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I went to college, but failed. I went to ITT Tech, but failed. I'm asking a simple question: Is college a requirement for success in the modern world?
Define "success". I went to college, and leveraged it into a 22 year job. Hated the job, hated the location; moved across the country and became an electrician. Earned nearly as much and was much happier.
Success (Living independently and AWAY FROM ANY GROUP HOMES)!!!!! I'm stuck in Season 5 because of this. Because of my failure as a unintelligent autistic man, I'm stuck with a Season that started June 2009 and continues to this day, even and I speak.
You don't need college to be a success in life. Perhaps it is time to start practicing some positive affirmations in your daily life. If you believe you are stuck in failure and that you are unintelligent then you will be stuck in that thinking. Success is not measured only by how much you earn. I am sure you have a lot to contribute in life especially if you focus your energy on making the lives of others around you more pleasant. I believe you reap what you sow.
I don't think you need college for those things. You need an income, enough to pay for your basic needs, and the skills to live on your own. Skills like dressing, feeding and cleaning up after yourself and making sure your bills get paid.
You also need the ability to handle emergencies, like knowing who to call when something goes wrong. Not panicking and making things worse.
If you don't have those things, and you want to live independently then you can apply yourself to trying to get them.
We don't know everything about your situation and how your autism affects you. Some very intelligent people are not able to do all of these things for themselves. That does not mean they can't have a happy and meaningful life.
Easy for you to say. My mom is my legal guardian. Because of her, I'm now stuck at permanent failure status.
No, your mom is not the cause of your 'permanent failure status'. Only you are in charge of your success, your outlook on life and how you shape your future. You have a choice in every moment how to react or how to think or how to behave. Only you can do it for you.
I don't know how to do that. I'm not responsible for my actions anymore. Thank you for those kind words, though. I'll take those words into consideration.
We are all responsible for our actions. I read on your profile that you say that you are the only man in your living place who has an iMac and can operate it correctly. It does seem to me that you could offer to help teach others how to operate a computer correctly if there is anyone in your living place fortunate enough to own a computer! This could be part of the mechanism which will eventually prove to those under whose authority you are currently living that you are capable of change. Clearly, your Mother cares if she wants you to go to college. Like every mother she wants you to achieve your full potential. It might be that you have to go along it to gain your independence. Your own attitude to college, to her and to others in authority might have to change in order for you to gain your independence.
I already said it once, and I'll say it again. I'm not in control of my actions. I can't go to college ever again because I fear failure there. I'm a permanent failure. It doesn't matter how successful I become. Permanent means "for the rest of your life, you're a failure"
As far as I am aware you don't even have to physically go to college, you could do it on your iMac at home. Find a subject you love and prove to yourself that there is no such thing as a permanent failure. I don't know anyone who has not failed at something and if we all took that attitude the world would be a sad place.
First of all, you aren't a failure. You've learned how to do many things well already. You spell better than many of the people that write here. Obviously, you can read and write. So, you are capable of learning many things and without a college diploma.
If you want one, take your time getting it. If you can't manage a full load of classes, Take one or two at a time. No, you don't need a college education to succeed. Yes, it helps, but many of the people I know don't have one.
Get some counselling if you think it would help. You need a better attitude and they may help you with that. You need to love yourself and realize that you do have value in this life.
Strides are being made as far as understanding what causes autism. Give time a chance and maybe a cure will be found in your lifetime. Many of us have diseases that limit our lives. Realize that you aren't alone. Turn your problem over to God and he will help you also.
Being able to handle those emotions is part of being able to live independently.
Actually, you might be wrong. In the US a legal guardian can keep a functional adult with autism in a group home until that person overcomes incredible hurdles to get out. Those hurdles include earning enough money to pay for a doctor's evaluation and getting permission from the legal guardian to earn that money and to see that doctor. People in group homes here are generally not assisted in getting out of them.
Ivan, your mom will pass away eventually and your opportunity to get out of the group home will surely come then if it doesn't come sooner and you can't get her to change her mind about you. Work toward that day, towards having enough money to buy an evaluation from a doctor with no vested interested in keeping you in a home.
Meanwhile, try to convince your mother of your value as a human being, perhaps show her material about people she values who also failed college. It may be that I am wrong, but I am seeing her words in your assertion that you are a failure because you didn't finish college.
I didn't mention getting out of a group home, Kylyssa. I wouldn't presume to talk about how the system works in the US because I don't know anything about it. Neither do I know that much about Erick's personal circumstances, or his mother's treatment of him. I'm talking about attitude - a good attitude will get someone a long way in life
The op said his definition of not being a failure would be getting out of the group home. People in group homes have very little personal freedom. I can't imagine the super-human attitude change it would take to be happy and fulfilled locked away when you know you can make it as a free person.
That's right, except that my mom's my legal guardian, which makes my personal freedom virtually zero. Zero.
Yet it is entirely possible, as demonstrated by incarcerated people since the beginning of time. And I expect that Erick is well-treated and looked after according to his needs. He's not locked in a cell or anything. He has access to games, computers and various activities. He's writing hubs and learning all the time. With perseverance and that decent attitude I talked about, he'll be fine.
Talking about group homes, I'm in the best one in the Miami area, The only problem is that my reputation in surrounding areas is negative. I ran away 5 times this year. That's why the front gate is steel, black steel. I hate what I've become. I've gone from a person with only 2 medicines to his name to a person with 6 medicines to his name, 5 of them for my behavior and sleeping problems. I've gone from bad to worse.
Many things are possible. But it's not something easy. Prisoners who achieve happiness and self-fullfillment while incarcerated are exceptional human beings who put a great deal of effort into it. Your suggestion is similar to the one someone else made suggesting he write a best selling novel.
Which suggestion are you referring to? That he make himself as happy and productive as he can, given his personal circumstances? Why would that be a bad thing?
I'm not sure why you feel the need to be negative about Erick's chances of bettering himself. Why not offer some encouragement instead?
And why shouldn't he write a best-selling novel one day?
I was referring to your suggestion that he just decide to be happy even though he isn't a free man. Also, if writing a best seller is so easy, why haven't you done it?
He doesn't need smoke blown up his ass; he needs real-life suggestions on how to get free legally or at least how to make his time being held against his will actually more pleasant.
