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Pre-marital Sex is good or bad ??

  1. rahaulgtvm profile image62
    rahaulgtvmposted 7 years ago

    Hi Friend


           Is Pre-marital Sex is good or bad ??

    1. Black Lilly profile image61
      Black Lillyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Neither.
      It is just vitally necessary.

    2. Helen Cater profile image59
      Helen Caterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You gotta try before you buy!

    3. Ivorwen profile image84
      Ivorwenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I am very glad I waited for marriage.  I have no regrets and there is complete trust between my husband and I.

    4. myownworld profile image79
      myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oooh...it's as good and wild as can be! afterwards, um...not so much!! wink

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        bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Not to be a pig, but would you buy a car without taking it for a test drive?

        1. myownworld profile image79
          myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          the real question is: what do u do if u end up buying the car and afterwards don't like it anymore?? yikes

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            bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            That's why you have to put it through it's paces before signing the papers just to make sure it's the one you want.

            1. myownworld profile image79
              myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              OR simply crash it afterwards!!
              (nooo...I didn't just say that now, did I?? yikes)

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                bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Hmmm....Sex and cars....do you really need anything else?

                1. myownworld profile image79
                  myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  lol exactly! all the more reason to just go on enjoying that test drive....!! wink

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                    bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    The beautiful thing about the test drive is, you can drive it like you stole it, then go home when you're done.

              2. dejajolie profile image60
                dejajolieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                LOL ues you did and you can't take it back now!

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      L. Andrew Marrposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It depends on what you mean by good/bad. I see how people might find ethical issues with it, however, I don't see any ethical issues myself. As long as you don't sleep around then I don't see any issue with sex outside marriage.

      I guess it's down to personal preference really. As long as both parties are consentual then there is no problem in my eye.

    6. IntimatEvolution profile image81
      IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I thought it was awesome!

    7. marinealways24 profile image61
      marinealways24posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Both

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      lindsay champagneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It depends on your own personal beliefs. I am not having sex until I am married but my fiancee is not a virgin. He has absolutely not problem with waiting.  You need to take time and decide what's right for you in the end and not judge anyone else for having a different opinion. Regardless of your choice there is someone out there for everyone, you just need to know yourself and what you want and what you don't want.  I get judged constantly for my choice to be chaste by people who don't know me very well and who don't understand why I am waiting.  Sex and the decision to do it before marriage or not is a very personal thing.  No one should be pressured into doing something they are not ready for, but also, if sex is an immediate must have for a person then they shouldn't even bother dating someone who wants to wait. Their views are clearly very different and I doubt the relationship would ever work.

    9. dyonder profile image77
      dyonderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Gotta sample the wares and see if all the parts fit before sealing the deal.

  2. oxymoron profile image60
    oxymoronposted 7 years ago

    Welcome to HubPages.

    To answer your question, well it's all upto the way one's grown up and the individual way of seeing life.

    1. rahaulgtvm profile image62
      rahaulgtvmposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      So you are saying ,the condition or quality of being a virgin has no significance

      1. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yes it has. It depends on your religion and social background

        1. Mim.A. profile image61
          Mim.A.posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I don't think it has because virgin men curse their virginity because they're not getting any luck.

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        Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Whether or not someone's a virgin shouldn't matter. When you love someone, you love the person, all of the person with all of her faults and her qualities. Sex shouldn't even enter into the equation. Sex is merely the physical expression of one's emotions not the definition of love. Now if you're not sure if you love someone then it might be worthwhile to live with that person for say one year without having sex. If you still feel the same about each other after that, then you've got a great chance a a loyal life long relationship.

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        cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        i have started thinking that this whole notion of a woman's virginity being some sort of fabulous prize given away only during marriage is antiquated and silly. why not the same rule for men? let's say a girl has one partner and when she gives herself to him, they are really in love and he treats her well, but over time, they grow apart and go their separate ways, then then she meets the man she wants to marry. is she somehow spoiled or "damagaed goods" now because there was another before him?

        of course not.

        what if a girl is "pure" and untouched and marries someone and gives herself to him and he treats her like dirt and doesn't appreciate her chastity, is her "gift" of her virgnity wasted?

        probably.

        there's a disturbing trend among young girls who "do everything" but intercourse just so they can say they are "still virgins". what a crock. your morality and chastity aren't intact just because your virginity is.

