Is it healthy to always be disagreeing in a relationship......

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   sir_tallestposted 12 years ago

   Is it healthy to always be disagreeing in a relationship......
   
   ........is it healthy to always fight and reconcile

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Naturally the answer to this question is "No".
   The key to any successful relationship is both people have to agree MOST of the time.
   There is no "right" or "wrong", only "agree" or "disagree".
   Too many people waste too much time trying to "persuade" their mate to change. People change when (they) want to change.
   In the long run you are better off trying to find someone who "naturrally" wants what you want and believes as you do.
   Opposites may attract for a short while, but Like attracts Like for a lifetime.

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   Lisa Mae DeMasiposted 12 years ago

   yes!  I think it's absolutely healthy for people fo disagree in a relationship.  Maturity and being reasonable is a requisite!

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   ThunderKeysposted 12 years ago

   When dealing with hot-button issues (that can include, money, sex, in law conflict, healthy relationship boundaries etc) it's very important to express and meet the underlining relationship needs, along with clear, simple strategies for meeting these needs, that both partner's have at the time.
   
   Criticisms (which can destroy marriages over time) are just inside-out and upside-down relationship needs that have been very poorly expressed or masked.
   
   The anger, which is often fueling relationship conflict is secondary to the underling primary emotions of fear and loneliness in relation to our partner.
   
   It's best to learn how to listen for and express the frustrated core-relationship needs and primary, tender emotions that underlie heated conflict. This enables transformation of the anger and fear into security and happiness.
   
   When there are opposing or contradictory needs, these must  be clarified and compromised upon when ever humanly possible. For example, new parents need to clarify roles and support-needs, secondary to emotional needs, and make sure to support each other and share the work equally, even if both partners are exhausted.
   
   Relationships that succeed over the long haul are always lovingly and non-critically looking for mutual solutions, even when needed resources like time and money are scarce or when needs are truly contradictory.
   
   - Duddy.

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   sunny5555posted 12 years ago

   Some times to disagree, yes, it could be healthy. If I or the other was always to disagree, I would be asking, why is it all the time. When we do not agree for what ever reason, we always make sure we respect each other.

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   stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

   No, that would be tiresome and too much drama. I think a couple in this situation would eventually wear eachother out, or they are staying together for the wrong reasons.

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   Coach Julieposted 12 years ago

   Every relationship will involve some difference of opinion as each person is an individual.  If your relationship involves "always" disagreeing, that is a red flag that you may not be the best mates for each other.  If each time you disagree you're each able to learn something and take away a new perspective, that shows there is a healthy component.  But you have to ask yourselves if the relationship makes you happy.  I'm guessing there may be a better one out there for each of you.  Disagreements should be occasional, not all the time.

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