Pretending things are easier than they really are won't help. I am autistic myself and briefly spent just two days in a group home due when I was supposed to be sent to brain injury rehab. During those two days, medications were forced on me against my will, I was repeatedly physically assaulted by staff manhandling me to force the meds, and one of those guys kept using my breasts as handles he'd twist to get compliance. Admittedly, it was a charity group home so standards are different, but I'd literally prefer actual jail.
If he can talk his way or plan his way out, we should help him with that, not with getting used to being locked up.
I never said it was easy to write a best-seller, did I? However, it is a possibility for anyone who can write reasonably well. Why haven't I done it? It's not one of my pressing ambitions.
We were all (mostly) trying to make his life more pleasant. That was the whole point.
Kylyssa, I've seen you come into the forums occasionally and claim you have been insulted or put down by other hubbers. Yet, you do exactly that to other people. I know you're autistic but that doesn't make it okay.
You told the OP that his mother will pass away and that'll be his opportunity to get out of the home. I would take a guess that she's in her forties. You told Sherry she was condescending for stating the obvious requirements for living independently. You have to know that your words can be blunt and difficult to take sometimes.
It does not make the situation better. When my mom passes away, someone else will be my legal guardian. So, my permanent failure status continues even after my mom dies. theraggededge is right about one thing, Kylyssa. My mom is in her 40s; 47 years old to be precise. And I'm sorry for your experience in a past group home, Kylyssa.
Actually, your whole case would be reviewed with a change in guardianship. If you hit people, you do need to get to the point where you never do and all the other things required to live in the world outside. It's unrealistic to set your bar to get out at successful completion of college. If you can hold a job, pay your bills, and never hurt anybody, that should be enough.
I mentioned that your mom will die eventually because I thought it would give you a hope that someday, you wouldn't be held to the bar of successful college completion to live in the real world. A different guardian is unlikely to have such requirements. Very few people would consider it just for personal freedom to be contingent on college success.
Seriously? The only reason you haven't written a best seller is because you don't feel like it?
Yes, his mom will die eventually and they'll review everything at that point. It's a backup, a hope for the future if she doesn't come to value him as a person enough to help him towards independence rather than towards her narrow idea of success. His main goal should be getting her to value him, college or not, with her death as his backup plan if she never has a change of heart. Knowing you'll have a good chance to get out eventually in middle age is better than feeling you are stuck forever. He stated his mom permanently labeled him a failure and that isn't true, no one can do anything permanently, because they die eventually.
Working toward a job and an apartment before she'll allow him adult status is far more compassionate than requiring college success in exchange for freedom.
And, yes, it's condescending to automatically assume an autistic person can't dress themselves or pay bills.
Hold on, Kylyssa. My mom never said that I was a permanent failure. I labled myself that. My mom became my legal guardian because of the things mentioned in this post. Haven't you read my comments in this forum? EDIT:you did.
Then one of the things you need to do is stop telling people you are in a group home because you failed at college. If you are there for other reasons and will be released when you have ceased having them, you need to cut that out. You need to stop labeling yourself a failure.
I got put in a group home because I behaved bad and was too much for my mom to handle. The August 17, 2017 restraining caused my anger to get 1,000 times stronger. That episode caused a glitch in my brain that told me to kill and slaughter all people who wronged me. I still feel the permanent anger 2 months later. I feel like cursing up a firestorm in here now.
There. Right there. That was very brave and honest. That is your problem. Not college, not your mom, nothing else. Work on that and everything else will fall in line.
You know I was only kidding about cursing up a firestorm. But everything else I said in that post you responded to is true. I still HATE August 17, 2017. Now, I need to make a tradition. Every year on August 17 till the day I die should be known as the day of the beast, or 666, to put into better terms. On the day of the beast, I will be meaner than usual online. Offline, I will be the opposite.
I have an awful day I observe in August, too, August 23. When people overpower you it causes a deep wound. It feels wrong and it makes you feel helpless. Facing my feelings of terror and helplessness allowed me to set aside the rage in time. Two months is nothing. Keep reaffirming your self-love and try to face the fears that are causing your rage.
I had a lot of rage when I was younger, but women are raised differently so we tend to express it differently. I had months where I wished most of mankind would be wiped off the planet and that specific people would suffer. I reacted to it by abusing myself like you are doing, but not by abusing others, not because I am a better person, but because I was so abused by that point I didn't even consider myself a real person. I still struggle to avoid abusing myself. Please start that struggle in earnest.
The thing is that thoughts really aren't that important, actions are. It is ok to feel rage, but it isn't ok to act on it.
I actually missed a few of your comments, including ones where you described violent acts so, yes, I was missing information. I am using a new cell phone instead of my PC as I am accustomed so I am having a hard time following threads. I didn't know you were your own abuser.
Those are the issues that need work, your tendency to attack others and yourself. Calling yourself a failure is violence against yourself. Start there. "Failure" is just a bullshit word people use to abuse. Stop using it. Every time you think it, label it abuse and stop.
You make stuff up, Kylyssa. I said writing a 'best-seller' isn't one of my pressing ambitions. Just like I don't have a pressing ambition to appear in The Living Dead. Or to climb Everest.
But, yeah, if it makes you happy, then you're right, I don't feel like attempting to write a novel at this point in time. But you never know... maybe one day.
You literally said you hadn't because it's not a pressing goal for you. That's not making stuff up. That means you believe you can just by wanting to because you believe you are that awesome.
If it actually worked that way, I know about a half-dozen successful writers who aren't doing it right.
No it doesn't!
It means exactly what I said: that writing a novel, best-seller, or otherwise is not something I want to attempt right now. You extrapolated some meaning that wasn't said or implied. You made a connection to something completely different. I didn't mention 'goal' - you did. I didn't say I think I am awesome - you did.
You can't take my words and twist them into a meaning that suits you better. You can't assume that you know what I 'believe' if I never actually stated what I believe.
theraggededge, you do tarot studies, right?
That's not what Sherry said, or meant. She said that someone who wants to prove they can live independently needs to demonstrate those things, as well as other basic skills. She did not assume or imply that Erick can't do them. She was not being condescending towards him or autistic people generally; she was stating facts. It was encouragement.
And look, you went on and said almost the exact same thing, "If you can hold a job, pay your bills, and never hurt anybody, that should be enough."
What I said wasn't phrased like I assume he is an idiot. He is a smart man already upset by being treated like a child.
He is not less than. Having great challenges and emotional problems to overcome does not make a man a child to be condescended to.
You are taking Sherry's words and turning them into something that they are not. Again. You clearly know what is going on inside our minds better than we do.
Not going to argue with you any more.
