This question is restricted to a married situation. You walk in or him or him or her atop, or beneath, or however a woman or man. Whatcha gwan?
Well I never actually saw them doing it but she was still in the bed.
for rizzie, Sandy. Ha ha ha. Hey, what about the bimbo, punch her too? Gawd, gimme the whole tale. That's if you dont mind, of course.
Na, I don't mind it was a long time ago. I came home to get an envelope. He didn't want me to come in the house. So I knew something was up.
After I fought through the door and walked in the bedroom. There she was, surprised as all hell. I figured since she was stupid enough to still be in the bed when she could obviously hear me at the door, then... I don't know.
I just walked back out...still got my envelope though lol and when he tried to explain. I punched him in the face.
What're trying to do, Sandy? Get me to love ya? Lol. Ha, what a brilliant way to handle it. Love it! Love it!
lol- it was one of those times in life where you get so angry and upset at the same time that the only thing you can do is stay calm. Believe me, I wanted rip his nuts off and feed them to him with his mistress standing behind him to watch him sh*t balls!
You know, that is so funny, when they try to explain the plain truth staring at you. Yea what are you going to say, Ah sweet heart, I'm thinking about becoming a gynecologist and this sweet girl just happened to volunteer her time, isn't that so sweet...lol...way to go Sandra
One can never say how one would react to such a situation, too many factors would affect the reaction, not the least of which would be your emotional state of mind at the time and whether or not you might, if even subconsciously, expected this to take place.
For me, this would be a clear indication of a problem with the marriage, however, if it has gone this far, it's likely suspicions have been felt for a long time. One, happily married, doesn't just jump into bed with someone at the first opportunity though I'm sure such a thing occurs, it's not the norm.
That being said, I would probably just turn around and leave hoping I wasn't seen, but if I was, it really wouldn't matter except it might ruin their finish. This could give me time to digest and release the emotional stress and calculate the next logical step, which would depend on the answer to the question, is this marriage worth the trouble of saving?
It takes a really strong and forgiving person to forgive such a discretion, but one would have to forget it too and that is quite hard. There would always be a doubt as to the faithfulness of the other party and that's hard to overcome. On the other hand when one is just dating one seems to be able to let go of the thought that the one you're with has entertained other partners.
Bottom line is you can't control what others do, you can only control your own behaviour. Acting on emotion is often something that you'll regret later on and it's best to get composure first before doing anything. There will be time to express your emotions later when it's more appropriate.
Very elaborate comment there, poppa. Good one. It would be swell if all men could adopt that cool, mature attitude in such a situation. Thanks for the input.
Well having lived it, made the attempt at trying to save the marriage and finally having gone through the divorce, I learned a lot. The hardest part is trying to determine if what you have is worth saving, and the answer to that question is one that both parties must agree upon.
My now ex-wife simply THOUGHT I was cheating on her and she quietly started a no fault divorce. I was working for Deja Vu Showgirls at the time. (I look nice in a tux shirt. . .especially back then when I was 20 pounds lighter!) So she asked me to sleep in the family room on the pullout couch so my hours would not disturb her sleep. (This was actually her way of getting me out of our bed for a specific period of days). Eventually, she had to speak to me about it but not before she had all her plans in place.
She thought I was doing strippers and visiting porn actresses. I wasn't--technically. I was getting attention from them but technically I did not have sex with those women! After the divorce and when she was dating her now second hubby she told me she didn't think I loved her any more and that I was too big for her. (Wow. I can't believe I just put that in a public forum!) Seriously, I guess I was internally bruising her when we ,you know, did it. I mean I knew I made her sore sometimes but she never told me I was actually bruising her inside!
So she didn't even need to see me with someone else to leave MY ass. Oh yeah, that was the other thing. I was too big to fit all the way inside her BUT, I digress. . .
Well I am in the middle of a divorce, but I have thought of this often. I would probably beat the shit out of him, say thanks for the alimony, and walk out. LOL
Walk and never look back nor to the side just upward an onward.
I would hope I could maybe hold my anger just long enough to fill the hems of the bedroom curtains with a couple of dead fish though......disconnect the electric( snip snip)....maybe place an advertisement in the local classifieds sections too
Im not advocating divorce goodfriend, I believe in marriage ,its just that sometimes when nothing helps, its always best to be kind to yourself....step back and say ..what would I do to help this person (meaning yourself)....and then do it....
For me...it would be to keep my dignity and walk proudly away.
My husband didn't cheat on me. Know he was a good person in that way. Know I left him for other reasons, but what I was saying is, a few years back the person that I was, would have beat the shit out of him....lol
turn around and leave. Pack my s**t, and Im gone. Been there,(well, not exactly, I wasnt married, and didnt see it..but still..) done that, never doing it agian.
