One thing that bugs melike nothing else is speeding drivers. I occasionally go over the limit, and even then slightly. But it seems no matter what speed you do, someone is overtaking. If it were by by a little, I guess I would not mind, but it'son the verge of insane.
Doing 80 in a 60 zone....or 120 in a 90 zone. or worse yet 80 in a 40 (work) zone. ( I speak in kilometers/hr) The media is always harping on about speedbeing a major factor in road fatalities. Reports of (often young) drivers dying on the roads. No-one seems to listen, and take heed. And then to add to the stupidity, they drink as well.
The end result, sadly, is that its often innocent people who arein their way that pay the ultimate price... STUPID, with a double capitel STU...
Speeding is almost always stupid-- but,
After about 40 years of driving (maybe more), I have begun to see the experience a bit differently.
1. Presume all other drivers are either stupid, crazy, reckless, non-attentive, self-destructive, self-important, talking on the cell phone, eating drive-thru food, smoking ,elderly, distracted or perhaps have medical conditions or disabiltites.
2. Leave space because of #1.
3. Make allowances because of #1.
4. Drive carefully because of #1.
That's very sage-like advice Rochelle,
I used to have to drive from Chester to Manchester every day (40 miles or so) and so got very familiar with what I like to refer to as "cocks of the road" invariably it was BMW drivers, who seem to take offence if you use the fast lane at all, and will get right up behind you until you pass the car you're overtaking and then get out of their way.
The thing is like Jeremy Clarkson says: BMW drivers realised they were loathed and have now moved...to Audis! And it's true, now I'm out of University and back on a driving commute you definitly spot these drivers screaming along. The worst of all though at the moment is White Van drivers, or worse, their diminuitive cousins the half car back half van!
I've had so many thinking they're Lewis Hamilton screaming past, but worst of all was when I was nearing my offramp, one just started drifting into my lane, I beeped, he kept sliding over, I held the horn down and started flashing my lights too even though we were practically level, I ende dup nealry off the road but then he turned back in to his own lane.
As I drew level and began hurling abuse, he was just hanging up his cellphone and threw it on to the floor of his van......typical!
I swear driving regularly is adding years onto me!
Nothing. I keep my cool and instead try to position myself so those who don't know what they are doing couldn't harm me.
Quite basically other peoples inability to drive, ha! Some people are a danger to themsleves and others when behind the wheel of a car.
i seem to be having a lot of close calls lately due to other drivers talking on their cell phones.
These people are usually engrossed in their conversation and will drift into my lane or stop without warning or turn without a signal. I've also been cut off.It's a little tough to remain cool and calm when you are dealing with these types of drivers on a regular basis.
I used to get upset when others drove to slow, or to quickly but psychologically our brains are all moving at different intervals, nobody can understand the other person who does not use a turn signal, or drives under or over the speed limit, the only thing we can do is relax as we will all get there at one time or the other. I always think of it this way, we are all supposed to get where we are supposed to be , when we actually get there. Why be in a hurry, or impatient I would rather get there safely , then pissed off or angry because I believe the other driver is not driving the right way. I don't cuss or scream, I just simply acknowledge the circumstances.
I'm going to have to think of you now as Ste. AEvans. We all need more of your sensibility.
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I used to be like the others when I was in my 20's after working E.R. and seeing all of the trauma patients and deaths due to vehicle accidents, I certainly changed my outlook on the entire situation.
OMG...I have to tell myself that all the time about relaxing and realizing we may only be a few minutes late somewhere..and what does that matter anyways? Its not the end of the world. But back in the day....OH I WAS A HANDFUL...Flipping people off, holding my hand on the horn, screaming obscenities like a mad woman.... I get that feeling every now and again and have to Check Myself.... Aevans is right though!
If we are doing all that we can to get their safely, without anger, rage or stress we are doing the right thing. Talking to paramedics, officers, etc. on patients young and old, the stories are repetitious the man or woman was driving to fast, someone got upset and rammed or shot them. He had to much drink, he is fine but the others were DOA. It enlightened me.
The &(*(#%^)(# idiot who positions himself for a right turn and then swerves left before he negotiates the turn...what does he think he's driving, an 18-wheeler?
Misha, you are the king of defensive driving.
Great topic, aka-dj. I might have to post here a gross of times.
I don't like speeders in winter n I hate when they dont signal, or cut in front of you.
I agree that the best approach to idiots on the road is "o well" and let it go: however, since we're venting - I literally have to use huge amounts of self talk and self-analysis to not smack the driver who won't let me turn either left or right, including changing lanes. Here in Florida, there is some kind of rule that seems to be known and understood by others easily and myself not at all, that whatever spot you're on, whatever lane you're in, ITS YOURS, BABY. and your's alone.
let no man put ass-under that which you have gained by road hogging. You take your life in your hands just to make a lane change. They honk, do creative waves, and think the speed limit only applies to the far right lane.