Words are important. Tone is important. Re-read the post you are defending. Or just get a like exchange going or something.
People far better than you have treated me like dung.
Edit: Here's Sherry's post:
"I don't think you need college for those things. You need an income, enough to pay for your basic needs, and the skills to live on your own. Skills like dressing, feeding and cleaning up after yourself and making sure your bills get paid.
You also need the ability to handle emergencies, like knowing who to call when something goes wrong. Not panicking and making things worse.
If you don't have those things, and you want to live independently then you can apply yourself to trying to get them.
We don't know everything about your situation and how your autism affects you. Some very intelligent people are not able to do all of these things for themselves. That does not mean they can't have a happy and meaningful life."
Good grief!! Kylyssa and theraggededge, you need to stop arguing. As for Kylyssa's post, Every month this year except July and September have been in the top 10 worst months on record for me, personally. There's a portion of every month of every year that always favors bad behaviors, and that's the end of the month. This happens almost 100% of the time. It's like I'm cursed.
Kylyssa, I encourage you to read my latest article. It's found near the top of my profile. You should've received an e-mail on it. Its a very personal article of mine. This articles is on dealing with Failure and the 5 ways of dealing with failure.
Correct me if I'm mistaken, but I don't think raggededge was saying that writing a best-selling novel is easy, just listing it as an example of a possible goal that doesn't require college.
Not a bad idea for Hubbers since we already have experience with writing.
A college degree does not make you a success in life. It does not even help you make a living. Go to any fast food restaurant or grocery store and you will see that people have to eat and live. Your bagger or the person who flipped your burger is probably a college graduate. The college degree means nothing. It's just a piece of fancy paper that you had to pay for.
It is pretty condescending to assume a person who got into college can't dress themselves or pay the bills. High-functioning autistic people usually can do all that stuff; it's things you take for granted we tend to have problems with. Those things usually involve deception or stress management. For instance, you might feel no stress from fellow students calling you a retard again and again, but one of us might feel upset on a deep level. Or you might be stressed by a job interview, but you could be flattering and produce the right kind of eye contact to get hired. We tend to suck horrendously at the types of body language and lying required in the business world.
Except that I failed in both college and behavioral management.
No one that can get 26 articles approved for HubPages is unintelligent. Autistic, maybe, but not unintelligent.
As Sally said, success is not how much you earn and you don't need a college education to be successful. You might consider some kind of apprenticeship program, though - a learning environment with hands on experience built into it. Just a thought, but one that can give a great career. A classroom environment is not a suitable learning experience for everyone.
I see that you read my profile. I only show featured hubs on my profile, to keep the readers interested. You answered my question. Unfortunately, my mom still wants me in college, and my sister's going to college in 2020. My entire family wants me in college, but I don't. Also, my entire family went to college and succeeded. To them, college is a prerequisite for me to succeed. For me, I'm getting bored after 3 years without college. I've got $12,000 in student debt. I'm a failure not only to myself, but every member of my family, my friends, and society.
Erick, it's your life and you don't have to live with someone else's definition of success. Writers don't have to go to college. I didn't go to college until I was in my 30s, and that was just because I wanted an IT qualification in order to teach computers. That has no bearing on the work I do now. Many, many successful authors and writers never went to university. Many more successful businessmen had no more than a basic high school education. My own kids never went to school at all. There is a huge variety of paths that lead to success.
Not only that, but success means different things to different people. Some measure success in terms of money or job status. Others measure success in terms of life satisfaction.
Wait, am I hearing this correctly? Writers don't have to go to college?
Of course not. You are writing. You are not in college. I never studied writing - I am self-taught in that regard.
https://www.pastemagazine.com/blogs/lis … llege.html
Yes. Writers don't have to go to college. I didn't finish college, either. I couldn't afford to pay for it anymore. I took biochemistry and physics, anyway. I have a few pieces published in science and technology, but they are completely unrelated to the courses I took in college. The lion's share of (and the highest paying) of the writing I do is educational material on social issues topics, pet care, and crafts. I have zero formal education on those topics.
Like Ragged and Kylyssa, my writing is self taught. Yes, I went to college; and stayed as far away from the "fuzzy subjects" (as we called them) as possible. Chemistry, Physics, Mathematics; that's what I studied, not English or Writing.
And beyond that, only one of my hubs is about any subject from college; the rest is about what I learned outside any institution of learning.
Of course writers don't have to go to college. For most fields the work is all that matters. And many authors find ways to get to a publishable level without college.
If you are interested in writing professionally you might be interested in the forums at absolutewrite.com which cover many kinds of writing.
Problem. I can't write 18,000 words in one sitting. It's too much. Publishing a book requires decades of writing. 5-9 decades of writing in my case, and I neither have the skill nor the time to publish a book.
Could you write 100 words a day?
500 words every day for a year is 182,500. The average book is 90,000.
100 words every day is 36,000. That's a novella.
There are people who write many books in their lifetime. Who told you it takes 50 years to write one?
You're right poppy. It takes a minimum of 1 year to write a book.
It takes as long as it takes. Some people churn out a book in a month. Others take decades. There is no definitive length of time in which to write a book.
No, it doesn't take one year to write a book. It takes me a month to write a book. Barbara Cartland, one of the most prolific bestselling authors in the world wrote 50 books a year. That's about a book a week. Where do you get your information from?
Been published since I was 10 or 11 years old. Won my first nation wide writing competition when I was 18. Have been published on three continents (in print) since then. Nothing to do with college. I went very late in life.
You missed the bit where he's in a group home. His mother would have to allow, approve of, and pay for any such vocational training if the group home allows and supports it.
I'm 24 and still living with my parents. And I honestly don't mind! After all, I'm working hard to get where I want to be.
I still attend college, and I'm edging pretty close to graduation (I also work part-time). My issue wasn't grades, but rather interest: I switched majors a few times, and it really set me back. Nonetheless, I'm confident I'll be where I need to be within a few years, financially independent and happy.
The point is that success is found in different ways and at different rates. Keep trying and you'll make it.
I asked for a mobile phone at a Wal-Mart, and my mom said, "you have to go to college to get a mobile phone." I cant believe that my mom still thinks I have to go to college. She's taught in the ancient ways, the warrior's way. I need my own destiny.
The warrior's way would be to figure out some other way to get a cell phone for yourself. Such as by opening up different ways of making the money for yourself. That is not an overnight solution but a reasonable goal to work towards. It would also include researching the cheapest cell phone that would meet your needs, for example a reconditioned older model phone with a very basic pre-paid plan.
