The Most Married Man In America

Today, October 24th 2013, is our 40th wedding anniversary, so I'm updating this and sending it out again . . .


. . . sorry friends, but this IS my favorite story, so . . .



Let me first clarify; I am not the most married man in America because I've been married more times than anyone else - I'm the most married man in America because I'm more married than anyone else . . . I mean I could not be happier than to be married to my wife, my life is defined by my union to my wife, and I would not be the person I am apart from my wife. I fell for her the instant I saw her, today is our 38th wedding anniversary, and I love her more now than ever. Permit me to tell you just a bit about my sweetheart . . . this is my favorite story.

I was 16 years old, sitting in a car with a friend in our high school parking lot. We were waiting for a gaggle of junior high girls, who were leaving cheerleader tryouts for the next school year, to cross our path so we could be on our way. Just now dramatic, life-changing kind of music should thunder in as I say, then I saw her in the midst of a dozen or more cute girls passing before us. I pointed-out the dark haired beauty right in the middle of the pack and, wasn't really asking, but just blurting out in astonishment "Who is that?!" . . . initiating the most delightfully happy turn of events that ever turned, my friend announced "That's Pixie Wenrich".


After discovering that she frequented a local gymnastics club that featured local band dances every Saturday, I determined to meet Pixie Wenrich. Again with the strikingly dramatic life-changing music, as I entered the dance with my friend I will never forget the image of her sitting there alone, just flashes of her through the room of dancing teens between us. I told my friend to introduce me to her and we made our way through the crowd, stood before her, my pal introduced me and I told him to go mingle.


Now, I must pause here and say, this was not the kind of guy I was. I wasn't terribly shy or anything like that, but I did not just approach girls I didn't know and present myself to them as though they should have some interest in knowing me. But I'm telling you, this girl was so stunning . . . she was like the woman in old Blues songs - "makes a grown man weep and a younger man sing" . . . I couldn't not insert myself into her sphere, she was too beautiful to not be drawn to. I sat next to her and found out she had come with another fellow - a tough guy from school who I was familiar with, but didn't know. He was off knocking about with friends and Pixie and I talked for maybe a half an hour - until he returned.

As her date stood before us he barked "So are you going to stay with him or are you coming with me?". I looked at her and she looked at me, and I said very directly to her, right in her eyes, in a determined voice of resolve amidst a too loud high school band and roomful of rambunctious teenagers and a glaring school bully "I hope you stay with me". She turned to her date and declared "I'm going to stay with him". After being told I would get my ass kicked in school on Monday, we were left alone. The point and purpose of my life, since that moment, has been to be with Pixie and try to make her happy.


Now, this is one of those stories where, we didn't have much, but we had each other. Our names undermine the storyline of our lives together - 'Mickey & Pixie' sounds more like a cartoon show than a struggling young married couple, but we struggled. I dropped out of high school and had one crappy job after another - construction and remolding, etc, until a motorcycle accident took me from labor work to retail work. Times were tough, I never had the same job for more than a year or two and we never lived in the same place for more than a year or two, but we were in love and together - and we never fought.

Then we had a baby - then we had another baby, then another . . . three girls in a row. Pixie didn't have an easy time making babies, there were complications and scares with each of them - but she made beautiful and healthy children. For me, I always wanted to be a father. When I was a little kid I never thought about wanting to be a ball player or a fireman or whatever when I grew up - I always wanted to be a dad. My own father left when I was an infant, and I think 'fatherhood' seemed a heroic endeavor to me, the manliest thing a boy could do. But, I always thought in terms of a son . . . I thought I would know how to be a father to a boy, but a girl seemed a bit scary to me, I didn't know what a little girl needed in a father.


But God knew better than me, He knew exactly what I needed and those three girls are a treasure I cannot explain. And then, a ten and a half pound Mickey Jr showed-up . . . I didn't get my little boy after all - I got a great big one. I remember walking to the grocery store pushing two strollers and the oldest walking with us . . . and then walking home pushing strollers filled with shopping and holding hands with too many kids. No car, still renting, times were very tough. However, we were a happy group. Then a few years later, another boy, and a girl - twins! Pixie and I were getting a bit old for this, and we agreed when they start coming two at a time, that's enough of that.

So, today is our 38th wedding anniversary. My high school sweetheart and I have raised six kids and are now hovering at twelve grandchildren. Times are still very lean, we still rent, we still live paycheck to paycheck - and we are still very much in love. And, Pixie is still the prettiest girl I've ever seen . . . and that's a very peculiar course for someone's life to take - how many men are married to the prettiest girl they've ever seen?! How does that work? But of course the real blessing is, Pixie is also the smartest, the sweetest, the goodest, the kindest person I've ever met. She is a wonder to me. We're approaching 60 now and we've been together since she was 15 years old, and I still marvel at how relentlessly special she is.