That is the ultimate betrayal of trust. If I were to catch my spouse betraying me, that would be it. It would be over. I have had relationships in the past where I tried to work through it, but the trust was gone. I couldn't get past it.
Tom me thinks I am quitting your fan club....lol....I believe at one time I would have. oops not a fan yet! heading over there, but contemplating at the same time....lol
That would be my reason to join ya fan club
I have nothing to worry about, but if it were to happen, my reaction would be different depending on where I say them at. What a horrible thing to think about.
If she was with a guy, I would feel very, very angry and sad
If she was with a girl, I would feel very, very left out and sad
Basically all the hot wives in here will walk out of their man. Hmmm, wont you even try to work it out? Even for the kids? If there're?
Whats to work out CJ...he couldnt keep his willy in his pants?
Dont get me wrong. I'm all for fidelity and all. But what if he slipped, and is remorseful as hell about it. I mean really really sorry. And you had kids and all. You wouldn't even try?
I wouldnt , whats kids got to do with it? they shouldnt be used
under any circumstance...No divorce is for big people..it shouldnt stop him being a good father...at all
Thats cool if hes sorry...but I wouldnt be able to look at him the same way...trust broken is broken. A broken cup can be replaced , the heart well , how would you feel CJ?
I agree, kids are to be used in any sort of way especially as leverage. My parents stayed together because of "us" the kids and they made our lives miserable.
Of course it goes a lot further then miserable.
You know what, EK? People think I'm a loose canon. But if that kinda stuff happens to me - God forbid - I would probably be so calm about it. That's the thing with me, I'm calm like Bogart when stuff like that happens. But I probably wouldn't be able to look at her face again, or even talk to her. Overall, I really cant articulate my thoughts on this. That's why I'm asking those of you who are married or have been married.
More then likely we did try to work it out, before it all came falling down, to this very thing. So if he wasn't willing to talk, then why would he want to after being caught naked, unless he was afraid of what you might tell others.
I have kids. I was raised by peopel who "stayed together for the kids". they shouldnt have. Its awful to see your parents, they are miserable, you KNOW they dont love each other, and you know they stayed together for you. As a kid, you think it must be your fault your parents are so unhappy. I have been cheated on before, I have respect for people who make it work. I couldnt. no way. My husband knows all this. If he cheated on me, it would be full well knowing the consequences. No more cookies for him!!
I would never in a million years disrespect him like that, and I demand the same.
Um that happened to my mom when she was engaged before she met my dad. She came home from vacation and her fiance was in bed with another woman. She pulled a shotgun on him and told him to get out of the apartment. Mama don't play!
Honestly, I really don't know but I just Pray to God that won't happen.
what is the person they were doing it with was really realy ugly?
Would anyone feel a bit of pity too?
There are no valid excuses or reasons for breaking someone's trust no matter what we tell ourselves to justify the act. I didn't walk in on them, just saw the loving and lingering hugs at the airport - in front of me! The partner! HAH! That was enough to provoke a most civilized but candid confrontation and now I no longer have a partner. I suppose, in all honesty, I didn't have one anymore by the time of the "hugs" - at least not in their minds
Well not to justify it but these things usually happen for a reason. Usually someone in the relationship is not getting something they need and lines of communication break down leading them to seek what they need elsewhere. The important thing to remember when someone cheats on you, is it's not your fault.
I understand what you are saying, but what if we are talking ugly BEYOND historical measures.. i mean the kind of ugly that makes you look twice just to make sure she/he is doing it with another human being? The kind of ugly that makes you take out your cell phone's camera and post a picture on YouTube? Wouldnt that take a bit of the pain's edge away?
I would probably just leave him. It is simple as that for me .
Pray hard I didn't have any children with her. Also pray I had the strength not to shoot anyone.....
by kmackey32 9 years ago
One time, my husband and I did it in our front yard whils cars where going by. A friend of ours asked me what we were doing the other night in the yard! LOL
by Ambition 8 years ago
Hey friends, lets have some fun, check your creativity. The question is simple??if u r magician in wat would u turn d person above u into?
by docrehab 8 years ago
What are you doing for christmas ?
by Rafini 8 years ago
by cocolover? I just re-read my post and...yeah, I don't get it. They opened an account together cuz they wanted to share? kimberly reported it, though. Anyway - was I right the first time? lol I feel ridiculous, at the moment. lol
by dingdong 9 years ago
by AnythingArtzy 8 years ago
tough question maybe but I think that love and the desire to share everything I could with that person would override any fears. what about you?
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