If you are close to graduation you might also consider that it would be easier to meet your mother's terms. Look at how many credits remain and the most interesting way to complete them, and strategies to make yourself more interested in them. For example by finding a highly interactive program were you work with other people and help each other. And connecting the course to your goals will also make them more engaging, like to get a promotion of job change that would improve your life.
I said it twice before, and I'll say it again. I'm not going back to college for fear of failing. Even if I did go back, my reputation there is so negative that I would be shunned by my friends.
We're not saying you need to go to college (many people don't), but there are alternatives that may interest you. Change to a different college, perhaps a 2-year one, switch to an easier major, get a degree in general studies, etc.
Like psyche said, you could also look for work that interests you and use that to fund your phone.
I dont need a phone. All I need is a computer that exceeds the requirements. I wanted a quad-core computer ever since quad-cores came out. Now, I have one, one that exceeds minimum requirements. 32 GB System Memory, a video card at least 16 times more powerful than my previous one, and it's the latest version, 2017.
Well you were asking your Mom for a phone. So it was a reasonable assumption.
So perhaps you need to sit down and properly analyse what you need as the first step for deciding how to get it--looking not only at your needs now but your future goals and aspirations so you can work towards them in manageable steps.
The computer you have now seems to function adequately. Do you need a better one, or just want it?
Your other option would be to begin a treatment plan for your fear of failure, because very few worthwhile vocations are free of failure, not just as a risk but as a certainty. And if you are near to graduation you have already achieved most of the success you need, it would be a pity to let that go to waste.
All of which is something you should be discussing with an appropriate counselor, face-to-face.
I agree. One can't go along refusing to participate in life because of fear of failure. Fear is debilitating and restricting. On the other hand, refusing to be cowed by it and rising to a challenge despite feeling fearful is life-affirming. Courageousness in the face of fear is what makes people strong.
I hate group homes. I've always hated them. I really hate group homes.
But I'm a Permanent failure, and I never get success anywhere.
If that is your thinking then that is exactly what will happen. None of us gets everything put on a plate. We only have to change our thinking pattern and do something about it. I have never had the privilege of further education after school and I have never allowed myself to be deterred by that.
You know why I think like that all the time? Because of all the negative things that happened to me or that I did over the past 8 years. I was taught that the world is a negative place. With Trump as president, that negativity exploded into a superstorm of negativity. I made up the word "Permanent failure" for a reason. I drink afternoon medication, which, in every person's case, means that they're crazy. In my case, it means that I'm unintelligent. Case closed.
I suggest you read three books written by John Kehoe. They are Mind Power, A Vision of Power and Glory and Money success & you. Follow his teaching and you will start to feel like the wonderful human being that you are. We are what we believe and you have to change your beliefs. It is within your power. I did a course with the author when I lived in South Africa. Follow his teaching and you will start to realize your dreams.
I am god's creation. I was born as a positive force. Somewhere along the way, I got lost in a maze of negativity, and it's slowly getting worse. Is there any way out?
Definitely, practice positive affirmations on a daily basis. Read the books I recommend and they will explain to you how to go about changing that thinking. Whenever you find yourself saying something negative about yourself switch it to a positive statement and repeat it to yourself. The brain will start to respond and you soon start to believe that you are a positive beautiful person. John Kehoe changed my life, He could change yours too. Please have a look at his work on YouTube and read the books. I want to see your writing change in the same way, start using positive statements about yourself, I am gods creation and I am a positive force would be a good starting point. The minute you type or say a negative thing, switch the wording into a positive statement. Trust me I cannot recommend this writing more and it will change your life as it did mine. Have a look at John Kehoe on YouTube
A person told me that if I think negative, I should write 3 negative things about myself and write one positive thing that trumps all negatives. I am an intelligent human being who lost his way in an endless maze of negativity that seems to be growing into a maze of self-doubt. How I get out is up to me. Currently, I'm not feeling negative. Intelligence and capability are very similar things. I'm highly intelligent, and I'm fully capable of doing almost anything. It's my attitude that's the problem. I think about 99.9999% of Hubbers agree that I'm 3 of those things; highly intelligent, highly capable of a lot of things, and a great writer. Anybody that can comment on those things, please do so.
You are clearly a highly intelligent, adult person. Affirmations are great, but action is better.
Have you researched the possibility of another family member being your legal guardian? Requiring you to attend and pass college to be a free man is ridiculous. Plenty of "normal" people who failed or dropped out of college are free. Unless it's something more than you've told us and you've committed crimes, you are in an unjust situation you need to work hard to overcome.
Negative thoughts don't help, but you are human and you are going to have them. Don't let people chastise you for having human feelings. People with negative thoughts are not bad people; they're normal. However, you have to stop abusing yourself with your mother's assertion that you are a failure. If she is going to be controlling and emotionally abusive, leave that to her, you don't need to continue it when she isn't there to do it herself.
Now that you mention that, look at my article on how I've dealt with autism. What you don't see are the behaviors. I've broken stuff, hurt others, both physically and mentally, and myself, whether it's by the leg or by the head. I've also run away from places. Houses, school, even the group home. I have an alternate personality called Roman Cena (basically a combination of two wrestlers' ring names). I don't want people to know this, but Helping Hand Controlls me. It started March 23, 2016, when I bit my mom. Now, I'm left with afternoon medicine, which means that I'm crazy. Did you get the whole story, Kylyssa?
Then you need to set realistic goals, like never being violent, rather than beating yourself up about your mom's obsession with college rather than with that stuff. For crap's sake, college shouldn't even be a concern if those are your problems. Most parents would be delighted if you could stop acting out and get a job or even just worked toward it.
Setting bars too high leads to failure. Rather than having a goal of writing a best seller have a goal of writing the best book you can, for instance.
If I were a teacher I would ask you to rewrite the statement you wrote above for homework. Change your thinking pattern. It is within your power. Don't let a negative thought go past without changing it into a positive statement. Draw a line under the past and move forward in a positive light. No blame, no guilt, no self-pity just a fresh start. It is within your power. You can do it.
Why would you want to write down anything negative? The whole idea is to change your thinking, no writing down, just changing that negative thought in your brain to a positive thought as it enters the brain. Someone once said 'think of a reason why you can do it, not a reason why you cannot? Read the books I suggested, look at the John Kehoe website, the youtube channel and start changing your thought pattern. If you exude positivity so too will those around you.
