All i ask from anyone i know and meet is respect, consideration, honesty and reliability! Not much to ask for, but there are far too many people who lack many of the above which really used to get under my skin putting up with it, but now I use the 3 strikes and out rule!!
Zombie-people who I can only assume are on some heavy prescription drugs or something. You know, the ones in the store who lurch along (I'm not talking about the disabled or elderly here - to be clear), or stop and take up an entire aisle and then stare at you blankly when you have to physically move their cart and squeeze yours by painstakingly. They are the same ones who drive several miles under the speed limit and then look really freaked out when you pass them, like you must be going warp-speed or something. There seems to be an epidemic of that condition in my home state. Maybe its in the water - good thing I only use the stuff for coffee.
I just go to an aisle that is empty and come back to the occupied aisle later. From past experience I have learned some people are actually looking at what they want on the shelf, so they do not move right away. I never want to inch around anyone's cart, so I find another empty aisle and just come back later. It works like a charm .
People that appear to have no manners or proper dining etiquette that choose to consume food in public (chewing with mouth open, purse on table, elbows on table, napkin on table, etc.) lol sorry - this stuff really gets to me. was forced to learn as a child.
People who absolutely can't control their kids in public
Rude flight attendants (the worse!),waitstaff, bartenders, store clerks, etc.
People who put on dvds for their kids on an airplane, but do not provide headphones. Therefore, the entire airplane section can hear a Dora the Explorer sing-a-long or something.
Co-workers who think they're your boss, when in fact you rank above them on the chain of command and pay grade.
People with much less, to no experience in an area trying to tell you how to think, when you know for certain you're 110% correct.
I'm sorry...did you say just one? Those are all pretty sore spots for me.
I should add, I'm truly not a b****!!! I promise. I just like things a certain way...too much to ask for? lol
(Before you posted this I had removed that pet peeve, because I realized that it may sound cold and callous....not what I was going for)
Perhaps I should've worded it "people who fish for compliments that they know the answers to." I just think there are ways for people to build their self-esteem besides trying to evoke shallow or not necessary compliments.
I agree that we need to have compassion for people but there are individiuals who in the past that I have dealt with that really bring down the rest of the team by constantly fishing for compliments that they know the answers to. Based on previous experience, I'm not sure if it's healthy to constantly give praise and compliments to a person who are frequently going to great lengths to get these compliments.
Long nails. I don't care how pretty they are, but It just turns me off. I went out to eat with friends a week ago and the waitress brought me a bowl of soup with her nail dragging in the bowl. When I mentioned she should take the soup back, she got ticked off......
AHHHHH And I seriously was going to have soup for lunch today...thanks.
What about getting hair in your meal that is the exact color and length of your waitress's hair and when you calmly ask them to send it back, they get all defensive and try to tell you it's YOUR hair. I've had this happen several times. For example, I once had a long-haired blond try to tell me that the hair was mine(I am a medium length brunette. )
Do not remove anything. If I allowed myself to be annoyed by a lot of people I have worked with I would go insane, but I finally learned to tune people out. This actually resulted in one co-worker saying very untrue and hurtful things about me, but at that point I just did not care.
Tuning people out is a good strategy, one that works very well, if you can do it. Most of the time you can, but not always.
I used to have to work very closely with people that were very high-strung and we'd put in 14-18 hour days. I guess it was almost more like a family; really good times and really hard times. I'm glad I'm looking to move towards a new profession, though. Anything was allowed in my old career. Anything. Political campaign staffers aren't the most professional people around. You're not hired because of personality or your ability to work with others, rather your ability to get the job done and work insane hours.
Last year, was a wake up call for me and I realized that I'm suited for a more professional, corporate environment where there are at least a few guidelines to adhere to. I'm a stickler for professionalism in the workplace.
One other thing really bugs me and that is when I am having a conversation with a person and another person walks up and wants to know what we were talking about, or adds a comment that has nothing to do with the conversation.
Sweetie-Pie, you are so .... Sweet! For the most part, I let things slide off my back as well. In regard to the aisle-blockers, I just usually go to the next aisle, too, BUT it still stands to reason that the entire thoroughfare needn't be blocked for someone to find their desired item.
I would find those working conditions very stressful. Back when I was a teacher I actually worked at a school like that. Because I had a few class room management problems controlling kids behavior a couple of co-workers would try to do anything to make me look bad. I actually had certain kids in my class that they considered too troublesome, but one particular lady just had it out for me.
From the first day I did not socialize and hang out with her. Whenever she made a comment about somethnig I did she would be laughing at me, which made it way too hard to take her very seriously. After that I barely spoke ot her, and one day I guess she was trying to be helpful by saying she would remind me of when we had early lunch days so I would not be late taking my class to lunch. I told her no I would be fine because honestly I was very stressed out from having to deal with several kids that would have been in a special education classroom at other schools. One kid would jump up and down on the desk, and it other ridiculous things I just could not control.
I learned that if you are a teacher with class room management problems people will tear apart every facet of your being. This co-worker told the entire school I did not want her help, but the truth was every time she was approaching me she was giggling and laughing. I have decided I do not want to be a full-time teacher anymore so I am much happier, but that school will continue to have a high teacher turn over rate. At this particular school they have a reputation for treating new teachers badly and making the rest of the staff believe they are just not team workers.
I hear that (well obviously sometimes I have a hearing problem too)...truth is im drinking ice cold water cuz the humidity sucks in SC)but one day....in a field of lilacs and happy laughter ,with a babbling brook nearby ..a gallon it may be..thumbs up folgers