I have a couple of those...got a gun pointed at my head, and the guy didnt shoot cause he was so impressed that I didnt flinch. He said most guys always flinched or begged or something. Fancy thinking I was a tough guy and laughing at sissys in movies and real life, and to finally prove to myself that I had the minerals. It felt good. And it happened twice on. I've lost my two sisters two - very defining. It stays with you till your grave. Don't let anyone tell you different.
A defining moment for me is when I had my daughter at 15 going on 16. I knew at that point that I had to become a parent and nothing less. I also knew that being a young parent I had to raise my child beyond the best of my ability.
Thankyou for the hugs and yes youre right ,they are the backbone ,but my dad was the other major support and he bravely raised four daughters and never married again either. I wasnt brave ,no not at all,I was scared shitless, but feel the fear and do it anyway, live that is ( darn I wished Id written that book) lol
Meeting my current lifemate; was not blessed in love for most of my life. We both are deeply spiritual and curious about learning, so we have plenty to talk and explore which is boring to most of our friends.
Getting ill with a mystery illness that slowly subsided, basically because I willed it to, I think. I was attending more and more graduate school when it happened, hoping to be a professor. And I remember an art instructor of mine telling me that it wasn't worth it--she had just gotten tenure and she was 50--as this is what it was like for MFA's.
After being sicker than I ever have been, I decided I had to LIVE. So I moved to NYC, got published, bought property, have traveled and have done a number of things I wanted to do. Still working on others...