Sometimes reality is negative. Also, sometimes writing down your thoughts is the only way to know what you are feeling. If you don't know what negative thoughts you are having, how can you stop?
I forgot to mention that I'm 40% happy where I'm at, 45% neutral, and 15% of me wants to get out of this group home, even though they treat me like a king.
It relieves me greatly to know you are well treated. My own experience with a group home has had me feeling sick for you.
I also forgot one thing. look at my article on how I coped with Autism, Kylyssa. Look at my personal video that I put up on youtube against my better judgement. It shows how I deal with autism.
I will check it out when I get home.
I'd strongly suggest you research a path to independence and create a five year plan. Also, I'd suggest you study acting. It will help you to fake normal well enough that the people around you won't feel uncomfortable or hurt you. If you can pass for normal well enough to people who don't know you have autism, you can be treated with as much courtesy as other people are and you'll be much safer.
The more you say it, the more true it becomes. Do you really want to be a miserable failure? Because it sounds like you enjoy repeating it as often as you can.
The thing is, Erick, no one likes a whiner. So go do it somewhere else.
I'm sorry. It's hard for me. I've got moderate success on this site. 26 featured articles, and I still say bad stuff about myself.
No, you not. Change that statement into a positive one and remember that you have time on your side. One day at a time but no more negativity that kind of thinking will drag us all down.
What negativity? Last time I checked, I was editing an article eligible for Owlcation.
Read the books and this thread from top to bottom Ivan. The first positive statement you have given is the one just given. I am done here.
From now on I will only reply to your posts if they are neutral or positive in tone, that might help you see the difference. Negativity can end up getting rewarded if it consistently provokes concern and attention. But you have been given all the good advice about that that strangers on the internet can reasonably provide. Time to start rewarding progress.
I am going to define success in the following way.
1. You have to be sufficiently independent of other influences and powers to be able to make your own decisions for your own life.
2. You have to have good enough friends to make you feel worthwhile and derive enjoyment from them.
3. You have to do something that gives you joy. We find ourselves in the things we do, whether it is work or not.
So, no, you do not need college for those things, depending on how your life comes together. In fact, I would say 80% of the degrees out there are rubbish degrees. If you do an engineering degree or any of the hard science degrees, you are likely to find a job with ease. It doesn't guarantee happiness, because you still won't have your independence. Bosses are not nice people. That is evidenced by the fact that, depending on the country, between 75% and 95% of workers hate their jobs.
Small business people are the happiest. They have sufficient income to be able to live reasonably well, and they have the independence. Nobody is there to tell them what to do.
However, 80% of businesses fail. They fail because people had insufficient income to get them off the ground, and, because big business takes 80% of the market. Isn't it curious? Big business (20%) takes 80% of the market, and that leaves 20% of the market for small business (80%).
This situation is going to get much worse as AI (Artificial Intelligence) takes over. Within ten years, most of humanity will be out of work.
We face very dark times ahead.
For what is is worth, I am on the autistic spectrum, but other than that had everything in my favour. I had an IQ measured in the upper echelons, was considered (at one point) one of the most beautiful women in the world, was talented in numerous things (including writing), and was privately educated, and therefore had the right connections.
I failed in absolutely everything I have ever done, plus had the kind of trolling, bullying, sexual harassment, etc. that virtually destroyed me. Autism on any level is horrendous. I have no answers. I am now 66, and it's only just beginning to make sense.
What would I do in your position?
Start a Go-fund-It page, explaining that you are a not-very-bright-autistic person, but that, nevertheless, you are a human being who longs to be financially independent. Ask for enough money to fund a coffee cart, and then go learn how to run it. Be careful, the number of yukky people who will try to take it is not limited. You need to know how to protect what you have.
Coffee carts make a lot of money, are easy to run, and so long as you have a good spot, will earn you a good living and give you your independence. I might also add that, although there are a lot of really shitty people in the world, for the most part, people are willing to help others.
Take advantage of that. We were not all born to 'succeed.' But we can learn the ropes and eventually settle.
One more story.
Imagine a jigsaw puzzle with the most amazing woman/man/dog/computer/whatever as the centre piece. Then remove one of the pieces in the top right had corner. Regardless of how wonderful that picture is, the fact that one little piece is missing, even though it's out of the way, it makes a difference. Everybody notices.
As a human being, you have a part to play in our world. It may be small, but you play a part. You are important. Life is precious. Start a funding page. Fund a small easy to run business. And may the force be with you.
I am astonished at the very level of wisdom you have given me. Seriously, you are wise beyond your years. However, my mom is my legal guardian, so my battle hasn't even begun yet. If you want to read my articles, go ahead. Read my recent article on how to deal with failure. You be quite amazed.
College is not important. But education is important. You can still survive with skills. But education is important for knowledge.
That's right. I have a high school diploma...and that's something that my mom can never take away.
Sorry, a high school diploma does not cut it anymore, especially in the postmodern 21st century. One needs AT LEAST a college degree in order to put one's foot in the door. Even with a college degree, jobs are difficult to find unless one has a STEM degree or a specialized degree. In order for one to gain entrance to an entry level professional position, a graduate degree is preferred.
In the postmodern 21st century, a high school diploma is equivalent to an elementary school education, a college degree is the same as a high school education, and now having a graduate degree is equivalent to a college degree. Welcome to the 21st century. The future will belong to the highly educated i.e. those with a minimum of a college education but graduate degree is strongly preferred. In addition to that, one must possess an in-demand specialty. If one is brave, h/she can be enterprising & social media savvy to be highly successful. It is a minute percentage of non-college educated people who are highly successful. Most will work in dead end, low paying Mcjobs with no prospects of advancement.
You know what. You are banned from my forum. That's it. I can't argue with you anymore.
theraggededge!!! Ban him from the forum.
Quality of character is the most important prerequisite of success.
I would say life experience is essential to success in the modern world. Where college is not the only blueprint for success, it is one option. Military service is another and work force, yet another. The truth is, the more we interact and learn of our World, the better we will be to interact and meet some measure of success.
Hey, Erick, stop it. You'll catch another ban. There was no need to 'yell' like that. You asked the question and people are attempting to have a conversation. Delete those shouty posts and go and play a game to bring yourself down.
This link may help put things into perspective. There are some great suggestions there but you don't have to do all of them. Just doing a few would set you off in the right direction.
http://simplewriting.org/writing-skills … t-college/
What exactly IS a successful person, anyway? All any of us really do is survive, pursue some of the things we enjoy, and have some nice meals and good times once in awhile.
