Would forum posters be nicer if they had to see each other in person?
- pgrundyposted 14 years ago
0You are right melbel, I never see atheist threads that call the religious fools. It always starts with a religionists throat ramming their belief.
The only exception would be the odd satirical one!
I know, thats what I said
thats probably good!! I worked at McDonalds, sooooo thngs were not all that strict..
You're right Pam, but HP is still very tame compared with some forums.
It's very easy to be brave behind a mask.
I'm sure that most would be nicer to each other face to face.
And if I may extend your original question.
Would they be nicer if they had to provide and use their true identity (ie Drivers licence, social Security number) to take part?
I think HP would be a ghost town!
@badco - I thought you left? Twice!
Still 2.7, but thanks for the concern.
You know, you're dead right. I've posted in another thread that I'm thinking of going over to the dark side, so you may not hear much from this userid in future.Nooooo you know I love you as Eric G, jeeez I learnt a lot from you, and I know it's 2.7 but I was counting from when you posted it.
Besides I actually think I have left at least 5 times, you were prob sleeping for 3 of them. Ignore me Eric, you are one of the sites characters and I like reading your rants, plus yer maths are deff spot onThanks Nelle,
I'll still post here with this Id.
But another forum discussion here tonight has made me finally admit to myself what HP is REALLY about. And it's not a little community of friends, which is how I've always regarded it.
So I'll do some sums, create another ID, do some proper keyword research, and maybe fast track a few hundred hubs as a test with various types of monetisation. After all, that's what it's all about isn't it? Maximum number of hubs. And if they provide a reasonable return then I'll get serious about putting hubs up. :-)
@BC - No need to edit anything mate. And you've misunderstood my little tanty about the questions, and the chicken breast example. But it doesn't matter
- Leta Sposted 14 years ago0
No,
. They were warned...but I wouldn't mind if they were banned. A first. I'm down with freedom of speech, but this is something else all together.
- Nelle Hoxieposted 14 years ago0
I would regret if I didn't say it..... I would just say it and be done with it.... gotta have a thick skin.
Oh all those nice qualities.... honestly folks who are very nice sometimes aren't taken seriously.... at least among my circle.... about beliefs everybody is entitled to there beliefs but some folks want others to believe in what they believe in... I'm not very nice to those folks who don't respect others beliefs... they get no respect from me... talk about getting out of the kitchen....Oops.. steel is a good conductor of "kitchen heat"
Now that is a CONCRETE defense....but hey building a concrete wall of niceties may stop others from attacking you... but the same wall can prevent you from attacking them too... that is if you ever need to.
Naw. I don't need to attack back. I figure that they do very well on their own making fools of themselves. They don't need me. Plus, when you KNOW that your opinion in the right one, there is no need for arguing.
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
It's the same in real life, people actually go to the Cinema to watch a Movie so they can be offended by it. People actually set their alarm to get up early to go and attend a parade they are offended by. People are just plain weird, jeeez some make me look totally sensible
I guess you are right now that I think of it.
My grandmother used to get obscene phone calls and stay on the phone. She'd blow a whistle into the phone, threaten the caller, try to reason with the caller--We'd all be like, for God's sake gramma just hang up will you? She'd have a new story every week about how "somebody called and said the most horrible things to me for half an hour!"
- pgrundyposted 14 years ago0
Maybe we should have mud wrestling forum.
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
Thing that amazes me is why get offended by people online, you don't actually know them. Personally I think the Forums should be here for a laugh and a bit of banter. And if you can't take it then don't give it. Because otherwise the Forum is just going to turn into my friend Eric Gs worst nightmare, a Forum enquiring about whether a chicken has a breast. Hope you don't mind the friend mention there EG, I can re-edit it
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
Deff follow you around SP, that's for sure
Hmmm you might get offended though
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
- pgrundyposted 14 years ago0
- pgrundyposted 14 years ago0
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
I'm nicer in person. I think posting in the forums allows me to develop my argument better. But speaking in person is probably way more effective. I'm into the waiting for a response thing. I'd rather just have a conversation.
