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What should older women never wear?

  1. elayne001 profile image65
    elayne001posted 7 years ago

    As I get older (grandmother), I am aware that some of my clothes are outdated and do not look age appropriate for me. I still like to look fashionable, but do not want to put people off by wearing things that look like I am trying to turn back the years too far. What do you think?

    1. 6hotfingers3 profile image60
      6hotfingers3posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      This s a great question. I would never wear thong undies. I see younger girls thong undies showing above their jeans and it is not attractive at all. They are the undies that will show no matter what you wear. Not for older women.

      I would not wear push-up bras. I want people to talk to me and not to my boobs. Push-up bras confuses men. They can't see your face.

    2. Ivorwen profile image74
      Ivorwenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Short shorts.  I don't care how thin you are.

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think older women should never wear what someone else tells them is appropriate. You should wear whatever you feel comfortable wearing.

      1. SuperCC profile image58
        SuperCCposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Wow yes thats a really great reply!

      2. Flightkeeper profile image73
        Flightkeeperposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Well I think observers should get some input.  Or at least a warning if a lady of magnificent age and bulk wears a cropped tee that bares a magnificent midriff that overhangs her daisy duke shorts.  We do have to see her you know wink

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          DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          hahahahaha!! The woman who lives across the street from me is about 65. She is probably five foot, five. And maybe....250 pounds. She is frequently seen, by me, in a bright pink tube top. Of course its not a sight I enjoy, but hey, she raised 5 kids, worked hard all her life, and wants to wear a tube top. I say good for her, not caring what a bunch of strangers think.

          A courtesy "tube top day" warning would be nice tho.

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      jca197493@yahoo.cposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I am all about wearing age appropriate clothing.I am 35 and work hard to stay fit. I can honestly say that bootie shorts are not in my wardrobe!I wear what I feel makes me feel beautiful and confident.I do not like the look of spillage,this is when a woman wears clothing two sizes small. Not cool. You have to know what is good on YOUR shape.

    5. cocoa26 profile image57
      cocoa26posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think older women should stop wearing lingerie tops with jeans which isn't cute. And also belly shirts....well maybe this is for all ages if your not working out and looking flabby around the mid-section. lol

    6. Stevennix2001 profile image92
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      forget about disco!

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      lilyrenposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Everyone has the right to pursue fashion and beauty.Old man is not an exception.However you just need to consider which style is really appropriate for your own body shape.I have seen some old women are trying to learn how to style synthetic wig from http://www.hairwigsall.com/categories/Synthetic-Wigs/ because they suffer from hair loss and want to cover it.

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      AshleyDMoshreposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I think, older women's shouldn't wear this bootcut skinny jeans that trending nowadays. http://www.fzillion.com/women/women-s-c … jeans.html

    9. Diana Abrahamson profile image49
      Diana Abrahamsonposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      The thing that I will not wear is a pair of  jeans with holes all over them. Just would feel totally uncomfortable in them.

      1. gmwilliams profile image86
        gmwilliamsposted 19 months agoin reply to this

        An attitude of resignation.

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    Gracie Sophiaposted 7 years ago

    I am feeling your pain. I no longer wear bib shorts, shiny black high-top boots, short-short skirts, really tight blouses, halter tops (not in public). However, I haven't made it to polyester either. I don't show cleavage in public. I still like bright colors.

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      Home Girlposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      As long as you have something still left that you can call a figure, you probably can wear fashionable clothes without looking ridiculous. Though when I see a women 60+ dressed in pink all over... Well, in my opinion, if you are older, you better wear more conservative and  - well- more expensive, more tailored clothes if you can. Old jeans and faded t-shirt are not going to work. You have to spend more time in front of your mirror if your want to look nice. Just nice. What else can you ask for?

      1. travelespresso profile image80
        travelespressoposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Why should you no longer wear bright clothes?  If they suited you when you were younger, why change as you age?  Sorry, but that just doesn't make sense to me. smile

