Why do some women find it hard to accept Compliments?
97- Lady_E
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(Had to put it in blue, Forums doesn't show inverted commas.)
Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something E.g A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous. She smiles and says aah thanks.
He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
Have you lost some weight? he asks. OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more. Lol.
Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?
89- Poppa Blues
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If he's complimenting you that much, he IS after something! LOL!
96- Crazdwriter
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more than one is fine with me...I have a hard time accepting compliments from my husband or anyone really because I have low self esteem.
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really CL?
i think you're great! cute and funny and talented and no i don't want anything from you.
as for accepting compliments, i like it and never think anything is behind them. unless the guy is a know lotahrio. i feel sorry for the guy in the OP's scenario - he can't say anything to please his wife and the more he talks, the deeper-in he gets.
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I am a habitual complimenter. My wife doesn't seem to mind.
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Lady_E wrote:
(Had to put it in blue, Forums doesn't show inverted commas.)
Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something E.g A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous. She smiles and says aah thanks.
He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
Have you lost some weight? he asks. OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more. Lol.
Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?
If compliments are NOT a daily routine of the man, then it is only obvious to the woman, that he IS after something.
It's not an assumption, per se. But, it is a conclusion that he doesn't do it more often, and since he doesn't constantly do it, then he must be after something or another.
It only makes sense, logically and rationally.- 87
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Cagsil wrote:
Lady_E wrote:
(Had to put it in blue, Forums doesn't show inverted commas.)
Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something E.g A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous. She smiles and says aah thanks.
He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
Have you lost some weight? he asks. OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more. Lol.
Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?
If compliments are NOT a daily routine of the man, then it is only obvious to the woman, that he IS after something.
It's not an assumption, per se. But, it is a conclusion that he doesn't do it more often, and since he doesn't constantly do it, then he must be after something or another.
It only makes sense, logically and rationally.So your wife likes compliments, too?
92- lyricsingray
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what woman hates a compliment? I am confused now. Is this pretend time?
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lyricsingray wrote:
what woman hates a compliment? I am confused now. Is this pretend time?
:It seems like it.
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I love compliments, especially if they're sincere!
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Lady_E wrote:
(Had to put it in blue, Forums doesn't show inverted commas.)
Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something E.g A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous. She smiles and says aah thanks.
He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
Have you lost some weight? he asks. OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more. Lol.
Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?
ha ha, with that many compliments in a row, he obviously wants something.
Though I would argue the point on not being able to take it. I encourage my partner to keep on complimenting me.
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Denno66 wrote:
Cagsil wrote:
Lady_E wrote:
(Had to put it in blue, Forums doesn't show inverted commas.)
Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something E.g A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous. She smiles and says aah thanks.
He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
Have you lost some weight? he asks. OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more. Lol.
Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?
If compliments are NOT a daily routine of the man, then it is only obvious to the woman, that he IS after something.
It's not an assumption, per se. But, it is a conclusion that he doesn't do it more often, and since he doesn't constantly do it, then he must be after something or another.
It only makes sense, logically and rationally.So your wife likes compliments, too?
No married. So there
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Cagsil wrote:
Denno66 wrote:
Cagsil wrote:
If compliments are NOT a daily routine of the man, then it is only obvious to the woman, that he IS after something.
It's not an assumption, per se. But, it is a conclusion that he doesn't do it more often, and since he doesn't constantly do it, then he must be after something or another.
It only makes sense, logically and rationally.So your wife likes compliments, too?
No married. So there
My point exactly.
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Denno66 wrote:
Cagsil wrote:
Denno66 wrote:
So your wife likes compliments, too?
No married. So there
My point exactly.
But, I seem to have an understanding of women than most. So, I can always help out with advice.
So there - 87
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Cagsil wrote:
Denno66 wrote:
Cagsil wrote:
No married. So thereMy point exactly.
But, I seem to have an understanding of women than most. So, I can always help out with advice.
So thereUm, okay.
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cosette wrote:
really CL?
i think you're great! cute and funny and talented and no i don't want anything from you.
as for accepting compliments, i like it and never think anything is behind them. unless the guy is a know lotahrio. i feel sorry for the guy in the OP's scenario - he can't say anything to please his wife and the more he talks, the deeper-in he gets.thanks cosette and yep really... but thanks for the compliments
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lyricsingray wrote:
what woman hates a compliment? I am confused now. Is this pretend time?
:Lol. Its not so much hating it. It's not accepting it.
A popular one is e.g a lady is wearing a lovely dress and her other lady friend compliments her. She'd say, Oh, I just got it for £9.99 - some people tend to play it down. People deal with compliments in different ways.
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Crazdwriter wrote:
more than one is fine with me...I have a hard time accepting compliments from my husband or anyone really because I have low self esteem.
Your a Fun person - Like your new Pet. (Avatar) lol
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Lady_E wrote:
Crazdwriter wrote:
more than one is fine with me...I have a hard time accepting compliments from my husband or anyone really because I have low self esteem.
Your a Fun person - Like your new Pet. (Avatar) lol
lol thanks he is a good boy... for the most part
And thanks...I try to be a fun person lol Compiments used to be part of a traditional style: a man has to win a woman or her heart or at least her attention and disposition. And now we are equal partners, we are expected to behave like that to work equally for living or do business and do not waste time on stupid compliments to each other, it indeed looks quite suspicious and old fashioned and not necessary. Most of us have a different life style for that.