Question: How many of you get angry comments on your Hubs? I have had a few that were pretty stealth with being negative and/or condenming but I chose to leave them as approved because they are entitled to an opinion, even if they really did not seem to get the gist of the article. In responding, I always take the polite route in case others read the comments...
LOL Pam, just make peace with it. I don't like raining, too
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9K4BKkLaCIFreedom of expression is a fine thing when its not rude ,abusive, or mean-spirited.
For every asshole comment Ive read ,there are thankfully 10 nice ones to overshadow the ignorant.
I have been on a couple of other forums and although they can get aggressive they dont tend to hide behind an intellectual facade ,like some do on here.
I like that , say what you want but least have the balls to attack the topic and not the person.
Even some alto ego's are more pleasant its true.
On the opposite side of the coin though Pam , I think in person , I would be less likely to be diplomatic,so maybe Im being fake? , I dunno anymore. Sometimes I dont even care, yet I am a caring person. Contrary ,yep,guilty.
Anyone feel like a nice glass of merlot and chicken nibbles..Does it have to be Merlot, I prefer a good Cabernet Sauvignon and like is it a big glass. As for the chicken can I have a bargain bucket, adds a bit of flavour to the wine.
I am happy if you just have Merlot, and I don't want to offend you but if you are inviting me for a drink ya gotta get the right brand, ya know
And of course you are contrary, yer a woman !- contrary ,hey thats maybe the thing , hormones are the hallrunners in HB ,and for guys maybe tis low estroegen,why didnt I see that before now..
Ohhh so the Captain has a sweet tooth!! and fine taste.
Cabernet Sav ,ok great New Zealand has some of the best (they use King Of The Grapes)so they will always been the expensive ,bloody typical,but never let it be said I am a stingy host.....
Im drawing the line at the chicken order though ,your wine longs for roast lamb ,even steak.
But what the hell after the first glass, we can attack Candie's cake and it viola..break out some motown
- girly_girl09posted 14 years ago0
I write on the forums how I would talk to other's in real life. That being said, I'm assertive, outgoing and a bit sarcastic at times offline and here on hubpages. No different for me.
I've met some very difficult and rude people in life, but I find it hard to believe that many on hubpages would talk to others in real-life like they do on here! I hope not!!! LOL
I am truly fascinated on a daily basis as to what people say on here...I have never taken part in an online forum before.
Craziness! But, it's so interesting to read that I can't stay away. You will probably find it hard to believe that in reality I am actually a sarky git as well. To be honest I would have no hestitation in saying anything I type in person and have done.
On the minus side, I am on my own and I have no friends, maybe that old saying is true, best keeping yer gob shutHowever, I have never seen you write anything overly cruel or mean. You are just an honest guy, and we like your style
. There are some here on the forums that claim to be caring, but they are constantly following those around who do not agree with them.
Ok make the steak well done, am on my way
That my friend is the problem even sending an email, sometimes the written word doesn't come across the same as talking and the body language and sometimes a sarcastic witty throw away comment can be mistaken as being rude or an attack on the person. The written word also can have so many different meanings, jeeez no wonder the forums can be a minefield
I try to be nice, and give people a chance. Then when I see that they are going to continue being a troll, I get nasty back. If they can get away with it, then so can I.
People can also be downright rude and cruel in real life too- ever been to a place called "high school"?
Definitely, things can be taken the wrong way online, and I find that's why smileys are sometimes called for to actually let the person know, "just kidding, don't kill me!" That's what they're there for, right?Wow, Maddie. Do you and Misha talk a lot?
- Leta Sposted 14 years ago0
Lita, thanks.
Rynaldos, I've seen what you mean. I've seen some new people on here and some of the wisecrack answers they get, and wondered if that's enough to make them just go away and never come back. 
As Lita said, a lot of times there are people who attempt to make "witty" remarks but who may seem rude to those who don't know them. Even with that, though, the vast majority of posts (outside politics and religion, of course) are either neutral or nice. I think it's more that you were unlucky enough to have had your threads spotted by one of the few "meanies" (who should just be overlooked).
Being active in the community will help you in a few different ways, so don't be driven away by a few people who may have had a bad day.
I have been told that I remain the same online as off. In your face if I disagree about having something force fed, and easy going if you don't.
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