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        jrjozposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I have to agree with travelespresso 100%.  I don't view color.. bright, pastel or otherwise as a prerequisite to/of any age.  I'm  5' 4" tall, I fluctuate in weight from107 - 115lbs. and  wear sizes 0 - 1, X-Small and Small, 34DD with no drooping/sagging whatsoever, and abs and thighs that look better than most teenage girls. I can also wear anywhere from 10 n- 12 in little girls sizes and bikinis, thongs and spandex/cotton blends are quite wearable for me.  I'm not overly thin, just small framed.  As a Florida native, I have a great tan and waist length blonde hair with multiple, natural, highlights and lowlights, which means I need color, with red as my favorite.  However, I do still wear bright and/or pastel, pink Tee shirts (and many other colors, with the exception neons) with blue jeans and accessorize with matching pink, stillettos, purses and belts.  My eyes vary in color from blue to green to grey. The only make-up I  wear is mascara and lipcolor, if I go out at night, I add eyeliner.  I am constantly refusing men, who ask me out, aged anywhere from mid - twenties to about mid - fifties because I married the man I will spend the rest of my life with when I was 27 yrs. old, that was 24 yrs. ago.  I'm now 50 yrs. old, most people believe I'm in my late 20's to early 30's.  If I do half as well as my mother has, she's 75 and has lung cancer, I won't look more than 50 when I'm 80. I love being a woman and being able to accentuate that fact, naturally, using clothing as my only tool.  Who says your face has to be your artist's palette?  Why, would I stop wearing color now?  Or spiky stilletto heels or mini skirts?

        P.S.  I also have two children, three grandkids, I fish, go scalloping, lobster diving and dress in full camos while deer hunting every year, am President w/90% stock ownership and qualifying agent of a corporation and am state certified/licensed as a Fl. state contractor.  Who could ask for anything more?

    2. donotfear profile image89
      donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


      Ha! This sounds like me!

    3. emmlouise profile image57
      emmlouiseposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Oh Dear!!!

      This is where you ladies are unlucky.  As a crossdresser I can wear what I like.  In my mid-fifties I can still wear short skirts on my nicely shaped legs or classic clothes generally acknowledged as being, "more suitable".  Fortunately, although I am alone and lonely, I can at least please myself about clothing rather than worry about convention

  3. Len Cannon profile image90
    Len Cannonposted 7 years ago

    Clothing.

    Wait I did it wrong.

  4. IzzyM profile image91
    IzzyMposted 7 years ago

    I am older, and wear jeans and T-shirts, and no longer have the figure for it, but hey? Who gives a f* !
    Does it matter? Yeah it would be lovely to wear expensive well-cut clothes but it's not going to happen because I'm never going to be able to afford it, so why worry!

  5. Flightkeeper profile image73
    Flightkeeperposted 7 years ago

    Thong bikinis.

  6. raisingme profile image83
    raisingmeposted 7 years ago

    Spandex!!!!

    Seriously, I have considered this too and find it a difficult dilemma as I have a very small frame it has always been difficult for me to "dress my age".  When I was younger I couldn't dress old enough and now I still can't dress my age.  My test for age appropriate is when I offer to lend something to one of my to daughters and they turn up their noses and tell me it's too old for them - then I know I'm on the right track.

    1. nlowman profile image60
      nlowmanposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Spandex should be illegal for all ages.

      1. Ivorwen profile image74
        Ivorwenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Precisely!

        1. Milla Mahno profile image72
          Milla Mahnoposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          This spandex is cute though big_smile

          http://www.mtbshorts.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/Spandex.jpg

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    Precious Williamsposted 7 years ago

    I'm nearly 50 and frankly I'm never giving up my six inch heels.  I only wear black, grey or white, but that's my choice.  Colour makes me feel ill. Izzy is absolutely right - you shouldn't care a f...!  If you havve the confidence to wear something and it makes you feel good then that's all that counts.  I have designer clothes and cheap high street and I used to make my own.  I mix things up and I look different and you know I love it.

  8. tantrum profile image60
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    ATC UK thinks just the same as you ! wink

  9. saddlerider1 profile image69
    saddlerider1posted 7 years ago

    Well I think a lady will do whatever she wants regardless of style and still wear the wide brim purple hat and not have a care in the world, I guess she figures she's earned the right to wear whatever she darn well pleases as she ages:0))))

  10. ediggity profile image60
    ediggityposted 7 years ago

    Never wear your heart on your sleeve, or tie dye.

  11. torimari profile image70
    torimariposted 7 years ago

    I say wear what makes you feel happy, and comfortable. Show cleavage, or don't--wear bright colors or heels. Wear flats. Whatever your age.

    I really admire the women in their 60s at my gym who come in, in there spandex pants and T-shirts. The fact they are exercising as much as they do, and shameless, I don't know...doesn't turn me off, but is admirable.

  12. donotfear profile image89
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Heck, I really don't care. I wear tie-dye shirts all the time, in public. I like flare leg, boot cut jeans. I love fringe....I have a fringe purse & deerskin fringe jacket.  Bright colors are welcome! Those low-ride jeans can be tricky.  They go just under the tummy bulge & you can see the bump. That can get gross looking with a tight shirt.  I find it a little weird wearing a shirt you can see through. Completely...no way would I be caught wearing a see-through shirt. Lots of em out there.  Then there's those oh-so-plunging necklines.  No no....honey, not for me. I don't feel like wearing push-ups in my bra to make em look fuller. I like an 'A' just fine.  I will never wear NO HOSE with a short evening dress. For you younger chicks, that's fine, you got air brushed tan legs.  We old chickens have too many spider veins mapping our legs, especially on the upper thighs. I'd consider 'no hose' with a knee length dress maybe.