I don't know how these things happen, and it happened to me - I married the girl of my dreams and I love her now more than ever. And, what a beauty!


Happy 38th anniversary to us!


And look and what she's given me ~


All of the kids and just some of the grandkids

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Capric222 5 years ago

Oh my goodness! What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful relationship. Congratulations! It's quite rare these days for people to stay together for that long. Anyway, I hope you have a good anniversary and many more good ones to come!


zoeboboey 5 years ago

Congratulations not just on the years but on captivating each others attention for all this time. A rare find and a sure gift from God! xo KCB


Natalie 5 years ago

I can't even describe how much I love you two and how ugly I look right now sniveling and bawling all by myself. Best family ever.


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MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

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. . . the 'Natalie' whose comment is above this one is my Natalie, the beautiful blond in the top left corner of the photo of my kids.

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denisev550@comcast.net 5 years ago

Beautiful tribute. I was Sarah's teacher at Palmyra and am so happy that my daughter Erika and Natalie are such dear friends. And Olivia is an absolute doll. Don't know the of the family, but I'm 100% certain they are all 100% awesome. Mickey and Pixie, you done good!! Happy Anniversary. I hope you have at least 38 more. Blessings ~ Denise VanBriggle


Tina 5 years ago

Well, I cried too...and that's saying a lot considering how I feel about marriage right now.


Emily Hart 5 years ago

This is beautiful!!! Thanks Mr. Haist! What a wonderful story.


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MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Denise,

Thank you so much for your generous and warm encouragement. The 'VanBriggle' name looms large in our home, there remains a great appreciation for your interest and aid in assisting Sarah win her Gold Key Award. I suppose every household has a list of favorite teachers - you are on our short list.

Now, as an English teacher, please - any spelling, grammar, or simply well-ordered sentence shortcomings you might find in any of my hubs, please do let me know. I've already corrected a few Sarah pointed-out to me in this one and I'm happy to be able to make those repairs . . . my spelling is atrocious and 'spell-check' sometimes gets past me with corrections I did not intend, and, as a high school dropout, I'm sure my grammar and sentence structure leaves much to be desired. I am very thankful for any policing of my efforts.


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MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Capric222, zoeboboey, & Emily,

Thank you very much for your kind and favorable reviews . . . and, be good Emily (sorry, I'm a dad).


phdast7 5 years ago

A lovely and endearing tribute to your wife, your family, and the goodness of God. I wish for you both many more years and many more blessings.


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lisadpreston 5 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Happy Anniversary! I have to tell you that I am crying my eyes out. You and I have more in common than you think. I need a minute here. Damn I hate to cry.

I had to chuckle at the line of not being married the most times. I think I have. 4 to be exact. But your story of being 16 and dropping out of school in the tenth grade, that is me. I married at 16, dropped out of school in the 10th grade to be married and pregnant. I would still be married to that man if i weren't so young and stupid. We had two boys and he worked 2 and 3 jobs to support us. He is my best friend to this day. I was on the gymnastics team too! And a cheerleader! We struggled and struggled, went to church 3 times a week and then Sunday. I was stupid, stupid, stupid to leave. My mom got him a job with the plumbers and pipefitters union, now he is a big shot boss! Ha ha, and our second son is in the union too! Wow, I can't stop crying so I will just say, what a beautiful story and you have beautiful kids and grandkids. Your wife is one helluv a woman, I wish I had been.


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MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

lisadpreston,

I don't doubt that we may be very similar - I don't doubt that christopheranton and I may be very similar . . . I just think he is absurdly and observably wrong on that particular point in the hub where we met. I am, however, quick to say that I also have no doubt that I am ludicrously wrong about some things as well.

Now, if you think you were in tears, you should have seen the notes i got from my kids (the Natalie who left a comment above is one of mine - and the Emily a few comments below hers is one of my children's friends).


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lisadpreston 5 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Micky, we did meet on very weird circumstances and I just try to remain open to all ideas simply because I try to see the good in all people and not judge. I have made some horrible mistakes in my life but i learned and KNOW I was wrong. I can only hope God forgives me. On the other hand I have done tremendous good and strive for that continuously. I know that you are a good person, and I know that your intentions are always for the good and I am sorry for anything I might have said that was offensive. I can be a bit rude at times when my feelings are hurt.