If we are very fortunate, we will have had enough true friends that, at the end of our lives, we will will be able to count them one one hand. We will be among the fortunate few if we are lucky in love, or if we are fortunate in having a couple of good kids.
As for living in a group home, most of us live most of our lives under somebody's thumb, one way or another.
Life is very, VERY tough, but it's also very, VERY good. Yours is the same.
Do what you love, to the extent you can--realizing that all of us are limited in our ability to do that.
Things are not hopeless and you can be a great success with hard, hard work and careful planning. Use your computer to research your situation and find your way out. Don't think of such research as time wasted but as research for a novel as well. You could write about your journey to freedom at the same time, maybe even create a way out for others like yourself, high-functioning people kept in homes by family with standards far higher than the laws as to what makes them good enough.
I dont think college is only way to success. I am student , but it does not mean that i am going to be successful. We should do everything for that.work hard. no matter you learn at university or no. we are students, live with parents and they think we cant decide anything for our own. but actually we should make them see that we are old enough already to take care, can take responsibilities and others. the only thing you should do ( in my opinion ) is not to give up. show more. its hard to be in age like us, i know. its even harder here, in my country, believe me. Don t give up , and don t anyone tell you you are a failure or something like that. Just remember You are not, nobody is perfect but everybody can be Someone.
Your English might be a little hard to understand, but I still understood it well enough to tell you that your right. College isn't the only way. So what if my mom doesn't want me to succeed outside college? So what If I'm a Level 2 Permanent Failure just by the way the group home takes orders from my mom? So what if I'm only allowed to use my only prepaid card for games and nothing else. So what if my Permanent Failure level changes to 100 or 1,000. I'm still valuable.
I am a college student in first year and I don’t think that I am doing any good in college. I have learnt so much in school that now I think that I should have dropped studies because even when I am in one of the very renowned colleges, I am not happy and I don’t think I will be successful after this. In fact when I was in school, studying was my passion and now I don’t study even 15 minutes a day. College life is taking away all my interests and this will surely not make me successful.
OK, are you trying to copy me? You're not a failure. Neither am I. Stop worrying about yourself.
I've been reading down this thread and have a couple of thoughts.
1. Just read your profile. It looks pretty good.
2. Is it possible your mom is also on the spectrum? It looks different in women than it does in men. Also, an article I read recently said that autism is an 82% heritable trait which means if you have it, there is a good chance you inherited it from one of your parents. It also means any of your siblings could also have it.
3. Do you have a way to earn money? It sounds like what you need more than anything right now is an income. I currently work from home as a content writer. If you can write a decent Hub, you can get paid to write content. All you need is a computer and internet connection. I have time tomorrow. I will sit down and write a Hub about it although I'd be willing to bet there are other people on here who have already written on the subject. Anyway, you don't need anybody's permission to earn money and money will give you options.
4. Your use of the word failure makes me think it is something someone said to you and you believed them. So glad you have finally declared yourself not a failure.
In today's postmodern age, one must have at the minimum a college education to be successful. Sorry but that is REALITY unless one is highly enterprising or talented or a combination therein. The average person w/o a college degree will be consigned to minimum wage, dead end Mcjobs w/no chance of advancement. In order to be HIGHLY successful, one must have at least a Master's Degree, preferably a Doctorate Degree. Also one must have a specialty. The only people w/o college who succeed besides those who are enterprising or talented, are those w/connections through wealthy parents.
I think your definition of success is a bit different from Ivan Hernandez's.
I agree. Most people have no idea just how much of a role the wealth of one's parents plays. Forty or fifty years ago, at the height of socialism/progressivism, things were different, but now it's a dog eat dog society.
Wealth is the springboard to success. That is reality in the postmodern, 21st century. As I have stated in my forums regarding the subject, children who are upper middle & upper class are the ones who will be highly successful because their parents can afford to supply them with myriad cultural, educational, intellectual, & socioeconomic opportunities. Even the solidly middle class( which I came from & STILL AM) won't be able to provide their children with myriad cultural, educational, intellectual, & socioeconomic opportunities like my parents did for me in the 1970s. Children born in the solidly middle class( middle level of the middle class) will have a more difficult time attaining educational & socioeconomic success.
Children born into the lower socioeconomic echelons( lower middle, working, & lower classes) will have a scant or no chance of attaining educational & socioeconomic success. Tess, I have stated this ad infinitum & have received arguments on the subject. If one reads & observes the socioeconomic climate, it is the upper middle & upper class children who will be highly successful as their parents' wealth provided them with superior educational opportunities which enables them to succeed.
Yea, I know. From past posts and hubs on the topic, we both appear to agree on that. So does the research.
Indoctrination makes people believe that anyone can achieve anything. Not true.
Exactly, in the future, there will only be two classes- the wealthy and the poor. The middle class as we know it is being phased out by automation & downsizing. Jobs that use to be the province of the solidly middle class are being downsized while jobs belonging to the lower middle class are being phased out & automated. The solidly middle class is middling while the lower middle class is slipping into the lower class. The upper middle class by their virtue of being highly educated( graduate & other specialized education, not to mention highly skilled) be remain the same with some becoming upper class. The 21st century is becoming the brave new world of sorts.
I agree. Now theraggededge, please tell gmwilliams that college is not a perequisite. PLEASE!!!
It isn't. You can be successful without a college education... if you are prepared to work for what you want. And there's no reason you can't go to college at any time in your life. It's up to you. Forge your own path.
Thank you! gmwilliams is talking nonsense. he thinks that AI is going to replace lower wealth jobs. AI may have an advantage over us, but they will never have a human heart. that's what makes AI different from us. They can't feel what we're feeling.
Artificial intelligence will replace our jobs. Obama thinks so. Bill Gates thinks so. All the top scientists, technologists, businesses, etc. think so. Numerous businesses in the past few years have already replaced people with robots. You are on a computer. Why don't you google that?
So you bit your mother and she put you in a home. And sometimes you're violent.
My daughter loves children, but after two years of teaching autistic children behaviour modification, she left. It put her off teaching for life. She used to come home with large bruises, bites, etc. from being bitten, kicked, slapped, etc. by autistic children. Some of her injuries were really bad. But the point is that autistic children did, eventually, learn not to bite, not to spit, not to kick, not to hit, etc.
