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Is It Cruel Or Cool To Have A Baby's Ears Pierced?

  1. jimmythejock profile image87
    jimmythejockposted 5 years ago

    Is It Cruel Or Cool To Have A Baby's Ears Pierced?

  2. Learning in Life profile image94
    Learning in Lifeposted 5 years ago

    I'm actually on the fence about it even though I had my daughter's ears pierced at 2 months. She screamed for about 2 minutes, Daddy hugged her and she was fine. It really didn't seem that cruel. But, at the same time- who am I to choose how to modify my child's body? She could have done it herself when she got older if she wanted to.

  3. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    While I have no objection to pierced ears, I don't think as parents we have the right to make holes in a child's body for decoration. When they are old enough to make that choice and can take care of them - the by all means.

  4. point2make profile image80
    point2makeposted 5 years ago

    I believe it is a form of child abuse as the practice is solely for the vanity and unbelievable selfishness of the parent. The child gets no say in this cruelty that is forced upon its" body. Shame on parents who choose to inflict such pain and suffering on their child.

    1. William F. Torpey profile image77
      William F. Torpeyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed, In fact, I can't help but question the judgment of anyone who abuses oneself for mere vanity. I find it repulsive, not decorative.

  5. MickS profile image74
    MickSposted 5 years ago

    I think it is pathetic, leave that sort of decision for the child when it is old enough to make an inteligent, informed choice.

    1. Sophia-LeAnne profile image62
      Sophia-LeAnneposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      "pathetic" is a little harsh.

  6. cjpooja26 profile image65
    cjpooja26posted 5 years ago

    Its not cruel but I think we should leave this decision to them. when they are old enough they will decide on their own.

    1. Sharicey profile image61
      Shariceyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed!  Its not fair but its not cruel.

  7. Diana Lee profile image83
    Diana Leeposted 5 years ago

    I think they should have the right to make up their own mind about having their ears pierced. I never cared to have my own done, but I allowed my daughter to get her's done when she was old enough to ask. Cruel or Cool? Inflicting pain on another is cruel.

  8. Tonipet profile image85
    Tonipetposted 5 years ago

    Ear piercing is beautiful for girls but I think not the right time for a baby. It's a pity watching her cry for something not yet suitable her age. She can have ears pierced when she grows older, that way she is big enough to understand, decide and handle things with care.

  9. Sharicey profile image61
    Shariceyposted 5 years ago

    I do not have children but as a child my ears were pierced. I don't even remember it. So I don't think it falls under cruelty or abuse. I don't regret or wish that my mother never did it. It didn't impact my life negatively as a child or as an adult. All in all I would say ear piercing is not particularly harmful or detrimental. Not enough to call a parent cruel.  It is selfish to force a child to get a piercing for no other reason than pure vanity. But I don't think its cruel or equates to child abuse.

    1. Sophia-LeAnne profile image62
      Sophia-LeAnneposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, I had my ears pieced when I was 3 months, I don't remember and I've worn earrings on and off for under 30 years. I don't feel slighted or wronged.

  10. twig22bend profile image78
    twig22bendposted 5 years ago

    I have come to the conclusion that it is best to let the child decide when they are old enough. Some of the old traditions were to pierce the baby girls ears so as not to have them suffer the pain when older.

    In this day and age its is probably cruel to pierce any body part of someone's body without their permission. I don't think parents associated cruel with pain at the time.

    I do not feel it is cruel but on the other hand, which is more important. Will they want to have pierced ears?

  11. visionandfocus profile image71
    visionandfocusposted 5 years ago

    Let's turn this question around. How stupid does a person have to be to inflict unnecessary pain on an unsuspecting innocent child who looks up to them for safety and protection? How unempathetic is a person who is capable of such a deed? How would this person like to have a couple of holes punched into their body parts without their prior knowledge or agreement? How would they feel if the person doing the deed told them that it has been approved by the person they love and trust the most in the world?

  12. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 5 years ago

    my opinion, it is not wise to pierce a baby's ear because her ears are still delicate and you might hurt the delicate nerves.

  13. jlpark profile image85
    jlparkposted 5 years ago

    In some cultures, it is what is done.  Much like 'circs' for little boys, in some cultures little girls are to have their ears pierced young. Not saying I agree with it, but it is a cultural thing that I don't have the right to question as I do not know enough about the culture.

    I had mine done at 3-4yrs because I wanted them done.  Cried like a baby, then showed them off to whom ever would look.  I have had up to 5 in one ear, and 3 in the other - before I had an industrial (long bar across the top - 2 holes) and another odd one done, and have had various body piercings.  And have 12 tattoos = so pain's never been a problem for me. Thought, may have started a 'bad' habit getting them done in the first place!

    I do think I will wait until my daughter (or son) ASKS for them, but I am not going to judge someone who does it because they are required to by culture - just like I do not judge if one must circ their son.

  14. Sophia-LeAnne profile image62
    Sophia-LeAnneposted 5 years ago

    No, I don't think it is cruel and I wouldn't say cool either. I think eventually, especially a little girl would want their ear pierced eventually. I have no reserves about it, I think I would get my child's ears pierced.

  15. Lor's Stories profile image60
    Lor's Storiesposted 4 years ago

    My nephews wife had their baby girls ears done.
    I'm glad I wasn't around to see her tears.
    But she seems to like them. But given she can't talk I think it should wait until the girl knows its going to hurt.