The bottom line, I think, at the end of the day, is that we love our neighbor as thyself, do unto others as we would have them do unto us, and love God with all our heart and soul.

Natalie, you are adorable and yes, the best family ever, I agree!


Emily Sparks 4 years ago

Congrats on your anniversary. That was a really sweet and beautiful story--thanks for sharing, may God continue to bless your marriage and family. Praise be to God!!


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tenet 4 years ago from Harbin, Heilongjiang China

Oh my gosh. This hub made me so teary. What an awesome, beautiful love story. Thank you for sharing and congratulations to both of you. God Bless :)


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itakins 4 years ago from Irl

Gorgeous -and Happy Anniversary (belated).


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Yours is such a beautiful testament to love and commitment. The pics through your lives bring back memories, not only to me, but to others, I'm sure. It was a time, a place, a first and lasting love that went on, goes on, as what it is in itself but also as a model for your children and grandchildren.

The video is such a gift of love.

Thank you so much for sharing. And thank you, Pixie, for allowing your wonderful husband to share such precious and loving moments in this global arena.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Oh, this is such an awesome story it made me cry. I am so glad for you - I believe a happy marriage is heaven on earth. May you're happiness last for many years to come. And oh yes, Pixie is beautiful and you yourself, Mickey, was a catch :)


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

It just goes to show that all you need is love. This truly was an awe-inspiring story. Thanks for sharing and Happy Anniversary!


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Emily Sparks ~ believe me, I thank God always for the girl He made and prepared and gave to me.


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

tenet ~ I get teary eyed every time one of you says you cried over this hub - thank you so much.


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scrittobene 4 years ago from Melbourne Australia

In Australia we say "I was gob smacked". And indeed, as I sit here, I am still amazed at your inspirational and wonderful story. This is because when it comes to marriage, we never hear about the success stories as often as the failures. In this cynical society, we are mostly expecting that divorce is inevitable - it's just a matter of time. I dare say your story sure makes a grown person weep and a younger person sing . . I can only hope that you have set an example to the youth of today that it is possible to be happy with a partner for life - as long as you've chosen carefully in the beginning and have the love that it takes to live happily ever after. It's been a pleasure meeting you today MickeySr. Cheers, Maria D'Alessandro (Melb. Australia)


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Mickey,

This is the real deal and so are you... what a beautiful tribute to Pixie.

Thank you for sharing your special love with all of us. The video was fabulous. Happy Anniversary to you both.

Voted UP & ABI. Hugs, Maria


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Maria ~ thanks so much for taking the time to visit here, and for sharing your thoughts . . . it honestly warms my heart whenever someone expresses a sense of joy over this story - our story.


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Maria ~ thanks for the votes and thanks for checking out some of my hubs . . . please continue and leave lots of favorable comments - like, today, read all I've published here today and post tons of glowing reviews . . . and, tell all your friends. I'm depending on you Maria - I don't know what I might do if you don't help me to become hubber of the year . . ?!

. . . but, all kidding aside, I genuinely do appreciate your time and attention, let alone your encouraging words - thanks.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

This is precious, Mickey. Thank you for sharing a lifetime of happiness with us!

Gets my votes!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

I came back, read it again, watched the video and am sitting here with tears in my eyes - for the beauty of your lovely lady and your lovely life together. It's truly wonderful and miraculous. You're not only the most married man but the richest one - in the things that really matter.

Y'all surely did make some beautiful kids and grandkids together, too!


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Nellieanna ~ you're so sweet . . . I would be telling this story to the walls if no one would listen, but it's such a heartwarming encouragement when others are moved, even in some small way, by this real, true life blessing that shapes my life. Thank you.


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CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

This is a feel good and inspiring hub to read on a Sunday afternoon. Congratulations! Wow, 38 years! My husband and I have recently celebrated our 24th year and I couldn't be more happier that I also have to hub about it in July. You have a beautiful family and that's your gold mine.

Voted up and awesome plus sharing specially with my husband. Thank you for sharing your wonderful story.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Mickey

Congratulations on 38 years of marriage with your beautiful Pixie. With the high rate of divorce, it is really nice to read about a love that is true and everlasting.

Voted up and away

Take care :)


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

OK, thanks a lot Mickey Sr. Here, I've just met you and you've already got me sobbing. "True" love stories, told by the man who (obviously) adores the woman of his dreams....and has been devoted to her for 38 years??? Well, this just does me in. I am useless for the rest of the day.