Maybe your mother put you in a home because she can't cope anymore, and at a certain level of stress, one just can't cope anymore. Love has nothing to do with it. Just because she loves you doesn't mean she has to put up with you biting her. Sorry.
One quarter of Americans are out of full time work. That ties in with the UK (United Kingdom) which also has a quarter of its people without work. This is the result of technology and computers replacing people. For instance, when I was young, there would be up to a hundred switchboard operators operating phones. Now that job doesn't exist anymore. Secretaries are very scarce. Many jobs have disappeared since I was a child. Many trades have disappeared. Half a century ago in the USA, you could just walk into a job. That does not happen anymore. It is very, very difficult for people, even with university degrees to find good jobs.
The only people who are absolutely guaranteed good jobs are those with very rare skills with doctorates in them, e.g. computer engineering (to work in robotics and artificial intelligence), genetics (gene manipulation), etc. I wrote a hub somewhere on the five jobs that will be 'easy to find' in the next ten years. But they all require extensive education.
So while you might not want to hear it, in your current situation, absolutely, no, you have no possibilitiy whatsoever of 'being successful' without a meaningful, very difficult degree.
Here's the reality. You are autistic. You bite, and you lose control sometimes. You don't have a college degree in a meaningful discipline that is desired by business/academia. You fail whatever courses you do.. Your parents don't have buckets of money. They are going to die at some point. You are going to be alone without an ability to support yourself because you don't have a college degree or any other skill. Aside from that, business is not willing to hire austistic people. So if they do, it's because the autistic person has better skills than ordinary people - not fewer.
So, um, no you don't stand any chance whatsoever of being successful. Kick. Scream. Bite. That is the reality.
And if you want to get out of the home, you will no longer ook to your parents, but to your own capacity to control your behavour and discipline yourself.
Why did you fail college? Nobody is asking that. Because you didn't have the capacity? Because you didn't want to do it.
You say it will take you ten years to write a book. It takes me a month to write a book. It takes a ghostwriter 200 hours to write a book. it doesn't take anyone ten years to write a book. When an author says it will take them ten years to write a book, they mean they were out partying, drinking, working their day job, dating, etc. rather than writing their book. It doesn't take ten years to write a book. It takes 200 hours, i.e. five weeks if working at it full time.
I've written many books. I know that. But that's also the professional standard.
So you either learn a skill (electrician, scientist, writer, etc. ) and learn to behave in civilized society by not biting, or you stay where you are.
It's not about failure. It's about having the capacity to do something. And if you don't have the capacity, then you will need to be in care.
Ms. Schlesinger is right. What she is saying is correct in its analysis. This is reality and you must face reality.
They are wrong, Ivan. And they are being mean. In their world reality means something different.
Just stop reading the thread.
The overall UK unemployment rate (among people actively seeking work) is 4.3% as of August 2017.
The unemployment figures for people under 24 are higher, but it has always been thus. The figures do not include economically inactive people such as SAHMs, disabled, pensioners, etc.
There is no reason, none, why Erick can't be a success on his own terms. You are always trilling about how clever you are, how many papers you've written for, how beautiful you are. And you say you are autistic so why would you try to destroy a young man in this way? Nice one, Tess. Did you enjoy that?
And the thing about the degree? Don't be so stupid. How can a supposedly intelligent woman say that success is reliant upon the acquisition of a 'meaningful, very difficult degree'. I've not read so much tripe in all my life. Billionaire property developers don't have 'meaningful degrees'. Many top quality writers don't have 'meaningful degrees'. People who look after others and live a fulfilling life don't have 'meaningful degrees'. It's unlikely Erick will be a CEO, but not having a 'meaningful degree' won't stop him from being successful on his own terms.
Erick, if I were you, I'd look at those despicable remarks and use them as a challenge to prove her wrong. Every time you feel like 'losing it' remember what she said and determine to do better. Every time you fear failure, remember what Tess wrote and use her words to keep going, and do what you have to do, fear or no fear.
Wow. Why don't you read what I wrote previously.
I'm looking at this in context.
I'm not destroying anyone. And you're extremely limited if you think I am saying those things about myself. No, they have been told to me repeatedly by other people. I am simply repeating them. And I only repeat them when other people put me down because they are attempting to put me down.
You call him Eric, but his name appears to be Ivan. Why is that?
Also, my daughter taught behaviour modification to autistic children. This is NOT about putting him down. This is explaining his options to him in language that is very, very clear.
He does not understand that he can't have it his own way - that there are limitations, and that he has to compromise.
A couple of posts back I was being applauded for my 'wise' and 'encouraging' words to Eric. He applauded me telling me all sorts of flattering things.
You appear to have a thing about me - perhaps you ought to look at the big picture.
What 'Eric' wants here is his own way. He cannot understand that he cannot have his own way, that he has to comply with society to a certain degree. He has problems understanding why his mother put him in a home. He needs to understand those things.
You are not doing him any favours by painting a rosy picture that does not exist.
However, when I reach a point where I can see I'm talking to a brick wall, I move on. I am experieced with autism. You are not.
If you bothered to look at his profile you'd see his first name is 'Erick'.
I haven't got a 'thing about you'. However I do have a 'thing' about words like these:
"So while you might not want to hear it, in your current situation, absolutely, no, you have no possibilitiy whatsoever of 'being successful' without a meaningful, very difficult degree."
"So, um, no you don't stand any chance whatsoever of being successful. Kick. Scream. Bite. That is the reality."
If you understand autism, as you claim, then you will surely understand what effect your careless words can have on people?
Yep, move on, good idea.
Actually, I am on the autistic spectrum and I will never, never, never forgive all the people who placated me and patronized me and never told me the truth. If they had told me what the problem was, I would have fixed it. Instead I remained ignorant my entire life, and it is only in my early 60s that I began to understand a lot of things.
You cannot fix a problem until you understand it, and you do not understand that autistic people do not comprehend some things. They have to be told. If Eric is told what a degree can do and what a degree cannot do, then he can look at other solutions. If he is looking for conventional 'success,' and I think he is, then, no, he cannot achieve that without going to college.
He can, however, work around it, by looking at what options he has, and using those.
What you think of as kindness is anything but. It leaves people in the situation to struggle.
Eric needs to understand what the issues are. Encouraging him when he is going to fail because this world is not made for autistic people is not a nice thing to do.
It is much better to explain to him that his options are limited, and that he has to make a choice from what he has available. That way he can adjust to what he can actually do and make a living out of that. I did not decry him. I spoke to him as one adult who is capable of handling the yukky things in life to another.