I could write a book, or just say "o well." ))
I hear you...I am in Cali and its the same thing. People are lame...they don't want to let anyone in the lane like you said. Even if you gave them plenty of notice with your blinker and looking at them...Also while we are at it...whats up with people not using their signals???HELLO thats why they made them.... They aren't there for any decoration purpose "for crying out loud" USE YOUR SIGNALS PEOPLE....that ticks me off....
again- " OH WELL"
When we took a wonderful vacation to DisneyWorld with our son, we had the wonderful honors of the entertaining drivers, of course my husband drove and he isn't anything like me. We were at a light and wouldn't you know it the light was red, as soon as it turned green the guy behind us honked and honked , my husband couldn't even remove foot from brake and apply to accelerator, he gives the guy the finger and of course wouldn't you know it the guy gives us one back. Our son's comment was "Dad why is everyone throwing birdies today?" As you can tell he was very alert and had been riding with Dad wayyyyyyy to much. LOLOLOL
not using single lights, driving to fast in rain or snow..now you got me started
The problem with other drivers is that they are in my way.
Your not one of the ones I was lalking about, are you? LOL
Now You're talkin'!!! that is soooo funny!!!!
One thing that I always find comical are people who are way too anxious and just have to complete their right turn when pedestrians have the walking light. Some times it is just easier to wait for these people to go because apparently they really are in a rush . I have nearly been hit so many times by people who try to make these turns when I am already walking across the street.
How about those entering a roundabout, signalling left, and going straight, or worse yet, turning right.
One thing I have to add, I have calmed right down last 5-6yrs. Like some of you, I lust make room for 'em, watch out for 'em, r-e-l-a-x...
I also practice a lot of courtesy. You see, I believe in the "sowing and reaping" principle. Now I find a lot of courteous people being "nice" to me.
Massachusetts is the only state in the US that has roundabouts. What a treat they are!
I have noticed, too, that often when you perform that rare thing, an act of courtesy while driving, all the drivers around you will respond in kind. An interesting phenomenon.
Man, we've got them EVERYWHERE. They must be cheaper than lights. Some areso small, a decent sized car has trouble turning in it.
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No-- I've known of a couple of "roundabouts" in Southern California that are even older than I am. here we call them "traffic circles". "Roundabouts" sound like more fun. The ones I know are in Long Beach and Orange, CA. and they predate the freeways.
Chill out folks-- and just assume most everyone else is crazy. It helps a lot.
1. Tailgaters! move the f*** over, that's what the left lane is for
2. Bikers in speedos! damn rude, arrogant road hogs!
3. Brake-happy people
4. Needing to pass then the other driver speeds up so you can't
5. Left lane dicks
6. People driving under the speed limit
7. Cell phones/texting
8. Idiots who do the speed limit or above in snow/ice/rain
9. Taxi drivers
10.People flying up your a**, going around and immediately back in front of you
I used to use my horn and/or flip the bird, but with all the psychos out there I don't do it anymore for fear I'll get shot at or worse. Who knows who's behind the wheel? So now I just mutter obscenities.
My pet peeve is when people in front of me forget to turn off their signal and drive for miles and miles with it flashing. I never know for sure if they ever plan to turn.
I do not get angry when driving, because I know nothing about the other driver. I consider myself a very experienced driver, but realize that judging others on the road is crazy. Even if someone is on the phone, I don't know why they took or made that call even if illegal. I try not to use my hands free phone when driving, or do anything else that is distracting, like getting angry.
I said try, because most road rage is just projection. In other words, what would make me angry is others doing what I have done myself.
Think of it this way, how many times have you been abused when someone thought you were doing the wrong thing because they did not see the whole picture.Offer the same benefit of doubt.
Slow down, find your favorite radio station and calm down!
LOL does it come with age or what? Look at us, everybody is singing to the same tune
Oh where do I start?! I think the thing that annoys me most is when people overtake you on the motorway, pull in in front of you and then slow down so you have to overtake them!
I hate the constant speed guy... your in a 25 mile per hour zone.. hes doing 45.. you get to a 55 mile per hour zone hes still doing 45. Nothing worse than being stuck behind people like this.
In general, I don't take anything anyone else does to seriously; because I know they either don't know better, maybe didn't plan to make some stupid move, or may even be jerks in life (which isn't my problem and is theirs).
I'll admit to feeling the blood pressure rise when someone tailgates. It irks the heck out of me, and it really used to make my blood boil when my kids were little and in the back seat.
