It depends on what you mean by good/bad. I see how people might find ethical issues with it, however, I don't see any ethical issues myself. As long as you don't sleep around then I don't see any issue with sex outside marriage.
I guess it's down to personal preference really. As long as both parties are consentual then there is no problem in my eye.
It depends on your own personal beliefs. I am not having sex until I am married but my fiancee is not a virgin. He has absolutely not problem with waiting. You need to take time and decide what's right for you in the end and not judge anyone else for having a different opinion. Regardless of your choice there is someone out there for everyone, you just need to know yourself and what you want and what you don't want. I get judged constantly for my choice to be chaste by people who don't know me very well and who don't understand why I am waiting. Sex and the decision to do it before marriage or not is a very personal thing. No one should be pressured into doing something they are not ready for, but also, if sex is an immediate must have for a person then they shouldn't even bother dating someone who wants to wait. Their views are clearly very different and I doubt the relationship would ever work.
Whether or not someone's a virgin shouldn't matter. When you love someone, you love the person, all of the person with all of her faults and her qualities. Sex shouldn't even enter into the equation. Sex is merely the physical expression of one's emotions not the definition of love. Now if you're not sure if you love someone then it might be worthwhile to live with that person for say one year without having sex. If you still feel the same about each other after that, then you've got a great chance a a loyal life long relationship.
i have started thinking that this whole notion of a woman's virginity being some sort of fabulous prize given away only during marriage is antiquated and silly. why not the same rule for men? let's say a girl has one partner and when she gives herself to him, they are really in love and he treats her well, but over time, they grow apart and go their separate ways, then then she meets the man she wants to marry. is she somehow spoiled or "damagaed goods" now because there was another before him?
of course not.
what if a girl is "pure" and untouched and marries someone and gives herself to him and he treats her like dirt and doesn't appreciate her chastity, is her "gift" of her virgnity wasted?
there's a disturbing trend among young girls who "do everything" but intercourse just so they can say they are "still virgins". what a crock. your morality and chastity aren't intact just because your virginity is.
That's a disturbing and misguided thought by your professor! How could he even suggest rape as a pleasurable sexual experience? It's a violent act where unspeakable pain is inflicted upon the victim who is usually beaten and forcibly penetrated sustaining internal injury! Your professor is an idiot and you can tell him I said so!
It's important to remember that you have sex with every partner they had sex with. This another point that weakens the strength of a family, in my opinion. I would think a man or woman that we're disciplined and understood the gravity of the act, meaning babies, would want to protect the sanctity of the relationship. I feel it's important to remember the signifigance of all the ties that bind a couple as a partnership in life and how much children sense that bond. This another reason why abortion is so destructive because it allows people to do before they think.
I think it's a personal choice, that said, you select a wife to hopefully raise a family. She will be the childrens primary teacher, her judgement has to be above reproach. In most cases when the Dad leaves for work he leaves his children in the custody of someone that can put aside her wants and is disiplined enough to stay on task set a moral and proper example. I personally would be uncomfortable with a woman that couldn't exercise some personal self control.
I hate the double standard associated with this issue. Why is it always the woman who is made to look like a sleeze if she has PMS? I chose to wait but I know a lot of women who didn't...are they self control-less sluts? I think not. And what about those women who can't have or do not want children? This issue shouldn't solely be based upon religion and stereotypes. It's a personal choice and no one should be judged for which path they take.
I don't think the question of "whether or not premarital sex is good or bad", base itself on ones "religion" or "social" background. Simply because I believe everyone knows the answer to this question. No matter what explanation one has as to why one chooses to wait or not wait, we all know that in not waiting, we were supposed to. Even with the absence of "religions" and social beliefs this is one topic we know all too well the answer; the same as we know its wrong to kill someone. Whether we choose to kill anyway now becomes a situation between the creator and our individual selves, however we knew it was wrong to do it.Because birth control is not scriptural, with premarital sex comes disease, early pregnancy and a whole list of negatives, so my advice? Find that one first. When you know right from wrong,your choice now becomes an act of obedience or disobedience.You choose.
Cole it's just my belief and it's exactly the advice I gave my son. I told him somwhere out there a woman is taking care of herself and she prays you're taking care of yourself. So you can be a loving partnership teaming up to raise good moral children so they can do the same.
Is he waiting, I have no idea and it's not my buisness, my job is done. I gave him the best advice I could. I tried to teach him to not be like everyone else be who you are.
I waited. So did he. We were completely clueless. It never did get good. As certain as I was that he was the One For Me, I was completely wrong. Just found out too late. In the process of "trying to make it work" I wasted more than I would like to admit.
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