What is that ONE thing a good/ healthy relationship needs in your opinion?

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  1. Sammi617 profile image59
    Sammi617posted 10 years ago

    What is that ONE thing a good/ healthy relationship needs in your opinion?

  2. profile image0
    scriber1posted 10 years ago

    A good/ healthy relationship needs time spent.......not bought

  3. Cantuhearmescream profile image78
    Cantuhearmescreamposted 10 years ago

    I can't answer this question with one thing because you can't have a healthy relationship without 2 things; Respect and Communication. That's all you really need in any relationship, everything else is a bonus. You cannot have a healthy relationship without respect and you can't give it without communicating and you can't express what it means to be respected without communicating. Partners have a tendency to hold things in and keep things to themselves and then resentment, bitterness, anger, hurt, etc, take over and taint the relationship. Respect and communication... that's all there is to it.

  4. vocalcoach profile image92
    vocalcoachposted 10 years ago

    A good and healthy relationship is based on an open line of communication.  Being comfortable and at ease when talking to one another is huge.  Also, it helps to be good friends.  Best friends are a treasure and can be the "glue" to bond the relationship.

    Most of us fail when it comes to really listening to our partner.  We may hear the words, but not the emotion. Listening, during communication shows that we care.
    Being to eager to give our opinion or advice is not listening.

    Of course other things such as patience, giving, seeing the good in one another instead of being critical and judgemental are also important.  However, communication is where it all begins.

    Good question!

  5. profile image0
    Lizam1posted 10 years ago

    In my opinion trust is the most important element of a healthy relationship and a close second is respect.  Without trust relationships get hung up and leads to resentments and miscommunication, without respect the parties are diminished and that is a dangerous and slippery slope.

  6. JMcFarland profile image70
    JMcFarlandposted 10 years ago

    In my opinion, it is impossible to create or maintain a healthy relationship without open, honest communication.  Communicating with your partner and telling them what you need, how you feel and what you think is not always easy.  Sometimes it's incredibly difficult and painful.  In the end, you create a mutual trust and respect because of that communication that is not easily broken.  You have no secrets, and you tell each other the truth no matter what.

  7. cebutouristspot profile image70
    cebutouristspotposted 10 years ago

    TRUST smile You should have this as this is the building block/foundation to any relationship.  Once you have this everything else will follow.

  8. MasculistFeminist profile image55
    MasculistFeministposted 10 years ago

    Integrity. Each partner must treat the other the way they themselves would like to be treated.

  9. NiaG profile image82
    NiaGposted 10 years ago

    I think the main thing to a successful relationship is trust.

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  10. NornsMercy profile image59
    NornsMercyposted 10 years ago

    I think genuine love is what makes a healthy relationship. Anyone can communicate or respect someone, but being in a relationship with someone that you don't have deep feelings for is a total waste of time.

    1. Astralrose profile image88
      Astralroseposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      What is genuine love? What makes you love "the" person? This, I think, needs more elaboration.

  11. tomy101 profile image64
    tomy101posted 10 years ago

    Charm , and love that cannot be split because of failure in a relationship. Being a coach to each other and giving space to one another. Knowing that change in life will happen and situations will change your emotions toward each other. Living life on life's terms.

    1. lupine profile image66
      lupineposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It definitely takes working together to have a good relationship. Being flexible and knowing that life has its ups and downs, there's good days and not so good days, can help couples understand each others emotions.

  12. debbiepinkston profile image78
    debbiepinkstonposted 10 years ago

    Respect! Respect for each others' wishes, opinions, needs, beliefs, and everything else!

  13. SidKemp profile image88
    SidKempposted 10 years ago

    I would go for respect. In my experience, without respect, love fades and trust is lost. When only respect is left, communication can be rebuilt, trust restored, and love reclaimed. I know because my wife and I have done this. You can read more in three of my hubs, on gratitude, 5 love languages, and 5 languages of apology for saving a relationship.

    1. Cantuhearmescream profile image78
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you! Yes, love is love but it can flare up or die down, but without respect it will never last nor will it be healthy. I've had a lot of love but little respect... I'm ready for respect.

  14. jaydene profile image63
    jaydeneposted 10 years ago

    Communication, honesty, and total respect,

  15. Affinity2010 profile image60
    Affinity2010posted 10 years ago

    Two sane people, this world has too many dysfunctional relationships.

  16. Einestine07 profile image65
    Einestine07posted 10 years ago

    Good relation comes from good behavior and communication. You may feel attraction to someone but it will become love if you communicate with him/her and behave gently.
    Some time behavior ends relationship.

  17. dl53acy profile image68
    dl53acyposted 10 years ago

    First you must have love for one another!  You must be able to communicate with one another, then you must Trust one another...