I have to agree with aka-dj, about speeding, though. This happened over 30 years ago (so at this point discussing it is pretty much as without emotion as telling my eye color would be; so I don't want people to think I'm being a "big drag" on a relatively light-ish post). Still, I don't think enough people realize that "it can happen to you" - and they just keep speeding.
My two girlfriends and I were hit by a speeding driver (27 years old and apparently had a fight with her boyfriend at a lounge, so she zoomed away from the bar). Two of us survived. When people think speeding is "what everybody does" or a joke, boy, it does irk the heck out of me (needless to say). I know people can't/shouldn't go around living in fear of being killed out of the blue; but no matter how any of us thinks it's something that happens to other people and not us, that just isn't true.
For some people, as Misha said, it takes aging some. For others, it can be a matter of being robbed of thinking like a young person earlier than scheduled. (Rochelle, I like the clever rules you posted. )
AEvans, I guess when we have "up close and personal" experience with this kind of thing it does have its impact.
It takes aaging alright. You drive differently when you get older. The sad part is that many of these young ones won't ever get there, to realise it for themselves. I don't understand why they just "don't get it".
Must be the "it won't happen to me" mentality.
I also can't stand people who honk just before the light turns.
I've driven in some of the worst traffic in the country -- Los Angeles, New York City, Atlanta, Dallas -- but Miami takes the cake.
When you are driving on the highway in Miami, DO NOT turn on your blinker when you need to change lanes. It then becomes a game. People will purposely speed up so you can't switch lanes. I used to just hold my breath, shut my eyes and pray to God!
people who just freak out and break for no reason and make everyone behind them slam on breaks... I have almost rear ended so many people because of this...and not because i am driving too close or too fast
Yeah, I hate speeders too. Going over the limit by 10 to 15 mph seems somewhat reasonable but 25 to 40 mph more is a stupid jerk.
wish there were more radars out there. speed sensors in the road wwould help too. I know someplaces in So. America have that feature.
Oh, and the slow people in the fast lane, going below the allowed limit by 15 to 20 mph or on single lane roads. I mean, WTF made you the pace carfor all of us.
And the idiot who think a sprinkle of rain or avg rain will make tthem suddenly go into a black hole if they actually do the posted 35 mph limit
The fact that they're on it, for the most part. Nothing better than an open stretch of empty road
We are in a housing slump here in San Diego and many of the homes in my neighborhood are now in foreclosure, so people have been flocking in to pick up good deals. The speed limit is 25 mph, but these people cruise at 10-15 mph crossing the single lane back and forth while assessing homes for sale. Totally ticks me off.
Umm since I live in Heaven's Waiting Room (Florida) the drivers cannot see over the steering wheel, drive at 30 mph and cannot see two feet in front of them. Sad sad sad. I tailgate so bad because I just want to move them out of the way with my truck.
Not moving over and yielding for faster traffic on the freeway. If you don't notice me, fine. If you're just sitting there to block me because you have some power trip, aaarrrrgh!
Really, though, I strive to become more like AEvans. In fact, once I found myself getting angry with a fella who was holding up a turn-lane. Turns out, his car was stalling out on him. Boy, did I feel like a jerk. We never know other people's circumstances.
Another thing comes to mind. I've heard people complain about crappy drivers and then come to find that they themselves are indeed crappy drivers, too - and don't even know it!!
When they're in more of a hurry than me in the morning. I jump the lights and they jump the lights with me, tailing me.
Do you know that LA is holding traffic on the highway so the MJ family and friends can head to the cemetary? Traffic backed up for miles while the an unbelievable number of limos are heading to the private funeral service before heading to the Staples Center.
They ride so close to your bumper that if you ever have to stop fast they will end up in your trunk!!!
Sounds like you really know a lot about this LOL Sometimes I catch myself following too close LOL
It also seems like a lot of people signal as they turn instead of before. Or at least don't give much notice
I hate when people in luxury cars just think they can switch lanes without using their blinkers. I don't know what they're thinking.
slow drivers....one of my offenders laughed when i cut one off the other day....
I am the queen of road rage. Drivers that think turn signals are optional bug the sh** outta me. I hate getting cut off. Some people act like they have never driven before they got in front of me.
Tailgaters who blink their lights. I am not moving or speeding and I will even slow down and force them to pass. Easier to avoid a bad driver if they are in front of you then in back of you.
I remind myself that it isn't safe on the roads and drive with caution. I don't get upset on the road because it dampens my other senses that require me to drive carefully. Also, I keep my cool because there I may have my children in the vehicle with me, and they learn by example.
It drives me nuts when cars get in the fast lane and drive slow, so everyone has to go around them.
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