    Yeah, yeah. I'm the old chicken on the block. What never gets too old: A solid blazer, khakis & a button-up shirt.

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      jrjozposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Awww, donotfear (and other women), you worry about such trivial things as a little tummy pooch and spider veins, what strikes me as more than a little funny about this, is that I see and notice more teen girls who have ugly, thite and or purple, awful stretch marks on their upper arm, abs, thighs and calves (probably on their butts, too!).  you know, when I was a teen, any amount of 'fat' was considered way too much!  Very taboo!young girls who were overweight were the minority, not the majority, more often than not, they were outcasts.We (myself and most teen girls I knew), were very active.  We weren't of this new breed of computer aged young wmen who are content to be extremely, lazy, couch potatoes, cntent to waste their time indoors, sitting on their bums, always eating, ever so steadily gaining oz. by oz.  Funny thing about that, ounces, eventually become pounds.  There was a time when I worried that I should not (not that I could not) wear certain items of clothing because I was under the impression that I shouldn't wear these items due to my age.  However, I was forced to change this mindset, because if I wear misses or women's clothing, they hang so loosely on me, that I very closely resemble the appearance of a bag lady, minus the shopping cart.  So...my grown-up look became junior's wear - all that you and most women of my age steer clear of. 

      You seem quite content with khaki, that's fine, not an issue on my part.  What I do take issue with, is your love (?) of button down shirts/blouses - I can only pull this off in the bedroom! - otherwise the few buttons that close at the bustline, gape openas if I hadn't bothered to button them at all.  See through blouses or Tees, don't bother me unless they are skin bearing lace, plunging necklines or spaghetti strapped tanks?  No problem.

      Hmm, I'm not opposed to fringe or suede, I wear neither, even on my biker leathers - although, a few laces look nice here or there and you betcha', I will and do still wear tye dye Tee shirts and or dresses/skirts!

      IMO, I believe it comes down to 'loving the skin you're in'.  I really wish women of ALL ages would face their respective, private, inner demons and just wear what you want, because in all reality, being comfortable is a BIG part of your appearance...and your appearance, of course, plays a major role in how you feel about yourself, which in turn, plays a major role in your appearance...oh, wait!  I already mentioned the latter, didn't I?  It's a vicious cycle.  Time to come to terms with who we are, ladies!

  13. Joy56 profile image60
    Joy56posted 7 years ago

    you should never ever wear a tight perm ugh, they are horrible at any age....

  14. Glimmer515 profile image75
    Glimmer515posted 7 years ago

    nothing from the 80's!!! No low rise jeans and no super low cut shirts!

  15. jondav profile image70
    jondavposted 7 years ago

    lol @ Len

    I would advise ageing women not to wear the following:

    jockstraps
    leotards
    baseball caps
    thongs
    too much makeup

  16. kmackey32 profile image61
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    Who cares what other people think about what you wear... Wear what makes you happy...

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely!  You are 100% right on kmackey32!  We should all wear what makes us happy, even if that's nothing at all.

      Doesn't matter what you wear at any age, there will always be some busybody or know-it-all out there who will have something to say about it so you might as well do what you want right out of the gate.

      1. oscillationatend profile image59
        oscillationatendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        http://lh3.ggpht.com/_BRMr2D3unLI/TCOOCSzyJ8I/AAAAAAAAAQo/MwAS1ARbhFw/s400/wha.jpg

        1. EmpressFelicity profile image76
          EmpressFelicityposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Not to mention:

          http://www.fatlossbyeatingwhatuwant.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/muffin-top11.jpg

          1. oscillationatend profile image59
            oscillationatendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            EGADS!

            DO NOT WANT!

            CAN'T UNSEE!

            Thank bob I've a Unicorn Chaser!

            http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mPPvDrR1

            *drinks*

            Now, what was I worried about?

            *looks up*

            OH GOD!

            DO NOT WANT....

            1. EmpressFelicity profile image76
              EmpressFelicityposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              ::looks sheepish::

              Sorry. *Cough*  lol

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            Home Girlposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Don't tell me this lady should wear whatever she wants! And she has to loose a lot right away. It's gross.

          3. couturepopcafe profile image61
            couturepopcafeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Muffin top?  I think it's the whole muffin.

