer perspective. Whether you like it or not you know it's the truth. This has happened to me, and this is by far the biggest "surprise" for me: unlearning what I thought I knew.
Live with an open mind. This is not a clique but something to take to heart. If one cloeses their mind they miss so many wonderful experiances and opportunities.
When I was young, in my late teens and early twenties, I believed I was a good person. I tended to be judgmental. When I saw people do certain things, I'd think to myself that I would "never do that." When I'd read about the guards in the Nazi concentration camps and their cruelty, I could not imagine how a human being could behave that way toward another human. In other words, as a Christian I acknowledged with my head that I was a sinner in need of grace, but was still pretty much a Pharisee in my thoughts that I might be a bit better than the "real" sinners I saw and read about.
When I was almost thirty, God showed me very vividly that this wasn't true and that I was just as capable of "real" sin as anyone else. Fortunately for me, there was forgiveness from God and from others involved and healing has taken place, but it was a huge eye-opener to see myself as one who might be capable of anything if put in the right situation or feeling the right kind of pressure. It's been a humbling experience, and the redeeming value has been to crush my spiritual pride and help me feel compassion for those who are in bondage to addictions of various kinds or engage in other behaviors I think are wrong. I have learned not to say to my self or anyone else, "I would never do that." Instead I pray for grace to remain true to what I believe with God's help and I pray for God to work in the situation and the person I see doing something that hurts himself and others.
I would say never judge a book by it's cover! I have some great friends that are not typically the people I would have thought would be great friends. So yeah, I've learned never to prejudge and be great full for good friends.
I was surprised to learn from my elders and
I remember from my memory some one who said " Wise learn from fools and fools learn from experience ".
The next was " If wishes were horses beggars would ride ".
The next was " In the Kingdom of the blind the one eyed is the Monarch ".
The next " Past is past,future is not in our hand Live in the present ".
The next " A fair face is a foul bargain ".
The biggest surprise for me has been learning from mistakes. Even when you mess up in life, there is a lesson and it helps you grow into a better person.
I'm always surprised how gradual life changes are. I always expect that when I turn a certain age, I will have a particular aspect of life figured out (a certain relationship, finances, career, knowledge in a certain area, etc.), and then I reach that age and realize I'm not that much closer in my understanding. The truism "The more you learn, the more you realize you don't know" holds true for me. I am learning and growing all the time though, and I guess that's what really matters.
I agree, change just happens. In some ways everything I have learned just made me into the person I am now. So what happens next is that something else will change me a little again. Got to keep learning all the time with each new thing.
When I was younger I would have thought it was impossible to do what I do now. Yet now everything is normal to me and in it's place. When I was younger (in my teens) nothing really made any sense at all.
Your own question to your answer confuses me as to what the guidelines are, expecting the unexpected isn't a surprise... it's a philosophy.
For me it's the amazing experiences my young friends have had in their lives.
Its natural the mind will act as young while chatting with youngsters. Socializing with people from all walks of life will also enhance our creativity.
by Mygell7 years ago
Many say that it is always the best thing for us to learn.To get indulged into it so as to know what and how it feels .
by DeanKeaton2594 months ago
How long does it take to get over the breakup of a 5 year relationship?She was also my best friend.
by HeatherH1044 years ago
Do you learn more in school or in life making life experiences out of educational goals?
by Sp Greaney5 years ago
Do you think age makes a person more mature?Whether you are 20 or 50 years old, do you think that the older you are, the more smarter you are because you have been through more in life?
by iimscollege7 years ago
Guys what do you think whatever we learn from our school or colleges are we really use them in our life .I generally don't and what about you?????
by Clive Donegal5 years ago
How much practical value did you derive from your education?does college make a dfference anywhere other than applying for a job? How would you compare the value of your education to what you have learned since?
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