        1. dejajolie profile image60
          dejajolieposted 7 years ago in reply to this
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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    Is there such a thing as bad sex? I don't think I've ever had it! Maybe I don't remember...

    1. oxymoron profile image60
      oxymoronposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Is bad sex simply something you can't remember at all? wink

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        Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You know I'm not sure... I think I'll make it my life's work to have as much sex as I can until I can find bad sex!

    2. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      how Lucky you are !
      A lot of men are sooo bad sexually !
      I've had to cope with some of them ! lol

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        Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I suppose it's all subjective....some of the ladies might have thought differently than me! LOL

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          You will never know ! big_smile

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            Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            That reminds me of a taseless sexist joke...

            How can you tell when a woman has an orgasm?
















            Who cares? LOL!

            I told you it was tasteless and sexist!

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol
        Even when its bad for you, its still good for them.

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          such animals ! lol lol

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            Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lol but they are cute when they are slepeing.

            1. rahaulgtvm profile image62
              rahaulgtvmposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              lol cool cool cool  smile

              1. tantrum profile image61
                tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                cool
                hi rah!

    3. TimTurner profile image78
      TimTurnerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My philosophy professor brought up the fact that is it possible to rape someone?

      He argued that sex was pleasurable no matter how it was performed so it was impossible to "rape" someone but you can force someone to have pleasurable sex.

      Obviously, he wasn't taking a stand on it.  He was just discussing this as this has been a debate in the philosophical community.

      Pre-marital sex is fine because I am never getting married so that would suck if I couldn't have sex forever smile

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        Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That's a disturbing and misguided thought by your professor! How could he even suggest rape as a pleasurable sexual experience? It's a violent act where unspeakable pain is inflicted upon the victim who is usually beaten and forcibly penetrated sustaining internal injury! Your professor is an idiot and you can tell him I said so!

        1. TimTurner profile image78
          TimTurnerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Haha  thats what philosophy professors do!

          He actually wrote a lot of Philosophy books that students all over the country use and there is a section in his books about the impossibility of raping someone.

          Again, he's not saying this as truth...just raising the question philosophically smile

  4. Black Lilly profile image61
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    I just have no idea why this thread was posted in "Need help?" forum.
    Somehow I don't think we'll be able to actually HELP in this case...
    big_smile big_smile big_smile

    1. oxymoron profile image60
      oxymoronposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Someone joined new has posted this, probably had no clue on what's the purpose of this forum smile

    2. shanekruger profile image59
      shanekrugerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i am also agree with u.

  5. fishtiger58 profile image83
    fishtiger58posted 7 years ago

    I think if you are 2 consenting adults then it's your choice, as long as one of the consenting adults is not married. I don't think it's wrong.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    I would say it's probably not a good idea. There's alot to be said for learning with your spouse.

    1. JBrett profile image60
      JBrettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      great point, agree wholeheartedly

  7. CMHypno profile image87
    CMHypnoposted 7 years ago

    Neither good nor bad.  It's entirely the choice (or should be) of each person to decide when they want to have sex and who with.  It's up to an individual's beliefs.

  8. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    @ Poppa

    I C !!!
    Maybe you're that type hmm

    lol

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      Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well I certainly don't try to be!

      1. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol
        C u later gotta run out of here !! smile

        1. rahaulgtvm profile image62
          rahaulgtvmposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          daa no u are the one who take the matter seriously

  9. redemption86 profile image59
    redemption86posted 7 years ago

    good of course! try before you buy!

    1. rahaulgtvm profile image62
      rahaulgtvmposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      did u accept the tested one....

    2. dejajolie profile image60
      dejajolieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Agreed..... and for those who say you should be married first, what if you don't plan to marry then you shouldn't have consensual sex?

  10. Jonathan Janco profile image79
    Jonathan Jancoposted 7 years ago

    Sometimes pre-marital sex is good. Sometimes it's bad, and that's when it gets really good!

  11. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    I agree with Poppa - bad sex is an oxymoron!

    Seriously, I think it depends on the maturity level of the couple. Premarital sex for two fourteen year olds is a totally different thing than premarital sex for two thirty year olds.

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    bloodnlatexposted 7 years ago

    The only time sex is bad is if you wake up in the morning and have to go to the doctor.

