Still searching for answers to your individual life?

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   Cagsilposted 15 years ago

   Hey Hubbers,
   
   Not a religious topic and not a political topic, just a general discussion.
   
   I pose this question and have phrased it in the manner I have, for a specific reason.
   
   What that reason is? Well, to be quite honest, there are a lot of questions about life, in general, that have absolutely NO baring on one's life, yet many questions are asked as though there is some inherent value to their own individual existence.
   
   This is mind-boggling to say the least and would like to clarify, if possible.
   
   No personal attacks. No religious garbage. No politics either.
   
   Cagsil

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      B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      yes..and I will always be searching endlessly for answers in my own personal life..
      
      don't we all?

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   Twenty One Daysposted 15 years ago

   in a word: ibid
   
   enjoy the evening my hub friend.

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   lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

   are you asking if we have value to our existence?

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   lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

   sorry, not a game for me.  Thanks nonetheless.

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Didn't say it was a game.

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   AEvansposted 15 years ago

   Life is what you make it you can either run from it or embrace it , it is the choice of an individual in which direction they would go. For me my life is quite fulfilling but I have a long way to go before it is complete.

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   Cagsilposted 15 years ago

   Thank you AEvans, but not exactly what I was looking for. But, much appreciated anyways.

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   lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

   Cagsil, I believe your original post is not clear and that is why you are not getting the responses you were looking for, or opinions.  Maybe you could clarify it for us. Thank you.

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      The thread can die. No biggy. It's not apparently important to begin with. So, I'll see what happens.

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         AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I am going to really read this and reply after I think about the question it is very interesting so the thread will not die.

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            Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            You can let it go. The only thing you have to do is stop posting.

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   Jayne Lancerposted 15 years ago

   This is something of a puzzle.
   Do you mean, for example, asking myself why I am here? Why I do what I do? Say what I say? Am as I am?

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      And, others.

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         Jayne Lancerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Ah! So I'm on the right track?

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            Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            So far, you're doing well. Yes.
            
            Do you know where you came from? Just curious?

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               Jayne Lancerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               Well, although it seems I might have at least half understood your question, I'm still not sure how to answer ...
               
               Do I know where I come from? Before I came to exist? Does anyone know?
               
               If that's it, I'd say there's not much point in thinking about it, because there'll never be a known correct answer anyway.
               
               How's that?

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                  Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  Do you know?
                  
                  
                  Was this a question I asked. I don't think so. Please try not to read anything into what I say or ask. The questions are pretty much straight forward.
                  
                  Another question I didn't ask. And, isn't relevant.

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                     Jayne Lancerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                     OK, so I did only half understand, after all.

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   Sab Ohposted 15 years ago

   Reflection is all well and good, but when it overtakes actually experiencing life the scales tip towards empty self-indulgence. The first point is to live. Pondering takes a far distant backseat.

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      So, you're still searching. Good to know.

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         Sab Ohposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Not 'searching.' That's the point. You find more interesting stuff that way.

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            Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Do you have a purpose for you living? If so, can you please explain?

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               Sab Ohposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               Living is its own purpose.

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                  Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  If that's what you think. Okay.

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                     Sab Ohposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                     Thanks, but I wasn't looking for your approval.

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                        Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                        And, you would have to be insane to think I was giving you my approval. I simply said, "If that is what you think, okay". There is no sign of an approval.
                        
                        Please try not to read anything into what I say.

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                           Sab Ohposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                           That is great. Next time save your "okay" so your fingers don't get tired.

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                              Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                              You have an issue with the way I respond to your posts, then don't take part in the discussion. I've moved on when I said okay. Duh!

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    Cagsilposted 15 years ago

    The question- Still searching for answers to your individual life?
    
    It's a Yes or No question.
    
    If you answer Yes, then I would like to know what you were searching for.
    
    If you answer No, then okay.

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       Jayne Lancerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Then the answer has to be No.

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    Shealy Healyposted 15 years ago

    I believe or at least suspect that most of our lives are spent trying to understand a reason for being here. This searching might lead to pain. Or, this searching might lead to moments of realization.
    
