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Preparing for death

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    Over The Hillposted 7 years ago

    Any day I may die due to sickness,so eternal matters are on my mind everyday. Given my lot in life,how would you deal with it on a personal, private level?

    Regardless of all things, I am still nervous and wondering about the actual event.
         It`s different when it`s you.

    1. LSKing profile image79
      LSKingposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I'm sorry to hear about your sickness. Someone recently passed that I knew and she was so peaceful and actually excited. She believed that she would go to heaven and see all of her family that passed before her. She gave us such a positive view on death that no one hardly cried at her funeral. Everyone just kept on saying how ready she was to go. It made it easy on her children and loved ones. Maybe you could find comfort in people going through the same thing. Positive people who are willing to listen. Once again, I'm sorry about your sickness and I really hope that you find peace and comfort.

    2. stilljustwonderin profile image61
      stilljustwonderinposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I'm sorry to hear of your suffering.  I will remember you in my prayers.

      I can't really speak for myself having never been in your situation.  We can only say what we "think" we would do.

      Right before my husbands cousin passed, she called every one she knew.  She told them that she loved them and ask them to forgive her if she had ever said or done anything to offend.

      I have read your past posts.  I know you are a person of faith.  So, you know that God knows what is in your heart.

      Hang onto your knowledge that you will not die.  You will be stepping thru a door into a pain free, tremendously loving new life.

      God Bless

    3. kess profile image61
      kessposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      One should never make preparation for death.
      Cause death is that which does not exist.

      It not too late to begin to Live, for Life has no end.

    4. pennyofheaven profile image77
      pennyofheavenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think it’s ok to be nervous or fearful of the unknown. None of us never really know.

      I can only share with you what my mums experience was before she passed. Mum was raised in a Christian/Maori faith based religion. She believed in God. I will try and make it brief.

      The morning before she passed she was struggling to breathe. I thought this was surely going to be her last breath. All of a sudden a peace seemed to descend over her. After four months of deteriorating she magically had all her full faculties about her. She was normal as far as I could tell and would have believed it if it wasn’t for the veils still in her eyes.

      Excitedly she looked right through me and started talking to someone behind me. Of course there was no one there that my eyes could see. I pleaded with her to not listen to them. I demanded to know what they were saying.  I demanded to whomever that they go away and told them that they couldn’t take her now.

      Just as suddenly as it began, it started to wane. The peace started to leave and her struggle to breathe started coming back.

      She started to weep, but the amazing thing was they were not tears of pain or sadness they were tears of pure joy. In awe, I asked her why she was crying. To which she replied, it’s all true, everything they say is all true. There is so much love. More than you can imagine. Your Dad is there. You will all be there when I go and I will feel all your love. There is only love there she cried. She passed away later that night.

      Seconds before she went in to a coma (I wasn’t there) she still had fear. I wonder to this day whether the fear was more fear of what bodily pain she would have to endure.

      And just as she said we would be, we were all there. The only brother and his 7 children that were missing that morning felt an urgent need to travel up to where we were and nothing was going to stop him. He arrived in time. So there we all were 12 brothers and sisters and 42 Grandchildren at her bedside in the hospital as she slipped through the door. While there was sadness there was also the love we all felt for our precious mum.

      When it is your time, may you experience peace and love on your journey in to the unknown!

      Much love and strength to you.

  2. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    This sounds hypothetical but I'm going to answer it, good question.

    I've seen or heard of the most religious people who are on their death bed (or who think they've been good) and are frightened which is really a paradox.

    So, to make this short,

    If I were gonna die,

    first of all, I am not sure if there is a God or not, sometimes, yes that may shock some of you.

    I'm trying to have more control over my mind these days.

    I would prpare as I normally would and then : I'd do both, do what anyone would do, and see a priest.