I hate being knocked up!

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   Davinagirl3posted 13 years ago

   I am pregnant with my second child.  I am in my first trimester and I am not afraid to admit, that being pregnant is horrible.  The only good thing about it are trips to the OB, and sonograms.  I feel totally out of sync with my body and I don't know what to expect from day to day.  I hate the water gain.  One the first signs of pregnancy, with me, is the inability to wear my wedding rings.  Anyhoo!!! My question is to all mothers... If you enjoyed your pregnancy, tell me why.  I must say that, once the baby is born, there is nothing better.  My oldest daughter is 20 months and every moment with her has been a joy.  But, my mom swears that she "loved" being pregnant.  I love the parking spaces, but that about sums it up.

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      Brenda Durhamposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I loved being pregnant because that's what I wanted so much---to be a mother. 
      Physically, I had morning sickness through most of time, and evening sickness too. ha. 
      But I wouldn't have traded it for anything;  I called my firstborn my Blessing, and so was my other son;  they still are!

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      
      "parking spaces"?
      
      i'm with your mom. i loved being pregnant. of course i only have one child, but, morning sickness and all, i loved every minute of it. to me it was a miraculous experience. i didn't swell up at all...i was lucky i guess.
      
      what did i enjoy about being pregnant?
      
      just knowing there was a life inside of me counting on me to protect it. i even found the changes in my body interesting, although i did take care what i ate...the doctor said a healthy pregnancy is one where you don't gain more than 30 pounds, baby and all. each visit to the doctor, there was always something new to find out. and listening to the baby's heartbeat or feel him kicking inside were truly amazing moments. i don't know, it just feels like your body transforms from just a body to a vessel with a precious cargo. i know millions of women over centuries have all been pregnant and had babies but it felt special and wonderful just the same. i would like to do it again sometime.
      
      congratulations on your pregnancy, and i hope you feel better soon

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      prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I love being pregnant, because I love babies and I am very patient with them. I also believe there is a limit to the number of children you can take care with "quality care". I also hate water and forced myself to take a bath when I am preggers.
      
      Perhaps you are only feeling that way because of some inconveniences related to it. Once you pop out, the joy is there, isn't it? be well and take care, it is only 9 mos. so just be patient with it, time is fast anyway.

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   tantrumposted 13 years ago

   The only thing good about pregnancy is that you know that in 9 months time it will end. LOL

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      Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      So true!

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   Mishaposted 13 years ago

   Sometimes earlier Tantrum
   
   Welcome back, Davina! I missed your common sense here

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      Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You know I couldn't leave for too long.  I have ADD, but I find my way back around before too long.

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         Mishaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I am glad you did - and screw ADD

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   leebertteaposted 13 years ago

   The other good thing is you can have all the unprotected sex you want!

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      Mishaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You hardly get any LOL

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      Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You must have missed the part where I said I have a 20 month old daughter..   I haven't been able to have all the sex I want for some time now, unprotected or otherwise.

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   anniedeeposted 13 years ago

   I loved being pregnant, although novelty amuses me. I probably enjoyed it because there was always something new or bizarre going on with my body. It was awesome to be able to bond with my child at a distance while I prepared for motherhood. Of course, by the end of my pregnancy, I was ready for it to be over.

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      Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I am a drama queen and I can't stand discomfort.  I am the most ridiculous pregnant person ever.  You would think no one had ever been pregnant before.  I can admit this, but it doesn't make anything let intense.  I am spending most of my days hanging out with my father.  He is 72 and can't hear so well, any more.  I can complain all I want and he just smiles and nods.  God bless him.  We make a great pair.

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   Christeneposted 13 years ago

   I hated it too.

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      Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Bless you, Christene!

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   wychicposted 13 years ago

   I absolutely hated my first pregnancy...granted, it didn't help that my first husband didn't support me at all in it. My primary craving throughout the pregnancy was ice, and he'd get mad even at that expenditure...about $1.50 for enough ice to last me 3-4 days...and constantly thwarted my attempts to get healthy food in the house, because HE didn't like it, let alone the fact that I couldn't eat the stuff he buys without getting sick even before I got pregnant. I was also working full-time throwing freight, and would get home exhausted and swollen only to have him irritated because I didn't do all the housework too. Then, when the day was finally over and I settled into bed, baby would wake up and kick me off and on throughout the night so I couldn't get a sound night's sleep. The only reason I wasn't working the day my son was born is because it was my day off.
   
