That's true to, though I guess if it was an attack of my person personally I think silence might be the key. On the other hand if if was for someone else it may be a good idea to speak up just my thoughts.
Your assumption is that one can only "take the high road" through silence. There are lots of instances where it is even more important to speak out - for example, when one is being abused or is in an abusive relationship. Unless that's not what you're talking about in this thread. I was thinking of all instances, not just poetic ones.
No, I didn't assume anything. And no, I didn't exactly say that... Please don't put words into my writings. I'm not talking about abusive relationships. I didn't write anything on that subject matter, so I'm not sure what you mean by all that. Anyhow....
If that is where you want YOUR thread to be gear towards, I don't have an opinion on abusive relationships, and on being silent in that instance. Not being abused by anybody right now that I can recall. So I really don't have a right to give an opinion on abusive behavior.
One example of silence having power is when you're standing in the presence of someone who is babbling (full of sound and fury,signifying nothing). You merely stand there, with a slight smile, and let the babbler make it ever so clear what he/she is. Silence is quite powerful here because the babbler is not worth engaging.
This is a good example, and it is why "the silent treatment" is often viewed as a form of psychological abuse. If the person is "ranting" or verbally attacking you, it can sometimes be reasonable to let them know you won't engage in their nastiness. If the person is just "babbling", one man's "babbling" is another man's attempt to communicate; and when the silent treatment is used there it is certainly an effective way to let the other person know you don't view them as worth engaging.
The trouble with that is if it's a family member or friend who is simply talking it isn't great to send the message that they aren't worth responding to. Besides, I don't necessarily think silence always means keeping some form of "power" of the other person (by not being willing to communicate and promote understanding), because sometimes people who stay silent are the ones who know they aren't going to win the argument. I do like silence at the movies, though.
Silence is golden but there are times when you have to speak up else chances are you will put yourself into trouble. Communication is a gift of God and one has to be mature enough to use it at a right place and at a right time.
Same here. I'm a big fan of communicating (or at least trying to). If you don't convey your "actual message" you leave it to others to guess, and most of the time they'll guess incorrectly. I just see doing the silence thing as a kind of game playing at best. Grown-ups at least try to communicate.
Well as already mentioned here before .... it depends on the situation. At right time and right place making sure that your silence is not misunderstood as your weakness instead it should portray your gravity. "Give your ears to all but words to a chosen few"
my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for a year now,... i'll be the first to admit that our relationship did not get started in anything even closely resembling normal,... i had a dead beat husband #2 still...