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What do you do when you get discouraged?

  1. aesta1 profile image89
    aesta1posted 3 years ago

    What do you do when you get discouraged?

    You work hard, put in many hours but not much progress. What do you do?

  2. Zelkiiro profile image94
    Zelkiiroposted 3 years ago

    Contemplate suicide. Well, either that or play some Smite. Either way, progress grinds to a halt, though the latter isn't an option while I'm at work.

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly how I feel like doing sometimes. I wish I can garden but am in a hotel.

  3. ChristinS profile image95
    ChristinSposted 3 years ago

    Do something else for awhile and consciously work to shift my perspective.  I find that if I am frustrated and keep pushing, it only makes a difficult situation that much more difficult.  Walk away for a bit and then come back to it with a fresh mind and attitude.

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You are wise ChristinS. I do take a break, too. It helps me view  things in perspective.

  4. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 3 years ago

    I don't think I ever get "discouraged" (or maybe I don't recognize it if I do).  I get tired, but that's "tired" - not discouraged.  I don't know...   I pretty much always just kind of either know where I'm aiming and accept that it may take longer to get there, and/or just figure I'll do "the next thing" (either in addition to, or instead of, whatever it is I've been doing, or trying to do).

    I have confidence in my own abilities, know my  priorities, values,  and limitations and weaknesses and general aims; and within that "framework", I pretty much mange to get where I want to be (sometimes soon, sometimes "eventually").  Even when it's "eventually", though, I know that "eventually" is what I was OK with, considering, and being true to, my priorities and values. 

    I don't know...     Maybe the real key is in recognizing that "tired" can easily be misinterpreted by some people as "discouraged"??  Either that, or else my priorities are such that all I really care about is that my kids and family are, ideally, healthy and reasonably happy.  If they (or one of them) is not there's nothing that would discourage me, no matter how tired I get.  If they are, I see "tired" as a good side-effect of whatever else my priorities are.  Seeing "tired" from those perspectives is enough to kind of provide a little more fuel to keep going.  So, either way, I guess getting discouraged doesn't ever really kick in.

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Lisa, you are one of those people who are upbeat. My husband is like you. I still have to see him getting discouraged. I am , however, the type that gets discouraged by little setbacks. Thank goodness I have a good share of abilities and resources.

  5. fpherj48 profile image78
    fpherj48posted 3 years ago

    aesta....First & foremost, if it is important enough to me, I refuse to give up.  Not much comes without efforts and repeated attempts at reaching our goal.  Discouragement is a temporary bump in the road.
    Take a break, a deep breathe and re-evaluate the big picture.  Speak, think and act in a positive light, as you search for new & better ways to attack the situation.
    Never hesitate to ask loved & trusted friends for assistance and be open to advice from a different point of view.  This really helps lighten some of the burden and strengthens our resolve.
    Acknowledge that you are discouraged, but only briefly.  Close that door and move on to the one that leads to encouragement!!   
    Good luck.

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I love your last sentence. Close that door and open the one that leads to encouragement. Another key statement is if it is important enough for me....what we value do matter. It also helps to have an upbeat personality.

  6. connorj profile image75
    connorjposted 3 years ago


    Well I actually have a three-pronged approach when I become discouraged. I complete the following three principles for success usually in this order below;
    (1) I try harder to resolve the issue.
    (2) I have learned to contemplate and think about a different method to resolve the issue.
    (3) I leave it to God to assist me and that is when the "coincidences" seem to come into play... Keep in mind these coincidences are really (in my opinion) "the handy-work of God"...

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I am struck by the coincidences you mentioned. I haven't thought of that but I agree.

  7. Diana Grant profile image91
    Diana Grantposted 3 years ago

    When I'm discouraged, I take a break - play solitaire on the computer, or do some gardening which is very therapeutic. It's often helpful to sleep on a problem - sometimes your mind finds a solution whilst you're asleep, and you wake up with fresh ideas; other times you just feel better after a refreshing sleep and can. continue working hard.

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You are right about your mind sometimes finding a solution or giving you a way to proceed whilst you're asleep. A wise tip.

  8. tlcs profile image46
    tlcsposted 3 years ago

    Hi aesta1, firstly I answer all of my e-mails, hubpages let's me know who has written new hubs so I have a read which always helps, then, I go onto the forums and get involved and finally if I still have no inspiration I make a cuppa! And return on a new day! smile

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      That way you become productive. Just routine stuff. Good move.

  9. iskhoso profile image62
    iskhosoposted 3 years ago

    Hi  aesta1,

    Well the answer is not straight forward as is question. I often feel that I may not correctly conveyed my thoughts so I was discouraged and some times, this discouragement creates new will to achieve this milestone. Yes sometimes, when I think I have done my job in suitable manner but I discouraged, at some time I also feel annoyed. Annoyance should not lead to the diversion of ones thoughts.

    1. aesta1 profile image89
      aesta1posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You are bringing an angle here I have not thought about, a discouragement of what we've accomplished and a desire to make it even better.