There is not a single woman in the universe who doesn't wish and hope for a story like this to call her own......While my sweet husband may FEEL this way.....I'm not sure he could put it to such wonderful music....and if he wrote it long hand, no one, including me, could read it!! lol...........This is an amazing and touching story, Mickey Sr. UP++


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T4an 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

I absolutely LOVE this hub. I am so happy for you and your beautiful wife, children and family. What an amazing tribute to Pixie. I love reading happy, feel good stories and this is one of the best I have ever read. Voted up and sharing. :)


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

ChrisSp ~ thanks so much for the visit & the comments, especially so for this very personal hub.


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Sueswan ~ thanks so much for the comment and the votes, it is very much appreciated.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Happy Anniversary again! Gosh, years fly by, don't they? I don't really have to wish you all the best of everything and love & happiness and all that stuff people say. You two have this all well-covered and locked in!


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James A Watkins 4 years ago from Chicago

She is a beauty. I will grant you that, my friend. What a beautiful Hub this is! It must be my all-time favorite. This is the way life is meant to be lived. You and Pixie are exemplars of how God designed marriage and what it means. I love your wonderful story.

"my life is defined by my union to my wife"

"makes a grown man weep and a younger man sing"

"The point and purpose of my life, since that moment, has been to be with Pixie and try to make her happy."

"For me, I always wanted to be a father. When I was a little kid I never thought about wanting to be a ball player or a fireman or whatever when I grew up - I always wanted to be a dad."

Me too!

"'fatherhood' seemed a heroic endeavor to me, the manliest thing a boy could do."

It IS!!

"how many men are married to the prettiest girl they've ever seen?! How does that work? But of course the real blessing is, Pixie is also the smartest, the sweetest, the goodest, the kindest person I've ever met. She is a wonder to me. We're approaching 60 now and we've been together since she was 15 years old"

Not many. You are truly blessed among men.

The video is awesome as well. Thank you for this treasure. I could not have enjoyed it more.

James


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MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

"What a beautiful Hub this is! It must be my all-time favorite"

James, I don't suppose one could hope for a better comment - thank you so much. And, I want to assure you, I do very much count myself monumentally blessed.


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btrbell 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

What a beautiful tribute to your beautiful wife! She is a lucky woman! Thank you for sharing this glimpse into your beautiful family! Happy 39th anniversary!


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RTalloni 3 years ago from the short journey

Though a little late, happy anniversary and thanks for a hub to smile about. My favorite photo is near the end of the video where you and Pixie are holding the twins with 3 girls looking over your shoulder--precious.


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MickeySr 3 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

btrbell ~ thanks so much for the visit and kind words . . . I delight that this hub, in particular, still gets visits and comments.


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MickeySr 3 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

RTalloni ~ 3 girls looking over our shoulders, and one boy between us . . . thanks for the visit and comment.


Erma Poindexter 3 years ago

Dear Mickey, Thank you for sharing this great tribute. I did feel the love you have for your wife Pixie. You have a beautiful family. May God bless you both with more love, joy and peace. Your story give marriage hope.


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MickeySr 3 years ago from Hershey, Pa. Author

Erma, my newest great pal ~ thanks for visiting and leaving such a sweet comment . . . see you Sunday.


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Deborah Brooks 3 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Mickey this is the most wonderful hub.. and tribute on someones love of their life.. I am crying it is so beautiful.. Many blessings to you and your wonderful family.. and God bless you for being a good father and always being there for your beautiful wife and wonderful chidren.. what a blessings this hub is

Debbie


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

A lovely tribute to your lovely missus! Congrats on your 38th anniversary, Mickey!


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Conservative Lady 3 years ago from Surprise Arizona - formerly resided in Washington State

What a beautiful and heartfelt story of love. I feel that way about my husband and I totally understand the feelings you have for your Bride. Here's wishing you many. many more beautiful years together!


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Theater girl 3 years ago from New Jersey

So beautiful! Everyone wants a story like this! Bless you both!


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Mekenzie 23 months ago from Michigan

mickeysr, your writing expresses your deep devotion and heart for your beautiful wife. A match made in Heaven I'd say. :)

God is good and being blessed with such a woman is better than possessing all the money in the world.

I also wrote my love story on hubpages because it is rare in this day and age. By the way we were married in the same year you and your sweetheart married.

In all of life (apart from Jesus great sacrifice for our salvation) there is nothing greater than knowing your beloved adores you, believes in you and walks beside you in the good, bad and ugly times of life.

God Bless you and may He continue to use your life and your marriage as a light to all you come in contact with. Nice to meet you brother!

Mekenzie

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