Well, now that you told me that you're autistic, I actually agree with what you said. You were autistic in the 1950s, and I was autistic in the 1990s-2000s. My mom fought very hard for my education. I graduated high school when I was 18, so I'm not dumb. I'm just autistic.
Actually, my name is Erick with a ck. Ivan was the only other name that wasn't used.
My name is Ivan because 7 years ago, I signed up for squidoo, and wasnt motivated to do anything.
Is there anybody else that would like to add to this discussion, other than tess and gmwilliams? Kylyssa, I havent heard from you in a while.
Nope. I stopped adding anything when I realized it was pointless. I don't like negativity when I'm trying to help you.
And you are, but you're doing it wrong. Like you said, sooner or later, I have to go back to college. In the meantime, I could write a book. The problem is motivation. I have to get myself motivated to write a book.
College is NOT the only definition of success. I can't go to college for fear of failure. Why do I keep saying this? Writing on HubPages is the definition of success.
While 'success' is achievable without college, it requires money, talent, resources, etc. to do so. Education is a resource. The more you have it, the more 'successful' you will be.
Studies/Research show that there is a strong correlation between success/education and the degree of wealth of one's parents.
Basically, the children of the upper middle classes (Bill Gates was upper middle class) and the rich are successful (in terms of the traditional meaning of wealth). Poor people virtually never achieve success unless they have some sort of tremendous innate talent (stunning looks, great musical talent, etc.)
I did read of a 'mighty Christian' who became a mega rich real estate owner. What he forgot to tell in the tale was that he started dealing drugs at a very young age and became mega rich through the drug dealing, whereupon he switcched to property.
Neither my mom nor my dad are super rich. In fact, my dad is poorer than my mom. My mom makes about $40.00 an hour. The problem is that she spends so much money on clothes and other stuff. Sometimes, she makes 30 or 60 dollars in one massage section. My mom's got her own problems to worry about. She doesn't have a lot of money, and if she does, she'll spend it on whatever she wants. Sometimes, though, she gives me the money.
I am curious why you think your mother can't be autistic.
For the last time, she's not autistic. She never expected an autistic child. She did teach Kindergarten when she was younger. She had to learn how to manage an autistic child. She loved me so much that on March 14, 2011, she created a song for me as my 18th birthday present. what I don't understand is why would she betray me by destroying my freedom? maybe it's because I've been labeled incapable of behaving perfect, showing that I can live independently, and incapable of everything except waste my time playing games on my computer.
She did it because she loves you. You gave her no choice. I am sure it was a decision made in your best interests.
It is up to you now to prove to her and the authorities that you are capable of better behavior. None of us is perfect but if my freedom depended on my improving my behavior I know what I would do.
It sounds as though she "deprived you of your freedom" because she was afraid of what would happen if she didn't. You said yourself, you bit her, and you have been violent to other people. I think she was afraid you would hurt someone really badly, and then you might be sent to a real prison, where you'd be treated like a criminal and not a king. She wasn't able to protect you, so she had to find a place that would protect you.
If you want to get out of the group home, you need to prove to her that you are not violent any more. Then she will stop being fearful of what you might do. It sounds to me as though you have more work to do, to get your behavior under control.
Have you thought about doing college study online? Then you don't have to deal with other students, you can do it privately, and the only person who knows whether you do well or badly is your tutor.
Impossible. I can't do it for fear of failure.
That's OK. College is not essential. You can be a successful writer without college. Besides, I think you should be focussing on learning to control your behavior first, because that sounds like your biggest challenge.
Parenting is possibly one of the most difficult things a person gets to do in life. It is something we are not trained for and most of us do the best we can. I find it upsetting to see your Mums private life being exposed on the internet. I think that one should always guard our own and our families reputation. Any future employer, if they have any sense, would always look to see what they can find out about any future applicant. What we say on the internet cannot be easily undone.
+1,000,000,000,000,000. From the late 20th century on, for young people to be highly successful, they must at least have at the minimum a college degree although a graduate degree is preferred, particularly for entry level professional jobs. In addition to that, young people must be at least from solidly middle class homes where there are myriad educational and socioeconomic opportunities. It is extremely rare for young people from lower middle, working, & poor to be highly successful. Such young people are doomed to repeat the socioeconomic cycle of their parents & grandparents.
In some cases, young people from the lower socioeconomic echelons(lower middle, working, & lower classes) will even become poorer as a result of their jobs becoming outmoded & automated. The only way for young people from the lower socioeconomic echelons to be highly successful is by "luck" & possessing prodigious talents, beyond stunning looks, & other outstanding attributes. Otherwise, they are stuck in their particular socioeconomic strata. As I have stated in my previous forums, the future belongs to the upper middle & upper classes, even the solidly middle class will have a difficult time in the future.
In reality, your first step to freedom would be to go along with the idea of college as you could then leave the secure home. The fear of failure is not the same as 'failure'. Facing that fear is the first step to freedom. Fortunately, we all have to do things one day at a time in small steps so we have time in our hands.
Tess, this explains everything.
What a inspiring and empowering response you have given. How very kind, practical and supportive. WE need more of this in our daily lives. Ivan couldn't be helped more!
You've got these things available to you:
1). An iMac
2). An internet connection
3). Lots of spare time
With those three ingredients there are plenty of skills you could learn which you could subsequently trade for money.
With that money you purchase whatever it is that you deem necessary to consider yourself 'successful'. I'd suggest that being able to go to Walmart yourself and purchase your own phone would be one of those.
Is there any reason why you couldn't learn a programming language? There are numerous sites which help you to learn how to code for free. I mean really.... a college can't teach you how to code. Half of silicon valley is probably on the autism spectrum.
That's one example. I think college should be seen as a necessary means to gain entry into a career that you have already decided that you want to do, not something that you do for status just so you can say "I passed college", it doesn't make you employable.
You've already ascertained that you need a means of making money, now you need to think of the various means available to you and then determine what steps you need to take. College may not be necessary.
There is a 33 year old man in my hometown who started a business in 2011 with a few thousand dollars, that business is now worth about $500 million, employs 400 people and has offices in 4 continents. He didn't go to college.
The main ingredient is determination. You have to really want it, and I don't think your mum buying you gadgets on demand is going to help you find some of that - her stance is correct.
You have a lot of potential Erick, I enjoyed reading your hurricane/climate change articles.
I hope you can continue to write more soon.
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