    For me, the reasons for my human existance are basically the close relationships I love and the process of watching them unfold both in success and failure. It does not seem to matter what direction my loved ones are going -it could be good or bad - I feel the need to know their lives. At those times I seem to stop questioning why I am here as I am focused on being filled with love or fear or even anger. I become too busy to wonder. I guess the truth for me is-having a parent, a spouce, children and a few friends allows me to become lost on occasion in my untamed emotions.

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       So, Am I to understand you have the answers you want for your life. Yes? or No?
       
       Just curious.

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          Shealy Healyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Not really. I have relatioships and life work-but I tend to always have some lingering question.

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             Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Would you care to elaborate?

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    Shealy Healyposted 15 years ago

    You know on thinking about this subject a bit more-I tend to think that I am most alive and alert  (as if an inner motor is turne on)to real life when I can access that soul mate connection that I believe we can have with those we are connected to.

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    Cagsilposted 15 years ago

    Okay, I understand.

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    wyanjenposted 15 years ago

    No searching here.
    
    Life is contagious. There is no grand universal scheme.
    
    The only purpose in life is what any given person decides his or her own purpose to be.
    

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you Jen. How are you today?

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          wyanjenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          I'm well
          I'm trying to decide what my purpose will be tomorrow. I believe I will get a large pizza at lunch, and eat all day at work. LOL
          
          Not trying to sound cynical. My purpose in life it to make myself happy.

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             Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Hmmm.....? So, are you self-interest? or Selfish?

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                wyanjenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                I am absolutely, unabashedly, selfish. That is my purpose.
                As in, hell with it!
                
                My old purpose failed, leaving me with nothing further.
                I will now devote my life to making myself happy.

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                   Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   In that case, I don't believe you. And, that's a first for me to say, when it comes to someone I talk to often.
                   
                   I know you are there if Lyrics needs a shoulder or an ear.
                   
                   I know you wouldn't turn me down, if I ask for help or your ear.
                   
                   So, you are not selfish.  You are actually self-interest, which is leading you to self-growth. Thus, helping you to be happy.

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                      Mighty J-Kepposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      well, you  catch me after I take my sleeper, and I get all weird.
                      My purpose is to make happy. Lyrics has my compassion, yes. She is a sweet soul who has endured so much. So, you called me out on that one I guess. But a kind and caring act is not a purpose. It's an example of human compassion, and love for our community.
                      Not the same thing as purpose.
                      <3
                      I guess my purpose then is to try to survive, but I'm not committed to that so much.

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                         Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

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                            wyanjenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                            I'm so sorry

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    Shealy Healyposted 15 years ago

    Okay, one last thought. Imagine you are standing on the side of a street. A car is speeding up this street. Then, you notice a child (maybe your child) is stepping off the curb. At that moment you know exactly what you need to do.
    
    On that level of caring for another human being you don't question what life is all about. You are too filled with the human condition of caring - to wonder.

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Okay, I can do this. I think I can, so I guess I can.
       
       Okay, thinking......imagining........
       
       No, you should know what life is about before you're put into that situation.
       
       It only makes sense, so you can enrich your own life and it's spirituality, and help others to do the same.

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    lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

    yes and no. simple.

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you Lyrics.

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       wyanjenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Hope you are hanging in there kiddo
       
       
       
       As many have said, please feel free to contact me. I have some experience in dealing with this situation.
       
       be well my friend

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          lyricsingrayposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Thank you very much.  It does help

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    wyanjenposted 15 years ago

    My purpose is to make happy. Lyrics has my compassion, yes. She is a sweet soul who has endured so much. So, you called me out on that one I guess. But a kind and caring act is not a purpose. It's an example of human compassion, and love for our community.
    Not the same thing as purpose.
    <3
    I guess my purpose then is to try to survive, but I'm not committed to that so much.

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    Cagsilposted 15 years ago

    

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    wyanjenposted 15 years ago

    I was on my astronomer browser, i didnt realize.

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    wyanjenposted 15 years ago

    I have to go to bed now before everything goes to hell.
    
    I'm sorry. Not feeling good. Meds get me.... mixed up

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Good night Jen.

