Do you have a close relationship with your dad?

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   jagandelightposted 14 years ago

   Do you have a close relationship with your dad?

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   Etherealenigmaposted 14 years ago

   No. My father is too negative and when he is around me, my self-esteem goes into the toilet, so I have parted ways with him. I find that I am better off in faith in myself as well as God.

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   cocopremeposted 14 years ago

   I am definitely close to my dad.  He has always been my rock.  Anytime I have needed or wanted anything he has been there for me.  My sisters and I are the most important thing in the world to him and he has always made sure to prove that to us. 
   
   My dad has been a stabilizing force in my life.  I have felt confident taking leaps and reaching for my goals because I know he is behind me to support me.

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   michelemacwritesposted 14 years ago

   My dad is no longer alive but we never had the opportunity to develop a close relationship.  I grew up with my paternal grandparents.

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   Matt in Jaxposted 14 years ago

   Definitely that of a friendship relationship, but not a very close one. We just don't connect on many levels.

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   odie_driverposted 14 years ago

   Nope. My father and I have had many many disagreements over the years and we simply do not see eye to eye on.. well.. just about anything! We've gone our separate ways and that doesn't seem like its going to change any time soon. So far, we're good with the status quo..

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   ii3rittlesposted 14 years ago

   No. I believe I did when I was a little girl but once I got older, he said and did things that have hurt me badly. One thing he said when I was 13 was... Drinking alcohol was a vice. Like, in other words, he was committed to it even knowing it hurt me that he drank. He also has says the words "Your kids!" to my mother which made me feel like he didn't even want me as a daughter. Since then, I have forgiven him, though we don't talk much. When I go visit over there, by my mother and fathers, we share few words. I can't feel myself being any closer than I am to him.

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   duffsmomposted 14 years ago

   No, my dad died when I was 8.  But I do remember we had a lot of fun when he was still with me.

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   phiphiposted 14 years ago

   Yeah i have very close relationship with my mom and dad they are just like my friends i share everything with them

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    Lovesloveposted 14 years ago

    My dad died 33 years ago aged 59, never knowing his  grandchildren...he was a great dad and would have been a great grandad,but that was not to be..we did have a close bond whilst he was alive and I do so wish he was here now to share my life with me.
    I am confident that had dad not died so young we would have continued to be close.

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    Aamna Aamadposted 14 years ago

    yap...he means the world to me and i realized this more immensly after i got married....my dad is a wise father who knows children.. He never told me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.. i wish him a longgggggggg and healthy life.

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    edhanposted 14 years ago

    My dad had passed away. When he was alive, my brothers and sisters seemed to fear him. But for me, it is love instead. I understood that he had to be stern with us to learn. So, I had loved my dad for what he had done for me.

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    Felixedet2000posted 14 years ago

    never and till date no, we are so strange to each other.

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    ravenlt04posted 14 years ago

    We are working on it.  I used to really adore my dad until I got older.  As I got older I started to realize that my mom was a lot more nurturing.  I resented him for years after recognizing how he negatively affected my self-esteem and talked down to my mom.  In college, I was anti-dad; I told him about himself every chance I got.  Now, I try to call him at least once a month.  Our relationship is beginning to feel less fake.  I had to fake it for a few years as I got over the hurt and anger.  I know he loves me and tried to push me to be better; he used the approach he knew (what his parents taught him).  If I could've given him advice when I was growing up I would've asked him to be more encouraging, less critical, and more sensitive to me and my siblings' feelings and emotional needs.

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    6hotfingers3posted 14 years ago

    As a child I did not have a close relationship with my dad. He was present but not the type dad that showed affection. As an adult, I decided I would get to know him. We created a great relationship before his death. We had a respectful adult relationship which I cherish to this day. Before he died I knew he loved me and he knew I loved him. That was a blessing.

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    ErinEliseposted 14 years ago

    
    
    My dad and I are definitely close.  I am his only daughter, his only child.  It took my parents 10 years to conceive so they had a lot of time to plan.  My parents are divorced, my mom got remarried, and I am close to them as well.  But, my dad and I are closer.  He's the one who has been there for me always.  He is my rock and the stability in my life (not trying to copy you cocopreme -- just feel exactly the same way).    He has always been there for me and has just been the best dad and friend.  I'm starting to tear up thinking about it.
    
    My dad is getting up there in years now, he'll be 83 in September.  He walks three miles a day and is still very active and healthy.  Sometimes he calls me 10 times in one day and it sometimes drives me nuts, but when the phone doesn't ring, I wonder why he's not calling.
    
    I can't expect him to live forever, but at least another 15 years, because I don't know what I'm going to do when my dad is gone. 
    
    Here is a picture of my dad with my twin daughters in 2002.  Proud Grandpa. I think I'll do a hub on my dad now.  Love you dad.

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    Guantaposted 14 years ago

    My father passed away many years ago and as a typical offsrping I was angry with him because I didn't feel that he provided for my needs on my terms.  However, the older I get, and the more I look back, the more I love and respect my father.
    
    Instead of focusing in on what he did not do, I now focus on what he did do and the many sacrifices he made for myself and my siblings.  I have come to the point where I realize that my father too was a mere mortal and that he did the best he could with his life's circumstances.

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