  13. prettydarkhorse profile image65
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    PMS is such an issue in a restrictive society, sometimes because of the culture and religion too, and the prize people out on the virginity of women, this is related to the example of Virgin Mary...

    PMS becomes an issue when you dont protect yourself, you have unplanned pregnancy and too risky specially for young people, as well as stds too, 

    but other than that, its ok to have PMS as long as you protect yourself, be always wary of your future and the consequences of your actions specially among the youth

  14. Cagsil profile image61
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Pre-marital sex is good or bad?

    Having sex before you are married is a myth, supported by religion. This position is to have prevent children born out of wed-lock.

    Also remember, "Marriage" is a religious doctrine, made by people to guide people and in essence a system of control via influences of others.

    Is it good? Sure can be.

    Is it bad? Sure can be.

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    zampanoposted 7 years ago

    If you do it good, it's good.
    If you do it bad, it's bad.

    Just like about anything else...

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    It's important to remember that you have sex with every partner they had sex with. This another point that weakens the strength of a family, in my opinion. I would think a man or woman that we're disciplined and understood the gravity of the act, meaning babies, would want to protect the sanctity of the relationship. I feel it's important to remember the signifigance of all the ties that bind a couple as a partnership in life and how much children sense that bond. This another reason why abortion is so destructive because it allows people to do before they think.

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    mtsi1098posted 7 years ago

    Good

  18. Casper021 profile image60
    Casper021posted 7 years ago

    its good, atleast you know what you getting yourself into

  19. Colebabie profile image59
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    I have only had great premarital sex.

    As far as whether or not it is a good or bad decision, it just depends on the parties involved. In my case it is a great decision.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    I think it's a personal choice, that said, you select a wife to hopefully raise a family. She will be the childrens primary teacher, her judgement has to be above reproach. In most cases when the Dad leaves for work he leaves his children in the custody of someone that can put aside her wants and is disiplined enough to stay on task set a moral and proper example. I personally would be uncomfortable with a woman that couldn't exercise some personal self control.

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      lindsay champagneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I hate the double standard associated with this issue. Why is it always the woman who is made to look like a sleeze if she has PMS? I chose to wait but I know a lot of women who didn't...are they self control-less sluts? I think not. And what about those women who can't have or do not want children? This issue shouldn't solely be based upon religion and stereotypes. It's a personal choice and no one should be judged for which path they take.

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        sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        What's your point?

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      what about men? don't they have to "practice self-control"?

  21. Colebabie profile image59
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Just because a woman engages in premarital sex doesn't mean she lacks self control. Could I have waited until marriage? Of course. But I just chose not to. For several reasons.

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    Yecheilyahposted 7 years ago

    I don't think the question of "whether or not premarital sex is good or bad", base itself on ones "religion" or "social" background. Simply because I believe everyone knows the answer to this question. No matter what explanation one has as to why one chooses to wait or not wait, we all know that in not waiting, we were supposed to. Even with the absence of "religions" and social beliefs this is one topic we know all too well the answer; the same as we know its wrong to kill someone. Whether we choose to kill anyway now becomes a situation between the creator and our individual selves, however we knew it was wrong to do it.Because birth control is not scriptural, with premarital sex comes disease, early pregnancy and a whole list of negatives, so my advice? Find that one first. When you know right from wrong,your choice now becomes an act of obedience or disobedience.You choose.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    Cole it's just my belief and it's exactly the advice I gave my son. I told him somwhere out there a woman is taking care of herself and she prays you're taking care of yourself. So you can be a loving partnership teaming up to raise good moral children so they can do the same.

    Is he waiting, I have no idea and it's not my buisness, my job is done. I gave him the best advice I could. I tried to teach him to not be like everyone else be who you are.

  24. wyanjen profile image88
    wyanjenposted 7 years ago

    I waited. So did he.
    We were completely clueless. It never did get good.
    As certain as I was that he was the One For Me, I was completely wrong. Just found out too late. In the process of "trying to make it work" I wasted more than I would like to admit.

    Now, POST- marital sex is good!

  25. prettydarkhorse profile image65
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    PMS is only ok if you are responsible, protect yourself, if not prepare for the consequences.

    1. K Partin profile image60
      K Partinposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Exactly! It takes two to tangle! Both parties have to be responsible!! smile

  26. waynet profile image46
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    It's good especially when you have been on an all night marathon as it saves going to the gym...

 
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