            1. paradigmsearch profile image94
              paradigmsearchposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              Loose clothing was invented for a reason… smile

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          Home Girlposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          And this pink grandma is just ridiculous. But she is probably too old to see the difference. At 50 you still can wear pretty much whatever you want if you are not grossly overweight.

  17. katiem2 profile image60
    katiem2posted 7 years ago

    It depends on your shape, if your in shape or not, I'm into fitness and am in better shape than many kids I know... Just saying if you feel good in your body you feel good in your clothes. 

    Wear what you feel GOOD in!  smile wink

    1. luvpassion profile image60
      luvpassionposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree; however the constant coloring of hair isn't good, this is why so many elderlyn women's hair appears to have a blue tint.

      1. katiem2 profile image60
        katiem2posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Amen, the natural grey or white is best... good point smile

  18. Greek One profile image75
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    photo ID that lists their age

  19. waynet profile image79
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    Clothes....ding dong!

  20. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Women who are over the age of 70 should never wear 4" heels. lol

  21. profile image48
    jayakolposted 7 years ago

    Hmmm..my only advice is age is in the mind. So wear what you feel like but at the same time use your wisdom related to age to find out wjat suits you. Best of luck!!smile

  22. Karen N profile image60
    Karen Nposted 7 years ago

    I would say that you should wear whatever makes you happy.

  23. camlo profile image88
    camloposted 7 years ago

    When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple

    with a red hat that doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.

    And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves

    and satin candles, and say we've no money for butter.

    I shall sit down on the pavement when I am tired

    and gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells

    and run my stick along the public railings

    and make up for the sobriety of my youth.

    I shall go out in my slippers in the rain

    and pick the flowers in other people's gardens

    and learn to spit.



    You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat

    and eat three pounds of sausages at a go

    or only bread and pickles for a week

    and hoard pens and pencils and beer nuts and things in boxes.



    But now we must have clothes that keep us dry

    and pay our rent and not swear in the street

    and set a good example for the children.

    We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

    But maybe I ought to practice a little now?

    So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised

    When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.


    By Jenny Joseph

  24. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    individual fashion choices should just remain subjective - do what you want and what you think looks good - letting society make the choices for you is absurd!  You know what you look good in!  Make sure you have a full length mirror and let it tell you what you should or shouldn't wear.

  25. waynet profile image79
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    Those skin tight leggings, especially if they feel comfortable as they tend to always wear them even on nights out and do I cringe...why yes I do, especially if they has been eating pies and have a touch of the cellulite infestations!!

  26. Flightkeeper profile image73
    Flightkeeperposted 7 years ago

    Daisy Dukes

    1. vocalcoach profile image98
      vocalcoachposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Heavy makeup is a no no - especially dark red lipstick.  Mini skirts should not be worn unless leggings are used, but leggings can be rediculous as well.  Low cut blouses are in bad taste. I think a classic, comfortable style works for most older women and jeans work for everyone - but be ware of "muffin top".

  27. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    hanging blouse where the navel is showing and micro mini plus low waisted pants with belts buckles etc, hehe

    Just kidding, they can wear anything as long as their grandchildren approved of it and they smile when they are with them...

  28. waynet profile image79
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    Some older women shouldn't wear clothes, but some need to!! big_smile

  29. miss_jkim profile image80
    miss_jkimposted 7 years ago

    Mini Skirts and Go Go Boots. Please, for the love of god, grow old gracefully!

  30. Greek One profile image75
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    they should never strap on the husband of another woman...

    just not classy

  31. Sweetsusieg profile image85
    Sweetsusiegposted 7 years ago

    Gee, fashion for someone age appropriate... Grandma style??  Hmmm, for me I just hope to find an un-stained shirt..  Since my girls all borrow my clothes then return them when they are stained.  Hmmm, ya know I think I'm in the wrong forum..

  32. emmlouise profile image57
    emmlouiseposted 7 years ago

    As a cross-dresser, age is not really relevant.  I know that whatever I wear probably looks daft so I choose clothes I like and feel good and my shoes all have between 3" and 4" heels

  33. gracenotes profile image91
    gracenotesposted 7 years ago

    Must confess, I've never liked long hair on ladies of a certain age.  It ages them -- unless they have perfect features.  Cher is someone who gets by with it.

    If they have the rare colorist who can make their hair appear natural with color, go for it! (if you've got the $$ to support your habit).  Most of us, in my opinion, look better with gray, white, silver hair -- whatever nature affords us!

    Also, older women shouldn't wear matched suits or outdated eyeglasses.