   That said, I am now remarried and loving the second pregnancy. I am a full-time freelancer so I can work with my feet up all day and the only physical activity I have to do is my daily exercises, tending my garden and taking my dog to the dog park. My husband is a gourmet chef who cooks for me every night, and he does dishes! I'm loving being spoiled, and being able to cater to cravings goes a LOOONG way toward emotional well-being. For now I'm just really enjoying having baby all to myself as s/he is now kicking and I'm a little over halfway through the second trimester. That said, the third trimester will be through the hottest and most miserable part of summer, so I may not be quite so enthusiastic then .

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   Aficionadaposted 13 years ago

   I'm one of the ones who loved pregnancy in general, although there were still some specifics that I didn't like too much. I was fortunate to have increasing flexibility about working, with each additional pregnancy.  I had/have four children, all now adults.  Each one was different and similar at the same time - the pregnancy and the child too.
   
   You asked why.  I loved the feeling/knowledge that a tiny little human life was growing inside me and that the things I did or did not do would have a huge impact on another life, other than my own.  I loved the awareness that there were new things developing in that little body every day.  I loved the knowledge that there was this new person that I would be meeting and caring for after the long months and the pain and struggle of labor and delivery were over.
   
   For me, being pregnant was like walking a tightrope between a feeling of awe at an incredible miracle and a feeling of enormous power at the role I was playing in the "circle of life."
   
   Don't get me wrong.  There was also a lot that wasn't pleasant at all. It sounds like those are the things that are pre-eminent for you right now.  I hope you can get over those feelings from time to time and also enjoy those parts of the experience that can be pretty heady and lovely.

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   LeanManposted 13 years ago

   I have never been pregnant, but I learned to duck when my wife was!!! Have a look at PrettyDarkHorse's hubs, she has loads on pregnancy, don't ask me why I remember seeing them...

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    Spacey Graceyposted 13 years ago

    I hated being pregnant both times. My mother-in-law would not stop going on about how could I not love my unborn child - she really didn't get that you can love the baby but not the sickness, fainting, pelvic separation etc etc etc.
    
    When I announced my 2nd pregnancy an old work colleague commented to a new colleague how unbearable I was during pregnancy

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       Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I can totally relate to this.  I have problems with my hips during pregnancy, and some days I can't walk.  I can only lay in bed and cry because the pain is so bad.  There are women that have this hip pain their entire pregnancies.  I wouldn't get pregnant if I had that pain every day.  You obviously love your babies, or you wouldn't put yourself through the hell of pregnancy if you didn't.

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    Rafiniposted 13 years ago

    I can only admit to enjoying pregnancy the first time around - it was a new experience!  lol  After that I didn't enjoy it until after the baby was born and I lost the baby weight - made me wonder why I ever thought I was overweight before pregnancy!!

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    megs78posted 13 years ago

    Its a good thing we experience amnesia after every pregnancy and are totally blinded by love of our babies or else im sure women would get pregnant a lot less often.
    
    I too had a horrible 3 pregnancies, they were unbearable, and I was unbearable, even to myself and felt that 9 months was way too long to be so miserable.\
    
    I feel for you Davinagirl.  We can't all have beautiful, zen pregnancies.  I wish it were so, but its not.
    
    Take care and keep us posted.  PS, i loved docs appts and ultrasounds too.

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    Anolindeposted 13 years ago

    Hmm .. I loved being able to eat whatever I liked (I didn't have much of a morning sickness and could eat basically anything), I loved feeling the baby kicking (although that comes later on in the pregnancy), I loved being able to use pregnancy as an excuse for not doing certain kinds of housework or whatever   And I loved coming up with lists of names for the baby and shopping for baby things!  Hee hee

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       Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I liked all these things the first time around.  However, I ended up gaining close to 80 lbs, and feeling terrible.  I, also, had more money to spend on the baby the first time around.  My daughter is still in diapers.  This time, I have already had strep throat and a sever bladder infection and I am not even 4 months along.  I know I am a whiner and that is another reason I hate being pregnant, I get super hormonal.

