How do you tell off braggers?

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   thirdmilleniumposted 14 years ago

   There is a limit beyond which you can not endure. So what do you do?
   
   Hey make it braggarts

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      manlypoetrymanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Try to "one-up" 'em ...they're probably just making it all up anyways...to brag that much!

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I ignore them. they just want attention.

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      Writer Riderposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      As long as they're not being arrogant, I don't care. People should enjoy their positive attributes and those who don't enjoy hearing it may be kind of insecure,
      
      P.S-The photo I used to have on here wasn't an avatar but my real one. I removed it because someone said it gave me an unfair advantage.

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      lorlie6posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Walk away!

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   earnestshubposted 14 years ago

   I guess explain to them that they appear insecure to others?

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      tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I've tried that with some here ("As a PROFESSIONAL writer..." "What PROFESSIONAL writers think is..." "I just can't help looking at things as an artist, being an artist myself and doing art as an artist and did I mention I consider myself an artist and a PROFESSIONAL and I went to college and even read the newspaper as a child and also I'm a poet and...professionalartistpoetcollegeliberal...etc, etc, etc...") but for those truly, deeply in love with themselves there seems to be no getting through.
      
      But of course you are right that it does reveal a deep insecurity.

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         cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         how is listing your profession "bragging", "revealing a deep insecurity", or saying that someone is "truly, deeply in love with themselves"?
         
         you certainly read a lot into things.

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         Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Bibowen has posted an interesting thread concerning you, troll. 
         
         Your obsession apparently runs pretty deep, which is frightening, to say the least.
         
         My qualifications may be ultra impressive to you (apparently), but they are relatively in keeping with those I respect.

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         HubPoliceposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         As a professional artist and incredibly talented writer I resent your comment.
         
         Did I mention all my qualifications?

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            tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            No but please do for that will surely aggrandize you.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   I haven't run into very many out-and-out braggarts, so I sometimes think when some people think someone else is bragging the other person really isn't bragging.  It's something else.  For example, someone who is very happy with/about something may just take for granted that "sharing" his happiness with others is a good thing.  Some people may even feel like they're always "sharing" the bad stuff, so they ought to share the good stuff too.  Sometimes, as happens on the forums here, people come to tell others what they've earned.  They're happy and sharing and/or they're aiming to let new people know that people really can earn.  Sometimes too a remark like, "I've worked my way to the top at my company" isn't bragging.  It could be justifying why someone thinks he has learned something and has something useful to share.
   
   My point is, I'd give people the benefit of the doubt that what sounds like bragging probably isn't.  Why be mean to someone who doesn't have "bragging motives".  If he is bragging, so what...   Either change the subject, overlook it, or don't hang out with whoever it is.  In the scheme of life, bragging's not such a horrible thing.  I think if you think someone is bragging it's just good to "be the better, more secure,  person", rather than tell someone off.

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      Friendlywordposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I just started listening to Hip hop and rap music. Very very talented people are forced to follow the same sad script in order to get their  music on the radio or a recording contract. They are forced to be braggarts or disgusting to get a recording contract. Yet they still let their talent shine through. Sad state of affairs talent young black artist are forced into.

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         tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         That's interesting in that the painfully formulaic "Oh! You got served!" attitude that grew out of that creative context has started to permeate mainstream culture at the expense of serious discourse.
         
         The painfully transparent appeal to popular support that underlies such an attitude can be seen even here with disappointing regularity.

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            EmpressFelicityposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I take it that rap and hip-hop aren't your favourite forms of musical expression, then

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               tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               The Social Commentary:Crap ratio is in no way justified by the thin entertainment value.

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         A Texanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Forced?

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   B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 14 years ago

   I ignore them, they obviously have ego issues if they must rub in what better things they have or are doing than they think you are,,,if yiu must brag about your material objects them you must have something inferior you are trying to cover them with

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      TINA Vposted 14 years agoin reply to this

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      I agree with B.C. BOUTIQUE.  Those people who brags much about themselves have personality - ego issues.  You can tell them upfront if he/ she is a friend.  However, just try to ignore those who are not close to you if they brag. You can also give them the 'benefit of doubt'.  They might just be too excited to share their accomplishments without any intent to brag.  Whatever it is, don't ruin your day.

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   Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago

   i usually tend to ignore them or i just walk away.  the only time it gets to me is when they automatically assume im a virgin because i don't talk alot, and try to act like they know more about sex than i do; while pretending I don't know jack about it like im a little kid.  when in reality, I have had sex before, and if those same buffoons bothered to ask me that, then I would've told them that.  However, most people tend to make blind assumptions about me all the time in real life. 
   
   personally, I could care less about guys that brags, because as i learned when i was getting discharged in the military.  a lot of guys told me that MOST of the sex stories they tell girls is fake anyway, so they can impress them.  hell, one guy even bragged to all of us saying he slept with like a 100 girls, and lies to girls saying he only slept with 3.  and guess what? 
   
   two of them raped him allegedly?  now before you all start dissing me for down playing rape.  take in mind, he even said it was FAKE.  he basically lies to girls saying that two fat girls made him watch a porno with them.  waited until he was aroused, then raped him while he was turned on.  all so girls can give him a bit of sympathy.  the point being is most guys that brag about sex alot are often the ones that lie the most about it to built themselves up.

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   frogdroppingposted 14 years ago

   I'd not bother wasting words. I'd simply yawn. A lot

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   SoftCornHippoposted 14 years ago

   I have found that the "I can't believe you're really saying all this" stare works real good. :   no need to acshully say nothin!

