I helped a loser out with money. I got this mothering complex. Compulsive need to take in strays, including the human variety.
Nope, I dumped him. I like to help people, but after a while if they prove to be nothing more than a continuous leech, you have to just cut them loose and make them learn to fend for themself. He was always sulking and stuff, not really stepping up, you know? He was always looking to blame others for his shortcummings. You know, the man is out-to-get-me kind of mentality.
I love to be a wife and thats my downfall. I stayed in my marraige for 3 years longer than I should have. I loved him but it was the stupidest thing.
I got married -- after knowing him for only one month!
Does getting married count?
Other than that, I'd have to say it was a money issue too...he was four months behind on bills and had several collections notices and I paid them all.
Well, if you're still with him and he's since amended his way, then that wasn't stupid. You were compassionate.
He never amended his ways, and I'm in the middle of the divorce . However, I must say it was a very good learning experience, and taught me to truly appreciate the man I am with now.
Well, this isn't exactly stupid, but it was done out of love. My child (6 years) wanted to play outside. I insisted she put on bug spray because I had just seen a tick. I got bug spray in my mouth from a back draft and immedately started to cough/threw up. I went inside to rinse out my mouth and continued to cough. In the end, I threw up repeatedly (about 8 times) so violently that my throat started to bleed. Hows that for suffering for love?
I hope the father of your child wasnt that loser?
Oh. not at all. I love, respect and am respected by the father of my children. He's the most patient and non-judgemental person I have ever encountered.
The bug spray thing happened shortly before I made the post; that's why I mentioned it. It so happens that my partner and the youngest child is away until tomorrow, but my baby was very attentive to me. She insisted that I take some honey and lemon for my throat. She even put it in a spoon while I was rinsing my face off with cold water to alleviate the nausea. Children can be so very kind hearted and helpful.
Then, my congratulations-you are happy person,wish no suffering in your life.
Thanks, but that's the thing about kids; You'd glady suffer for them. It scares me a little, how much I love them, because I am a law abiding, god fearing woman, but if someone hurts my kids, I may well end up doing something that will land me in jail. When you watch them grow up, it's a very hard thing to see their innocense taken from them. That's not something I would turn the other cheek over.
The stupidest thing I ever did for love was walk away when my then fiance told me she wasn't ready for marriage. She was 18 and me 20 and in the Army. I did more than just walk away, I tried to erase her from my memory. I tried everything, alcohol, drugs, fighting, none of that worked. So I traveled. I got as far away from her as I possibly could. Every subsequent relationship was haunted and doomed from the start. Years had passed and news of her getting married then having children would feel like a punch in the gut but then later I'd get a small sense of joy knowing she must be happy.
This story has a happy ending. 20 years had passed and not one went by where I didn't think about her. Her 20th highschool reunion was coming and since we both went to the same school I would often check to see if she was listed on classmates.com or classreport.com. A few weeks before her reunion, I found the email address she posted. I debated for a whole 10 minutes before I sent her an email. Another 10 minutes I received a reply. She wasn't happy at all, hadn't been in a good marriage like I assumed and was recently, I'm talking weeks, divorced. I was sorry for her and happy at the same time because even after 20 years we still connected like no time had passed at all. That was 6 months ago and we are again engaged and ready to marry in the spring of next year. We are both firm believers that everything happens for a reason!
This sounds like the makings of a good love hub if you asked me.
One of my writing outlets is with screenplays. She and I agree that our story has the making of a Romance. She's not into drama and neither am I so we decided if I do write it, it shoud be a romantic comedy.
We are amazed at our timing. Our paths had just missed each others dozens of times over the years and right at junctions where there could have been a reconciliation. A relationship ending, and the first stages of her many years in a miserable marriage, along with chance encounters where we said nothing we wanted to say.
We'd need to give it a title of course...lol
What a beautiful story and a well deserved end for you both. I wish you both the deepest happiness.
For love: lost myself as an individual.
For infatuation: on spur of the moment, quit my job, left my family, relocated myself to a totally new country, not knowing anyone but him.
Lesson learned: there is no one more important to care for than myself...because as long as I am neglecting myself, there is no "me" to give away to anyone else.
It's already a good story if you ask me, I enjoyed reading about it anyway.......
Thank you and I wish it were just a story... funny thing, when I was halfway through writing that post, she called me just because she felt that I was needing her... I never felt this kind of connection with anyone except her, maybe I'm just a romantic sap. All I know is that second chances are very rare in life. Not everyone gets a do-over.
I agree, I also enjoyed reading your story!
The stupidest thing I've ever done for love/infatuation would be to have lost myself in it, and delayed my college graduation. But that's not half as interesting. I hope that everything works out for the two of you, know that you have finally found each other again.
When I was eight I followed a girl home thinking I would catch up to her and talk to her. I never had the nerve; I just watched her walk into her house. We went to the same high school and I did talk to her eventually but she never knew that I followed her home.
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