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Lisa and goodfriendiam, you have almost written a manual! Great thoughts!
do you want to buy a copy...lol
I was just browsing and thought I'd pop back to this thread to see what, if anything, was going on.
Just thought - a week later - I'd like to add this (after reading goodfriendiam's post): As someone who no longer has little kids with me when I'm shopping, I always kind of hope that parents who have kids having tantrums or otherwise being miserable know that a lot of people (like me) aren't thinking anything of it at all. Any reasonable adult understands that little kids get tired and aren't going to always be happy and smiley.
What I do "have an opinion" about, though, is when it's the parents, themselves, who don't seem to understand that children get frustrated and upset; and that they're not emotionally mature enough to deal with things "graciously". There are the parents who get angry at their child and "talk mean" (we've all heard that deep-down, hate-filled-sounding, voice mothers use as a way of scolding without yelling). Then some parents do the thing where they discreetly hurt their child. Sometimes I'll wonder if that same parent would be a cruel if she weren't worried about what other people are thinking about her. Even if her "excuse" is being too insecure and allowing her children to take the brunt of that insecurity, I do think "points off" to any parent who does that. After all, if we truly love and respect our children we aren't going to be mean to them to "impress" strangers, no matter how insecure we are. I know other adults who feel as I do; and I think a lot of parents of young kids who act up in public may be surprised that it isn't their child or their parenting strangers "judge". What makes a lot of strangers "have an opinion" is when the child acts up and the parent mistreats the child as a result of it.Lisa that is spot on! Well said indeed!
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago
0I am going to start selling, poopy doo kool aid and I bet crazdwriter you could even convince Donald trump that it is good for him and his customers and he would buy you out lock stock and barrel .....lol
Would that be bridge mix...lol
10 cans please!
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
Any one of my grandkids would thump me if I ignored them like that! As they should!
It is sweet that your heart is so big for your grand babies, for they are lucky to have a very good pappy.
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
You know you can always go to my profile and hit contact me since you don't have it on yours that way we'll have each others email address.
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
something like that, when I email you I'll tell ya about it
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
I got a giggle out of this! We easily forget how smart they are at this age to our peril!
My 5 year old grandson still loses it occasionally, like a few days ago in the shopping center when he through a great tantrum! First one for a while. As usual some shoppers smiled and remembered, others who had forgotten frowned.... some things remain the same. Ah, Earnest. The reason why my daughter had to think smarter is because I had already put a stop to tantrums in public. We were in Macy's one day and she just lost it. On the floor, screaming, banging her fists on the ground -- the whole nine yards. So I did what I thought was best. I had a BIGGER tantrum! Yup. I got down on the ground, screamed, banged my fists and everything. You can bet that people thought I was nuts that day, but even my little daughter was horrified and never had a tantrum like that again (at least in public). She just got smarter about her tantrums!
You are a legend! Wish I had tried that with my daughter when she was little.
I went to my daughters to babysit this morning early and come back to this very sweet and funny post.
When I arrived I got dragged (little finger hold, very effective!) to the kitchen to make breakfast for the older twin, then was told I was sacked (again!) as grandfather by the younger twin, declared to be a "rough polar bear grandpa by superspiderman (5) then blindfolded and let of to see a surprise by the twins.
All their birthday cards from Sunday stacked on the floor in neat rows.
I asked the younger one why the rest of her room was so untidy, and she told me the bogyman had done it. I told her I thought it was untidy because she and her twin had messed it up.
In storms the other twin hands on hips, rolling Bette Davis eyes and insisting it was the boogy man. I usually know better than to argue with Asha, but forgetting my place as a mere grandfather I said no, it was you and Lauren. She turned on her heel and huffed off returning with pencil and paper. "I will prove it to you" she said. " I will draw him!" then proceeded to do so. I want a lawyer! Help next year they will be as old as superspiderman is now. The scary part is when they come in twos! Double trouble
Thank you! It is so easy! Kids are wonderful.
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