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          wyanjenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          this sleeping problem needs to improve....
          
          see you tomorrow ray, sleep good buddy

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    skyfireposted 15 years ago

    Still searching for answers to your individual life?
    
    Yes.  I have no idea where i'm going most of time. It's just like i find something and i'm doing something for something that i have no control over.

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       What questions do you have? Curious.
       
       How can you not know where you are going? Are you not planning your future movement? Or You not making your life your own, instead of letting others dictate what you can or cannot do?
       
       I not sure about this, but could you clarify or elaborate a little more?

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          skyfireposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          So many questions. I have made many choices in life and i'm not sure if those are right or wrong (present choices not from past). From experience i learned that not all was in my control.
          
          But i would like to know other than my present profile,what is my aim in life. Career aim looks short term goal most of time and it's not that satisfactory as i planned earlier.
          
          
          Well to some extent i can plan but it's not that i can take decision that completely change things in life. It's just that many parts of my life are dependent on others(family/social-structure) in my life.

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             Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Thank you skyfire. I appreciate your posts. As you know already it can be difficult to figure out which direction is up and down, at times. Even left to right, can be a challenge. However, to make your life move forward in the direction you want to, I would suggest you figure out for yourself, what exactly you want? And, then plan a move forward to learn how to get it. This sometimes can be a challenge in and of itself, for I had that same problem for many years, early in my life.
             
             Then I finally accepted the fact that am only human, I am not perfect. I learned that there are limitations in my life, for which, I saw as huge obstacles, insurmountable. But, when I changed my view, I was able to see choices I hadn't seen before hand.
             
             Hope that helped.

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                skyfireposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Thanks casgil, that does help.

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    mega1posted 15 years ago

    Yes I am!  I am always looking for answers!  Not that I want advice, though.  This has been the theme of my life so far:  shit happens!  I often ask why, and then, if I look around, there is the answer!  Acceptance is the big thing to learn!  and although it seems foolish, being happy with what you have is tricky, but maybe that is the main answer -- be happy with what you have (while you go after more!)

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Interesting take. Thank you for your input. Much appreciated.

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    tobey100posted 15 years ago

    Cagsil, not being sarcastic here.  Three words to live by.  Get. Over. Yourself.  Not you personally.  In my lifetime people have gone from living to analyzing life to the point its not worth living.  I have one motto that's served me through thick and thin.  "Take it as it comes"  Fight through the tough spots, enjoy the good spots and for God's sake don't develop such angst over what life 'means' you forget to live.

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       A Texanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       My personal favorite
       
       "Keep it simple, stupid!"

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          Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Agreed. There are just too many things that are outside our control.

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          tobey100posted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Let's all bow our heads and say 'AMEN'
          Best answer yet Tex!

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          lyricsingrayposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          I Love You

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       Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I agree with most of what you said, except for "God's" sake. But, there are ways to avoid some of the traps that come toward you, that you might not see as a trap. Such, as things that have absolutely no value on your life and really don't need your attention, but you give attention to. This can make you waste of lot of time on this that are not beneficial to your own self-growth.

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    WriteAngledposted 15 years ago

    Yes. I ask questions about a lot of things. For example, why I keep repeating certain behaviours and situations, when these have negative consequences. I finally discovered that one reason was my perhaps excessive preoccupation with financial and emotional security. So I took a couple of decisions that compromised my security. The first decision has already worked out really well in giving me a freedom I did not have before, although it still leaves me financially insecure. The second decision placed me in hell for the last two years and strongly threatened my emotional and even physical security, but I stuck with it, even though it terrified me at times and despite friends arguing against it. Only very recently, the tide has finally started showing signs of reversing and I am starting to have hope again. Further self-questioning is suspended for calmer times

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    kirstenblogposted 15 years ago

    The simplest questions are the most profound
    Where were you born?
    Where is your home?
    Where are you going?
    What are you doing?
    Think about these once in awhile, and watch your answers change
    
    
    
    From the book, Illusions the Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah
    

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       tobey100posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Sorry.  Thought about it, answer's the same.  We need to get over ourselves.

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    lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

    yes. now more than ever. ironic.

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