I've tried that with some here ("As a PROFESSIONAL writer..." "What PROFESSIONAL writers think is..." "I just can't help looking at things as an artist, being an artist myself and doing art as an artist and did I mention I consider myself an artist and a PROFESSIONAL and I went to college and even read the newspaper as a child and also I'm a poet and...professionalartistpoetcollegeliberal...etc, etc, etc...") but for those truly, deeply in love with themselves there seems to be no getting through.
But of course you are right that it does reveal a deep insecurity.
I haven't run into very many out-and-out braggarts, so I sometimes think when some people think someone else is bragging the other person really isn't bragging. It's something else. For example, someone who is very happy with/about something may just take for granted that "sharing" his happiness with others is a good thing. Some people may even feel like they're always "sharing" the bad stuff, so they ought to share the good stuff too. Sometimes, as happens on the forums here, people come to tell others what they've earned. They're happy and sharing and/or they're aiming to let new people know that people really can earn. Sometimes too a remark like, "I've worked my way to the top at my company" isn't bragging. It could be justifying why someone thinks he has learned something and has something useful to share.
My point is, I'd give people the benefit of the doubt that what sounds like bragging probably isn't. Why be mean to someone who doesn't have "bragging motives". If he is bragging, so what... Either change the subject, overlook it, or don't hang out with whoever it is. In the scheme of life, bragging's not such a horrible thing. I think if you think someone is bragging it's just good to "be the better, more secure, person", rather than tell someone off.
I just started listening to Hip hop and rap music. Very very talented people are forced to follow the same sad script in order to get their music on the radio or a recording contract. They are forced to be braggarts or disgusting to get a recording contract. Yet they still let their talent shine through. Sad state of affairs talent young black artist are forced into.
I ignore them, they obviously have ego issues if they must rub in what better things they have or are doing than they think you are,,,if yiu must brag about your material objects them you must have something inferior you are trying to cover them with
I agree with B.C. BOUTIQUE. Those people who brags much about themselves have personality - ego issues. You can tell them upfront if he/ she is a friend. However, just try to ignore those who are not close to you if they brag. You can also give them the 'benefit of doubt'. They might just be too excited to share their accomplishments without any intent to brag. Whatever it is, don't ruin your day.
i usually tend to ignore them or i just walk away. the only time it gets to me is when they automatically assume im a virgin because i don't talk alot, and try to act like they know more about sex than i do; while pretending I don't know jack about it like im a little kid. when in reality, I have had sex before, and if those same buffoons bothered to ask me that, then I would've told them that. However, most people tend to make blind assumptions about me all the time in real life.
personally, I could care less about guys that brags, because as i learned when i was getting discharged in the military. a lot of guys told me that MOST of the sex stories they tell girls is fake anyway, so they can impress them. hell, one guy even bragged to all of us saying he slept with like a 100 girls, and lies to girls saying he only slept with 3. and guess what?
two of them raped him allegedly? now before you all start dissing me for down playing rape. take in mind, he even said it was FAKE. he basically lies to girls saying that two fat girls made him watch a porno with them. waited until he was aroused, then raped him while he was turned on. all so girls can give him a bit of sympathy. the point being is most guys that brag about sex alot are often the ones that lie the most about it to built themselves up.
you don't..... just let them brag, just don't hang around to listen. You ever notice when someone comes around and brags their words after about 3 minutes begin to sound like mumbo jumbo. I make my exit once mumbo jumbo kicks in
I don't care much about braggers, but sometimes people bragging are interesting in a way. I have learned a lot of braggers. I know you're going to laugh at this, but it's true. Lol And if they're happy bragging ,let them be ! don't pay attention if you don't like it
there's quite a few professional writers here at HubPages who state that in their profiles (myself included).
what does that mean, exactly? why do we do that?
because our HubPages profiles are a snapshot of who we are, what we do, etc.
if i laid tile for a living, i would state that, and do it proudly. so of course i noticed this attack on professional writers and the ignorant assumptions about what our motives are.
what i find more 'odd' is those who consider it "bragging" just by having that in a profile. what, do they want me to lie and say i scrub floors or sling hash for a living? what is so lofty about being a professional writer? it's our life's work, period.
i'm sorry if that offends certain hubbers like TK.
p.s. i thought of you immediately, Lita, because i know you are a writer and i know how TK follows you around incessantly, and your patience is admirable.
Thanks, Cosette. You made me laugh. Yeah, what are you supposed to do/say? Pretend to be someone else? As in, 'yeah, I actually clean latrines for a living, and am a good lil girl who lovessss Glenn Beck republicans' Or what? Would that make them feel more secure in themselves?
It's funny, too, if it were not so annoying. I've reported tk numerous times, as have others, but management will not permanently ban him.
So, healthfully, TK, what you should do with the braggart is just let them alone to their own miserable existence. Right? Let them be as self-aggrandizing and horrible to everyone as they truly are. Don't you agree?
After all, down deep inside, they fully know the depth of their sad, sad lives. As do you, right?
You know what really makes me angry? It is that women--just being who they are, often--sometimes get this tag (being 'uppity.') Whereas men doing the same thing are rarely thought of in that way.
Braggarts are something else--they are a lot of bluff and behind that, there isn't much. This is to hide that, and it IS insecurity... Also, sometimes, braggarts are not bad people, either. They use the bluff to convince themselves of something (I can think of an ex-boyfriend or two). Perhaps helping themselves get over a rough spot in employment, etc. With those, I'm usually just understanding & they eventually get through it.
Hey, I'm so F-ing hot (not a dog here), I follow anybody with a female photo representation around (even those who use photo ID's as avatars)--or really anybody at all--and point out various personality malfunctions, many of which I filter through my obviously slightly-off world viewpoints, as of course to concentrate on my own development might be devastating to me, as looking in a mirror often demonstrates my inadequacies. So I project, project, project. Not really knowing that most people learned about psychological projection in 11th grade psychology class.... And no matter how many others point this out to me again, and again, and again. I am dogged in my determination at trolldom, and in this I succeed!
The truth is I do not understand anything being read between the lines. I just concentrate on what I see on the surface as I am sure does everyone else, right?
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