You've asked this about eight times-- you are starting to sound a little desperate.
I guess the simple answer is: two people who are willing to make it successful. Other than that, I really don't know. Only been married 48 years so far.
Selecting the right mate is the best place to start.
In order to that one must know his or herself very well.
You have to know what you want and what you don't want.
The goal is to find someone who wants the same things out of life as you do and is in agreement with how to go about having the kind the life you both want.
It's best to allow the relationship developed (over time) to insure the following 6 traits are in place before saying "I do". It's also a good idea to have things fall into place in the right syntax or order. For example starting at #5 and trying to work your way backwards rarely works!
1. Honesty
2, Trust
3. Loyalty
4. Love & Devotion
5. Intimacy
6. Emotional Security
If any of these traits are not in place before the marriage it's going to be an up hill battle.
Naturally you'll want to mutually be physically attracted to one another as well. You can't manufacture chemistry it's either there or it's not.
Whenever a person marries the wrong person they end up trying to find ways to put square pegs into round holes.
Therapists end up serving as arbitrators teaching couples how to compromise, fight fair, and basically co-exist.
With a lot of work most people can survive a marriage to anyone. However if you select the right person to begin with "work" actually becomes a "labor of love".
The main key to having a happy marriage is both people have to be on the same page and that requires honest communication right from the start.
I would suggest you get a copy of this book at a bookstore near you (Kohl's usually has it in stock)called the "the 5 LOVE Languages". It's by the Christian author whose name is Gary Chapman. BUT do not be fooled as he helps anybody looking for ways to make their marriage successful. I read this book and found it eye opening not that religious in context but could be universally applied to all who will try to make their unions better. Some of my non Christian friends even praised this book too. WHEN you do get it, read it and if you wanna discuss anything in it,(no I'm not getting paid, I wish), feel free to drop me a line. Peace and all the best to you.
TRUST...that's the key ingredient to make any marriage on this earth a success.
it takes respect for each other and if either doesn't have it for the other, that's usually a problem sooner or later. Good communication is a must as well.
by muhammad abdullah javed 9 years ago
Do you agree that the essence of husband-wife relationship is "loyalty" ?
by H P Roychoudhury 13 years ago
Will you tell me what is true love?
by days leaper 12 years ago
What is your definition of a perfectly suitable partner?And what do you mean by, for instance "Appearance" Is good appearance suit or smart casual, colour co-ordination, a style that fits or costs? And how many "personalities" are there out there? Are one word...
by phillip goodson 13 years ago
Would a woman want to know if her husband was cheating?
by calico Stark 7 years ago
Does a Christian woman have a biblical right to divorce her emotionally abusive husband?Is emotional abuse a valid reason for a person to get a divorce? Or should the spouse believe for a supernatural transformation?
by Ian Batanda 6 years ago
What is the right way to get married according to the Bible?Does the Bible allow civil and customary Marriage?
Copyright © 2024 The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers on this website. HubPages® is a registered trademark of The Arena Platform, Inc. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers to this website may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website.
Copyright © 2024 Maven Media Brands, LLC and respective owners.
As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.
For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://corp.maven.io/privacy-policy
Show DetailsNecessary | |
---|---|
HubPages Device ID | This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons. |
Login | This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service. |
Google Recaptcha | This is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy) |
Akismet | This is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy) |
HubPages Google Analytics | This is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy) |
HubPages Traffic Pixel | This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized. |
Amazon Web Services | This is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy) |
Cloudflare | This is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy) |
Google Hosted Libraries | Javascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy) |
Features | |
---|---|
Google Custom Search | This is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy) |
Google Maps | Some articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy) |
Google Charts | This is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy) |
Google AdSense Host API | This service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy) |
Google YouTube | Some articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy) |
Vimeo | Some articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy) |
Paypal | This is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy) |
Facebook Login | You can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy) |
Maven | This supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy) |
Marketing | |
---|---|
Google AdSense | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Google DoubleClick | Google provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Index Exchange | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Sovrn | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Facebook Ads | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Amazon Unified Ad Marketplace | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
AppNexus | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Openx | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Rubicon Project | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
TripleLift | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Say Media | We partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy) |
Remarketing Pixels | We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites. |
Conversion Tracking Pixels | We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service. |
Statistics | |
---|---|
Author Google Analytics | This is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy) |
Comscore | ComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy) |
Amazon Tracking Pixel | Some articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy) |
Clicksco | This is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy) |