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   AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years ago

   Nothing is very often the best thing to do, and almost always the cleverest thing to say

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      tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      This is not the political forum, so I'll bite my tongue.

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         AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         That's what I said

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you are very wise, i have to say.

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         AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         To reply would be to spit on my own pronouncement (wise enough for ya? )

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   you don't..... just let them brag, just don't hang around to listen.  You ever notice when someone comes around and brags their words after about 3 minutes begin to sound like mumbo jumbo.  I make my exit once mumbo jumbo kicks in

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    I don't care much about braggers, but sometimes  people bragging are interesting in a way.
    I have learned a lot of braggers. I know you're going to laugh at this, but it's true. Lol
    And if they're happy bragging ,let them be ! don't pay attention if you don't like it 

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    fishtiger58posted 14 years ago

    A blank stare and then I walk away.

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    cosetteposted 14 years ago

    there's quite a few professional writers here at HubPages who state that in their profiles (myself included).
    
    what does that mean, exactly? why do we do that?
    
    because our HubPages profiles are a snapshot of who we are, what we do, etc.
    
    if i laid tile for a living, i would state that, and do it proudly. so of course i noticed this attack on professional writers and the ignorant assumptions about what our motives are.
    
    what i find more 'odd' is those who consider it "bragging" just by having that in a profile. what, do they want me to lie and say i scrub floors or sling hash for a living? what is so lofty about being a professional writer? it's our life's work, period.
    
    i'm sorry if that offends certain hubbers like TK.
    
    p.s. i thought of you immediately, Lita, because i know you are a writer and i know how TK follows you around incessantly, and your patience is admirable.

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       Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks, Cosette.  You made me laugh.  Yeah, what are you supposed to do/say?  Pretend to be someone else?  As in, 'yeah, I actually clean latrines for a living, and am a good lil girl who lovessss Glenn Beck republicans'  Or what?  Would that make them feel more secure in themselves?
       
       It's funny, too, if it were not so annoying.  I've reported tk numerous times, as have others, but management will not permanently ban him.

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       tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That's a good idea. Entirely appropriate. I notice that you don't feel compelled to work it in to every thread you ever post on as if you are afraid everyone will forget.

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          Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          It could be your obsession, troll?  Perhaps?  Your constantly following me...your calling me 'bitch,' etc.?
          
          When I talk to others (and I AM talking to others, not you--artists, writers, etc.) they don't seem to have the issues you do with me.  What does that tell you?
          
          If you were banned permanently, as many others also would like, I would be relieved.

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             tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             You won't find any post on the forums where I've used that word.
             
             Trying to move on from the name-calling and insults. You should do the same.

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                Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                You were banned twice for it.  You didn't even realize it. 
                
                And I have not reported other entire attack threads (which you have made this thread) against me until now.  This one has been reported.
                
                The ridiculous thing is you are trying 'to convince' people...of what?  As if they cannot see and make up their own minds what you are doing.

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                   AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Hehe. If you scroll down this page fast, it looks like you're being accosted by an escaped dog-sled team

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                   tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Really, why don't we move on from the insults?

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       tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That would be odd. That's not bragging.

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          Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          So, healthfully, TK, what you should do with the braggart is just let them alone to their own miserable existence.  Right?  Let them be as self-aggrandizing and horrible to everyone as they truly are.  Don't you agree?
          
          After all, down deep inside, they fully know the depth of their sad, sad lives.  As do you, right?

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             tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             No, I don't.

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       tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Rest assured it does not.

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    alexandriaruthkposted 14 years ago

    raised eyebrow

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    cosetteposted 14 years ago

    well if it's any consolation, others have noticed TK's dogged pursuit of you.

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       Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks.
       
       You know what really makes me angry?  It is that women--just being who they are, often--sometimes get this tag (being 'uppity.')  Whereas men doing the same thing are rarely thought of in that way.
       
       Braggarts are something else--they are a lot of bluff and behind that, there isn't much.  This is to hide that, and it IS insecurity...  Also, sometimes, braggarts are not bad people, either.  They use the bluff to convince themselves of something (I can think of an ex-boyfriend or two).  Perhaps helping themselves get over a rough spot in employment, etc.  With those, I'm usually just understanding & they eventually get through it.

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          HubPoliceposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Why so uppity?

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             Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             
             
             Hey, I'm so F-ing hot (not a dog here), I follow anybody with a female photo representation around (even those who use photo ID's as avatars)--or really anybody at all--and point out various personality malfunctions, many of which I filter through my obviously slightly-off world viewpoints, as of course to concentrate on my own development might be devastating to me, as looking in a mirror often demonstrates my inadequacies.  So I project, project, project.  Not really knowing that most people learned about psychological projection in 11th grade psychology class....  And no matter how many others point this out to me again, and again, and again.  I am dogged in my determination at trolldom, and in this I succeed! 
             
             The truth is I do not understand anything being read between the lines.  I just concentrate on what I see on the surface as I am sure does everyone else, right?

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          cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          i agree. there's a big difference between quiet confidence and braggadocio. i can tell the difference, and i wonder why others can't.
          
          anyway this isn't the first time i have seen writers disparaged and i just can't ignore that. cheers.

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          tksenseiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I think any instances of sexism should be pointed out right away on any thread regardless of the topic.

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             TamCorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    I will just smile at the person, enough to say, well OK what now

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       tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       And sometimes you learn something
       Hi pretty !

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          lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Or sneeze, and excuse yourself as you have to get a tissue and run........

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    bojanglesk8posted 14 years ago

    i give em a good bitchslap

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    Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

    I don't bother.
    
    I've got what they call "selective hearing". 

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