I am one of those self maintained independent women. When you can take care of yourself, it brings greater respect into the relationship. No one can dictate to you what you can wear or what you can do with your hair. Instead, you have "give and take" and compromise.
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I'm high maintenance when it comes to what I eat or where I eat. I'm high maintenance when it comes to travel. I love to travel and have acquired a taste for business class and first class having worked with a major international airline for a long time. I love to stay at the best hotels. That was another perk of working with the airlines.
I give myself the best that I can, because I owe it to myself and because I've worked hard. Those things that I can't do anymore, i just enjoy the memories; but I will always eat well...it's part of my self love.