Dressed or sloppy?

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   Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years ago

   Do men prefer their women dressed up or dressed down? And why?

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      bBereanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think you are setting yourself up for an obvious reply that I will refrain from providing. 
      
      My real answer is I prefer a woman appropriately dressed for whatever occasion, and comfortable in whatever that is.  Not being flip there, I am sincere.  I am rarely asked for input, and my wife always chooses and represents herself well.

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         Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Actually, I don't think there is an obvious answer to this question. I think there are some real differences of opinion to this question and I honestly am looking for an honest response. Thanks for your response.

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            bBereanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I apologize for my dry delivery.  The first sentence was intended as a joke.  Go to any Superbowl party this weekend and ask a room full of men your question, and you will likely hear the response I was referencing. 
            
            Perhaps I missed your point a bit though.  If you mean by default, in a normal daily environment, I would say it depends a lot on the woman.  Her personality completes the look.  I don't want to see someone trying to be something their not...it comes across as unrealistic and insincere.

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               Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Yes, I get your dry humor but wasn't for sure if that was where you were going ...
               I know of many different expectations for women's appearance and there seems to be a double standard at times.

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      The0NatureBoyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Personally, Naomi, my preference is for girls -- the egg producers of man which means they are adults -- to be as close to what they would be without the training of civilization on how they should look.  The reason is I know they are strong in character and without much baggage to interfere with the relationship.

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         Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I think people should dress how they personally feel like dressing as long as they are appropriate for where thy are and who they are.

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            The0NatureBoyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            You can tell by my photo's appearance I do and am right at the borderline of indecency, but I'm the joyous person you are likely to meet with no baggage whatsoever.

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               Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               To boast of no baggage is wonderful. I have carried baggage over the years and I must say it is not the way to walk in life and be happy. I do have memories but try not to let them control my decisions in life.

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                  The0NatureBoyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  I objectively analyzed my memories to find the message in them which eliminated the baggage and made me free.  As a philosophy -- lover of wisdom who will pay any price for it -- I've discovered life is a learning process and every act not constantly repeated are there for their lessons, those constantly repeated are a karma debts.

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                     Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     Since insanity is doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results I embarked on a journey several years ago to change my destiny of repeated mistakes. I must say it was the best thing I ever did for myself in letting go of baggage and learning from my choices that brought me pain. I too strive for wisdom and find a solace in it.
                     I don't believe in karma. I believe we create our own destiny by making good or bad choices.

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                        The0NatureBoyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        I recognize a preordained destiny because I don't accept the one life and then nothing following it.  It's like, if our actions are lessons to be learned from then each incarnation has a lesson to be learned from them, the only difference is we don't learn the purpose of many incarnation's lessons until it's time to leave earth's plane as a living being or soul -- body and lifeforce so integrated they can neither be harmed as we know harm[i]. 
                        
                        Examples. 
                        [i]If you have never killed anyone or been killed by anyone how would you understand the cause and emotions of those experiences? 
                        If you never sold your body for the pleasure of a boy or was a boy buying the body of a girl for the pleasure of it how would you under the cause and emotions behind them? 
                        If you were never raped or were never a rapist how could you sympathizer with either?   
                        If you were never homeless how can you sympathize with them? 
                        
                        We have to incarnate and perform all actions every person performs to learn the lessons, causes and effects, of those experiences.

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   livewithrichardposted 12 years ago

   I expect the women I date to dress for the occasion and to dress their age.  I assume, since you specified "their women" to mean significant others and not co-workers or colleagues.  At least for the women I date, the clothes make the woman, not the makeup.  If we're going out to the pub with friends or to watch the game then jeans and ball cap are fine.  If we're going to out to a casual dinner then casual clothing... etc   There is no way I would want her dressing slutty (not in public anyway) and by slutty I mean wearing clothes that are not age appropriate, too small or tight, or leave little to the imagination.

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      Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, shouldn't a lady be allowed to dress however she likes? Don't men dress the way they like? I agree women should dress appropriate for the occasion and some do dress to show off their body, nonetheless I don't think it is the right of another human being to dictate how another dresses. I agree the choice is yours as to what kind of person you choose to be with. If you choose wisely you will choose someone who fits your desires of appropriateness.

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         livewithrichardposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Excuse me, but your OP asked what I preferred so don't criticize me for giving you an honest answer.  I don't dictate how my dates will dress, but then I am also lucky that I choose to be with women that are mature and confident.  My dates have never seen me looking like a slob or dressing inappropriate outside the home, not even to go shopping, so I expect the same from them.  I'm a reflection on them to their friends and vice versa. It comes down to communication, something that is lacking in many relationships.  If there is good communication then there is a mutual respect and no need to be concerned about how each other dresses.

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            Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Did I sound critical, I didn't mean to be.  Guess I reacted a little to the " slutty " comment.
            I do agree some women dress a little too risqué and while that might be fine alone together when the time is right it certainly isn't appropriate when out together in public.
            I really am interested in how different men from different walks of life see things from a different point of view. I do think that if your woman doesn't know how to be appropriate then she needs a little guidance.
            I am curious how would you approach this with our hurting her feelings?

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               bBereanposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Dealing with men or women, positive reinforcement by complimenting what you like, works.  Compliments make people feel good and they want more, so they adjust on their own to get them.  Critiquing is dangerous and must be handled delicately if employed at all.  Were talking about the most personal relationships and couples do, or should, want to please each other.  Often people don't realize that what may seem like a simple and honest comment is perceived by their spouse as an attack or rejection, precisely because they want so much to please them.  Too many of those and the determination will be made you can't be pleased and the effort to do so will evaporate.  Often the relationship will go with it.  Compliment and encourage what you like.  Bite your tongue, but don't encourage what you don't.

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                  Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Very good! I like that answer. If I thought the guy was genuine then of course I would want to please him by wearing what he thought would better compliment the occasion. Good answer.

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            livewithrichardposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I would be up front and frank if I thought the way she was dressing wasn't right for the occasion.  I would tell her that I don't feel comfortable with what she is wearing.  I don't want her wearing something she would wear to the club when we go to a dinner or office party but I'm more than comfortable with here wearing that sort of attire when we do go clubbing.

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               Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               I like the honesty part. If you Re going to have an honest relationship then you must communicate your likes and dislikes and be honest about it. Sometimes I think guys are so afraid of the reaction they don't let a girl know she is dressed a little inappropriate for the occasion. Not all girls are so immature they won't listen to a guys direction. That request should be made with tact though.

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   Stina Caxeposted 12 years ago

   I prefer my man to let me dress the way I want to dress... and if I am having a bad day and choose to dress in sweats or jeans and a t-shirt, I prefer my man to tell me I look hot. 

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      Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Stinas that is exactly how I feel. I dislike when someone feels they can force someone to be something different then who they are. I guess if you are with a mature person then they already know what's appropriate and should have to be coached as to how to dress. Frankly appearance is overrated in my opinion.

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   bethperryposted 12 years ago

   Can I assume naked and chained to the stove or bed isn't a choice?

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      Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hahaha very cute...

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   AbFreak101posted 12 years ago

   Sweat Pants a tank top and some makeup thats the best look

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      Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That sounds cool if your just hanging out but what if you plan to go to a fine restaurant or church?

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         AbFreak101posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         then yoga pants and ugz and a hoodie lol that works for me thats HOT!

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            Naomi's Bannerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I believe you gave a sense if humor!

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