  18. Seek-n-Find profile image70
    Seek-n-Findposted 10 years ago

    Agreement!  Even if the agreement is to agree to disagree--there has to be a sense of communication, respect, and partnership.  Agreement doesn't mean two people agree on every topic, but they agree on how to treat each other and "be" in the relationship with one another.  The agreement is about who they are and how they "be" towards one another.

  19. padmendra profile image45
    padmendraposted 10 years ago

    The relationship is based on three basic facts and these are, a)trust,, b)commitment, and d) care. If these things are followed in principle,, the relationship of any kind would grow and last longer.

  20. LVP92 profile image61
    LVP92posted 10 years ago

    The one thing that I think a good relationship needs is communication. If you do not communicate properly with the person that you are in a relationship with then how are you supposed to work things out? I know from experience that if you do not communicate then things can turn bad in no time. So, if you are looking for one good thing in a guy or girl look at someone that is willing to talk things out (good and bad) rather than avoid it. smile

  21. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image61
    Deepak Chaturvediposted 10 years ago

    If  I say in one word it is mutual understanding.You could add as many factors as you like but without understanding  one could not go any where in that journery. Love even the key factor but not enough to win the race in long run.

  22. Astralrose profile image88
    Astralroseposted 10 years ago

    Similarity in thinking.

    A person who is against animal cruelty cannot have a good or healthy relationship with another person who thinks killing a snake is proper because it could harm him or his family when all he needs to be worried about is his being more careful.

    A person who thinks any place is his dustbin cannot go along with a person who considers all places as his and therefore wants it clean as much as possible.

    A woman who wants children cannot have a good and healthy relationship with a man or another woman who doesn't want one.

    A girl who is cautious and careful would want to have a second or more dates with a person who drives carefully and not recklessly as if he owns the road.

    So for me, it's the "like-mindedness" that a good and healthy relationship needs.

  23. ChitrangadaSharan profile image89
    ChitrangadaSharanposted 10 years ago

    Trust and mutual understanding are the two basic things. Without trust one can not be committed and one cannot love a person.

  24. mariasial profile image65
    mariasialposted 10 years ago

    Respect and trust are the 2 primary factor for successful relationship. Read this hub to know the secrets of happy and successful  relationship

    http://mariasial.hubpages.com/hub/suces … lationship

  25. Jennifer Bart profile image60
    Jennifer Bartposted 10 years ago

    Trust because for me I cant be in any type of relationship with someone I cant trust!

  26. sunilkunnoth2012 profile image59
    sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years ago

    Trust is the most important thing required for a relationship to be more boded.

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    Klavdija Frahmposted 10 years ago

    I think it's really important that you take time with your partner for "date nights". Once of twice a month you have to take time just for you and your beloved and do something together - we go see some movie or go eat in mexican/thai restaurant. But it's also important that you have time for yourself - for your own activities - take a bubble bath, relax, read good book, watch some tv series you love, but your partner doesn't....

  28. peeples profile image93
    peeplesposted 10 years ago

    Did I miss the answer that said sex? Take it out of any healthy relationship and it will get unhealthy real quick.

    1. lupine profile image66
      lupineposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      True, sex would be right up there in the top 3!

  29. Taleb80 profile image81
    Taleb80posted 10 years ago

    Communication, when there is communication, there is a good relationship.
    I think good communication means respect, interest, understanding & so much more.

  30. Desmondlee89 profile image73
    Desmondlee89posted 10 years ago

    I feel that a good/healthy relationship requires consistent and clear communication, both parties must know what their other half is thinking and going through. Because for me, she will be my best friend, my confidante and my love:)

  31. snapbackbetty profile image61
    snapbackbettyposted 10 years ago

    For me, a good/ healthy relationship needs good communication.

    1. lupine profile image66
      lupineposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, and there are many ways to communicate besides talking.

  32. lupine profile image66
    lupineposted 10 years ago

    You asked for ONE thing...here is one that I think is important, Trust! If you can't trust  someone, there is nothing...you may love each other, have an honest relationship (honesty can be found in both good and bad), have good sex, and more good things, but the minute you find out there is no trust, everythings seems to shatter. If you can have absolute trust, then you know that person will always do their best for you in any situation and not let you down in any way.

  33. manatita44 profile image74
    manatita44posted 10 years ago

    What we all need is unconditional love. Not the love that binds or create attachments, but the one that sets us free. We need the love of selfless offering, without barter or conditions. This will inevitably touch human love, but at the same time rise above it also.

    1. SidKemp profile image88
      SidKempposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree we all need unconditional love. And I'm glad when I, or anyone, can give it. But to expect it from another person is to put a condition on it. When we receive unconditional love from within, from the Divine, it flows out to all relationships.

  34. Sammi617 profile image59
    Sammi617posted 10 years ago

    I am loving all of these answers! smile I definitely agree with a lot of you guys.


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