What are the 5 most thoughtless things that people say to LBGT people?

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What are the 5 most thoughtless things  that people say to LBGT people?
   
   

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   Nicole Danielleposted 10 years ago

   I believe first off when people use terms demeaning them as a person, such as f**got or d*ke (I used asterisks because I for one don't like to use the words, and also it's inappropriate.)
   
   When someone says they're going to Hell because they love who they love and that God will not love them based on it. (God loves them regardless of their sexuality, or the gender they identify as.)
   
   I've read about people against LGBT saying they should die or 'go kill themselves'. That is the most ignorant and thoughtless thing you could ever say to anyone!
   
   Comments about avoiding them because they're afraid to catch "it". Like they're contagious or something.
   
   People serious frustrate me. Ugh. You shouldn't judge someone for being LGBT, they're humans to too and they have feelings just like everyone else.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      A thunderous applause to you.  LGBT people are wonderful, God-filled people.

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      ChristinSposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I never understood that either - God will hate you really? If being gay was so abhorrent wouldn't God have created everyone and every animal straight? there is homosexuality in a variety of species and it's naturally occurring.

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   Borsiaposted 10 years ago

   I think the most annoying if not demeaning is the abundance of ignorance about human sexuality.
   The worst being that people chose to be gay, or straight for that matter.
   Every legitimate scientific group agrees that we are born hard wired to our sexuality. LGBTs don't chose to be such any more than I choose to be straight. I felt sexual urges long before I ever thought about sex but the one thing  was certain of was that it somehow involved women. If you ask the mothers of LGBTs when they first realized their children's orientation was different most will tell you it was around the ages of 4-5. That is long before the child had given any thought to sex or who attracts them.
   Today there is a strong theory that it has to do with the PH levels in the embryonic fluid, but that can't be changed. There is also the belief that in early development the fetus gets several bursts of hormones. For a male these would tell the embryo to develop testis a penis and a male orientation toward females. I'm not up on this enough to say that is true or false and I may be stating this wrong.
   This same uneducated view leads to the belief that someone can change their orientation at will, if they are just willing to deny their attraction to the same sex. But nobody has ever succeeded in doing anything more than creating self loathing and misery among those unfortunate enough to believe such drivel.
   Homosexuality exists in virtually every species on earth so the idea that it isn't a natural thing pretty much goes out the window. Also it is very common for children from the same homes, raised by the same parents, in exactly the same way, to include both gay and straight children. So it obviously isn't nurture that determines one's sexuality.
   Sadly little can be done about ignorance but the bright side is that more and more mankind is evolving to accept that people are different.
   However don't get too excited in Russia a law was just passed making homosexuality, in any form, illegal. Under Islamic law it will get you a death sentence, yet there are LGBTs in all of those places.
   For those who want to cling to old outdated theories, I hope you like the extremes of hot and cold.

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      ChristinSposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with this. I have a relative who is gay and we all knew long before any age of sexuality. You could just tell and so what? He's fine the way he is and we love him anyway.

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   ChristinSposted 10 years ago

   I get tired of religious justifications for bigotry. My biggest pet peeve are those who say "love the sinner hate the sin". Really? Do we not all "sin"? give me a break.  My other pet peeve is those who say "why do they have to be so public about it they don't need to shove it in our faces" ... yet we constantly have heterosexual sex images all over society in ads, etc. and no one complains when a man and woman hold hands in public etc.  Finally, I get very tired of the holier than thou attitudes of certain people who feel that it is ok to discriminate based on the words of a holy book that is 1000's of years old. If they really want to live by Leviticus they need to live by all of it. I don't want to hear how God says this and that - God hated a lot of stuff in the old testament. If we must do religion, let's do the Jesus gig and love everyone. He never even mentioned homosexuals.  Oh and those who say being gay is a "choice" who obviously don't study science. Who on earth would choose to be gay the way they have been treated in the past? Do you honestly think people choose to be gay in countries where they can still be put to death for it? I didn't choose to be straight - I am. I wish people would get it through their thick skulls that people are born to be who they are and it doesn't make them any more "immoral" than anyone else.  We are all wonderfully flawed and wonderful in our own ways - who cares?

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   M. T. Dremerposted 10 years ago

   To me, the most damaging things one can say are the subtler implications that what they are doing is wrong. Using words like 'immoral', 'unnatural', or even 'misguided' in casual conversation reveal a deeper bigotry and unwillingness to understand. These are so damaging because they seep into the minds of young LGBT and take root as social norms. Many fear coming out because they feel like they are doing something wrong. No one goes through more self doubt, reflection and berating than a young man or woman coming to terms with their sexuality. Even before they must face the outspoken bigots, they must face the bigoted ideas taught to them since they learned to speak.

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