  34. profile image0
    Precious Williamsposted 7 years ago

    I don't think there is anything "older woman" shouldn't wear.  Besides what is 'older' woman.  It's all subjective.  Some people have the ability to wear almost anything, because they have absolute assurance about the way they look and carry it off.  That can happen at any age. Jane Fonda recently was criticised in the press when she wore torn jeans.  So who said torn jeans are for the young?  They weren't may taste - but I just thought she looked fab.  She was wearing what she wanted to wear - good for her.  So should we all.  I wear 6 inch wedge shoes and I'm nearly fifty, I wear very quirky clothes and I look great.  I get lots of compliments - but if I didn't and someone wants to call me a mad older woman - fine.  I shall be wearing those shoes until they carry me out in a coffin.

  35. yenajeon profile image80
    yenajeonposted 7 years ago

    I say go for a stylish, appropriate and classy look. Stick with gorgeous pieces that have good tailoring.

    Things to avoid:
    mini-skirts, shorts, glitter trends, see-through anything

    Things to embrace:
    lace, floral, structured dresses, slimming slacks, knee-length skirts, cashmere!

  36. Disturbia profile image60
    Disturbiaposted 7 years ago

    Wear what you like, when you like it and tell the fashion police to go jump in the lake.  You only live once, enjoy!   After all, 100 years from now, no one will care.

  37. profile image52
    traderstoneposted 7 years ago

    Wear what make you feel comfortable , wear the style that you like, it will be OK.

  38. FashionFame profile image61
    FashionFameposted 7 years ago

    just go for that which you think you can carry off well. But just to mention, don't go for weird headgears, short shorts or skirts and cut out dresses.

  39. Mighty Mom profile image86
    Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

    MOM JEANS!!!

  40. EatLovePray profile image58
    EatLovePrayposted 7 years ago

    Shimmer eyeshadow, as it gets in the folds of the wrinkles..and defines them! Rather than making them look younger, it makes them look older! I read this yesterday in a book.. big_smile

  41. saleheensblog profile image61
    saleheensblogposted 7 years ago

    Anything dark especially blue has an aging effect.

    1. CASE1WORKER profile image74
      CASE1WORKERposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I am now replacing my wardrobe with light colours

      pink?

  42. Karen N profile image60
    Karen Nposted 7 years ago

    They should never wear Daisy Dukes.  smile

  43. Fashion Lover profile image56
    Fashion Loverposted 7 years ago

    No shorts! Older women should wear tailored pants and nicely fitted but comfortable and chic sweaters from JCrew and classic dresses from Michael Kors.

    1. camlo profile image88
      camloposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Isn't that a bit boring?
      I know a lot of very chic older women. Some of them are 70 or more, have great figures, are perfectly styled, and can still wear whatever they like.
      I don't think any of this has anything to do with age, but with how well maintained - a 25-year-old with cellulite looks terrible in shorts or a mini skirt.

  44. frogdropping profile image86
    frogdroppingposted 7 years ago

    A much younger man.

    1. shazwellyn profile image44
      shazwellynposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I disagree wink

  45. MissE profile image82
    MissEposted 7 years ago

    Shirts and shorts shorter than right above the knee, mid- thigh at the shortest, leggings, skinny jeans with Ugg boots, & big floral monstrosities should never be worn outside of the house.  Oh and anything from the Juniors department, even if you can fit into it.

  46. tobey100 profile image60
    tobey100posted 7 years ago

    20 year old guys!

  47. couturepopcafe profile image61
    couturepopcafeposted 7 years ago

    All I know is that I'm too old to be disrespected.  With age should come the wisdom of modesty. I just want to be comfortable but yes, still want to be somewhat fashionable as designated by my own style.  Problem:  those d**mn hot flashes.

  48. pylos26 profile image79
    pylos26posted 7 years ago

    Lose that BLUE hairdo.

  49. Lisa HW profile image78
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    I see a whole lot of young women walking around in clothes they really shouldn't be wearing either, at least if someone gives a rat's bottom what she looks like...     I don't think, for the most part, what someone wears is about age.  It's about wearing something that makes them (and their shape) look best.  (Maybe a super-mini skirt looks kind of stupid on someone who looks over a certain age - and all pink tutus are out for anyone over four.  Other than that, I think it depends on a person's shape, not age.  I see a lot of young girls who make themselves look 40 by showing flaws that would be better left hidden.  Basically, women ought to let the mirror be their guide.  If their head looks too much in contrast to whatever outfit it's sitting on top of, find something that doesn't make the head look so much in contrast.  lol

  50. waynet profile image79
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    Clothes!!!! Particularly if they are an attractive older woman....lets have an ogle at em! big_smile

 
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