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    katiem2posted 13 years ago

    I had two very difficult pregnancies.  I was sick, tired (mitra valve) and in a bad car accident the first time.  My hips were an issue, narrow and small frame made for a painful time,  I don't think I was built for birthing babies... got two and I'm DONE!  I was advised not to get preggers again...
    
    UGH I just knew the second could not be as bad but it was and maybe worse as I knew it was all over once the horrible morning sickness didn't go away.  If I were to get morbidly sick tomorrow I'd wonder if I were pregnant. 
    
    I have two wonderful little girls now and they are fantastic gifts.  love Love LOVE them, not the being knocked up part.
    
    I feel your pain...
    
    

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       Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       This will be my second, and last, baby.  I had to get all the "high risk" tests done this time because I am 35. The CVS test cost over a thousand dollars. The expense of a baby here in the US is unbelievable.  The stress my husband and I have to endure due to the financial strains makes it really hard to enjoy my pregnancy.  I will be getting a tubal ligation after this baby is delivered.

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          Polly Cposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I had my second child at 35, but didn't have any extra tests because of age. Just the usual ones I had with my first baby, which included the triple blood test for spina bifida, risk of down's syndrome and the other one??
          
          I did enjoy my second pregnancy much more than my first, even though I was eight years older. It seemed to go a lot smoother, I think all pregnancies vary. And I didn't have as much time to think about it as I was always having to rush about! I live in England where having a child and all that goes with it is free on the NHS -I don't envy you at all - the cost sounds astronomical. How much do you have to pay altogether for health care when having a baby, do you mind me asking? 
          
          Anyway, good luck

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             Davinagirl3posted 13 years agoin reply to this

             The total cost is between $13,000.00 and $20,000.00, but we had to pay about $5,000.00 out of pocket.

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    Onusonusposted 13 years ago

    My wife hated being pregnant all three times. There was a point when she couldn't wear her wedding ring, and one day while shopping at Albertsons she passed by an old lady who scowled at her with an unmistakeable look of disgust for the presumed single mom.

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       wychicposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Yet another reason why people need to stop being so judgmental . I'm at the point where I can't really wear my ring too...I still do sometimes, but there are times when I can't get it off and my husband keeps telling me I need to stop before we have to get it cut off. There's a lot to be said for having a chain so it can still be worn though...albeit as a necklace...most people recognize that, and anyone who has ever been pregnant should understand there is a time when it's just not possible to wear the ring for a while.

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    mega1posted 13 years ago

    While I was pregnant and while I was nursing also, each time I took so much better care of myself than I ever had before, no alcohol, very little coffee, eating lots of veggies -  vitamins, rest, the whole nine yards so that for the first time in my life probably, I felt really healthy - but now I'm back to cheetos and coffee 8 hours a day and all the other stuff (except alcohol, which makes me feel sick)   And also, while I was pregnant people were extra kind and nice to me and so I was really on cloud nine.  Also it was pretty easy except for the last month when I could not sleep and my babies were pretty big.  but yeh, it was a good time for me.  I don't know why I can't take such good care of myself all the time!

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    Girlofmanyhatsposted 13 years ago

    I agree! I have two children, they are 14.5 years apart. Both times I was pregnant I was miserable the WHOLE 9 MONTHS! The women who tell me they love being pregnant, well, kudo's to them because it's a foreign concept to me and many others I see.

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    Diane Insideposted 13 years ago

    Sorry you feel so miserable, I however can't get pregnant to save my life and would love to be able to have a baby but it doesn't look like it's going to happen. So While I sympathize with you I also envy you. I mean I know it's miserable but look what happens at the end of all that misery. So I'm sorry I sypathize I really do but my jealousy stops me at that. Pregnancy is a gift that so many women take for granted.

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       Fionaxmaloneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Hope your pregnancy has improved Davinagirl3.
       
       Yes it is a blessing being able to conceive and I hope it does happen for you Diane Inside.  After I had my first baby I had four miscarriages and all I wanted in the world was to get pregnant, then January last year it happened and it was twins (girl/boy).  I love my little gang more than life itself but I can honestly say that pregnancy for me is pure hell on earth.  I never wish to be pregnant again, I would like another child but I will not try because I just couldn't handle another pregnancy.  I think I cried every single day from about 24 weeks onwards.  I couldn't sleep from then till the end of my pregnancy except for 15 min naps followed by 1 hour of nightmare discomfort.

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    Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

    i enjoyed the conception part

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    mod2vintposted 13 years ago

    Being pregnant never bothered me. I think the best part was not having to deal with Aunt Flow (menstrual cycle) for 9 months.

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    Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

    my wife and I are having our first... and we are both almost 40...
    thank God for public health care!

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       Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Cngratulations.

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          Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          thanks.. i made my 5 minute contribution

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             Polly Cposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Ah, but you will have to do a lot more than that, soon...

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                Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                I'm already doing everything I can around the house.. but I feel breastfeeding is going to be awfully painful for me

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                   Polly Cposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                   Yes, I'm sure...and not a great experience for the baby either!!

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    tasksgirlposted 13 years ago

    I guess my advice is just to remember that there are many women out there (like me!) who are finding it difficult to become pregnant, and please remember what a blessing it is!  I would give anything to be doubled over in morning sickness pain right now if it meant I was pregnant!!!  And I know I am not alone.

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    elayne001posted 13 years ago

    I miss having a little body move inside of me and even feeling the baby hiccup. Although I got evening sickness (no morning sickness), I felt pretty good except when I was huge towards the end and then I wanted it over with. But after I had my last, I missed being a human incubator for a new life. It really is a gift.

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    richtwfposted 13 years ago

    Nine months - I don't know how you do it. It's hard to imagine what it actually feels like to have to go through the whole gamut of emotions and physical changes that pregnancy involves. I once saw in a science museum (I think it was in Hong Kong) where there was a kind of vest to be worn by visitors, designed to simulate the feeling of carrying a baby. I put it on and boy it was hard work and I had it on just for a short while!
    
    Hats off to all you mothers who bring forth life - it's not an easy job!

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    Diane Insideposted 13 years ago

    I'm with you tasksgirl, I too would love to be pregnant, even if it meant uncomfortable, morning sickness, pain, whatever. Some people just don't know how lucky they are.

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    zob2zobposted 13 years ago

    I TOO HATED BEING PREGNANT I THINK IT WAS BECAUSE I WOULD BECOME SO BIG OVER NIGHT, THAT IT WAS HARD TO GET MY HEAD AROUND ALL THE CHANGES AS QUICKLY.
    WITH MY FIRST CHILD I DID NOT KNOW I WAS PREGNANT UNTIL I WAS 20 WKS & AFTER THAT, HAD EXTREMELY BAD MORNING SICKNESS, MY SECOND, I WAS I WAS ALMOST 18 WKS AND DIDN'T SHOW UNTIL I WAS 6 MTHS, BUT IT WAS LITERALLY OVER NIGHT. THE SAME WITH MY THIRD, FOUTH I KNEW NOTHING TILL I WAS 25 WEEKS BEFORE I KNEW I WAS PREGNANT AND I SHOWED HUGE AFTER THREE DAYS, & THE SAME WITH MY FIFTH
    
    I THINK LARGE PREGNANCIES HAVE THE DOWNSIDE THAT YOUR BODY IS TRYING TO ADJUST TO A RACE AGAINST TIME.
    THE CENTRE OF GRAVITY
    THE EXTRA WEIGHT GAIN.
    THE BACK ACHE
    THE CONSTANT NAGS FROM HOSPITAL STAFF ABOUT MASSIVE WEIGHT GAIN.
    
    THE SCANS AND FEATAL DOPPLER WERE THE HIGH LIGHTS OF ALL MY PREGNANCIES, BUT THE REST I HATED, THEY WERE NOT TEXT BOOK, I NEVER 'GLOWED', ZAPPED OF ENERGY MAYBE, DEPRIVED OF SLEEP, ADDITIONAL VISITS TO PUBLIC TOILETS, MATERNITY CLOTHING SIZES NEVER MARRIED UP TO MY SIZE...
    
    YUP TOTALLY WITH YOU ON THE HATED OR MAYBE RESENTED?
    
    ITS OUT OF YOU CONTROL, AND HELPLESS WITH IT!!

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