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Would you marry some one with a terminal illness?

  1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
    AnythingArtzyposted 7 years ago

    tough question maybe but I think that love and the desire to share everything I could with that person would override any fears. what about you?

    1. rebekahELLE profile image89
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      absolutely. true love is hard to find.
      I think it would be so sad to be alone. death is a passing.

    2. Dao Hoa profile image61
      Dao Hoaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      It is a personal choice and depending on how you are handling the emotional part. Will you be happy that you share the time that person have left? Will you be devastated after the person passed away? Are you already having a long term relationship with the person?

      1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
        AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        As apposed to not being devestated by the "sudden" death of a spouse?????

        Not being nasty just getting a perspective. I'm torn between wanting to marry again and of course being quite upfront and Not wanting to put that extra baggage on someone. There are no guareentees in life but I'm thinking most of us would rather take our chances with the unknown rather than go into a relationship that is already limited for time.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image64
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I will if I am in love with him

      1. Flightkeeper profile image74
        Flightkeeperposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Hi Pretty! Totally agree.

  2. Mikel G Roberts profile image81
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    If I was in Love, absolutely.( were all dying, with someone that is sick you just have a better idea of when.)


    (and if she was rich...lol)

    1. drej2522 profile image81
      drej2522posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      and hot, of course smile lol

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image81
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Yea well, with me personally, she would have to be hot or I wouldn't have fallen in love with her... (looks are a big part of attraction for me)

  3. AnythingArtzy profile image81
    AnythingArtzyposted 7 years ago

    yes lets not forget the rich part lol lol lol
    goofy guy lol lol

  4. Craftsmith profile image60
    Craftsmithposted 7 years ago

    what a coincidence..i was thinking about the same question yesterday..and found the answer to be really easy....if am in love with the person...for sure..no doubts about it...rather i would marry the person at the  earliest !

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    loriamooreposted 7 years ago

    That's a tough one.  In theory, even a short time with someone you love is better than no time with that person.

  6. Ann Nonymous profile image61
    Ann Nonymousposted 7 years ago

    I think the movie "A Walk To Remember" says it best.
    And yes it's just a movie, based on a novel, but there are others out there with the same mindset....one would hope!

  7. AnythingArtzy profile image81
    AnythingArtzyposted 7 years ago

    This is all very encouraging. smile

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    Ghost32posted 7 years ago

    I not only would do so; I DID do so.  Pam and I'd been together 9.5 years when the feds started cutting her SSI (disability) check for no good reason (assuming she was practicing fraud, which she most certainly was not).  So we got hitched and told the govt. to take their money and go p*** up a rope (in slightly more civil terms, of course).  This was May 19, 2006.

    By which time she was known to have brain demyelination with probably both Parkinson's and Alzheimer's beginning to develop, COPD, and a host of other ailments--quite a few of them progressively degenerative--which would take far too long to list here.  She's also SMI (Severely Mentally Ill).

    No complaints so far. big_smile

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      cool

  9. AnythingArtzy profile image81
    AnythingArtzyposted 7 years ago

    lucky lady

  10. theirishobserver. profile image60
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    If I loved someone I would marry them if they had a hump and lived in a bell tower smile

    1. Sa Toya profile image74
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree it's all about the love and if I loved that person totally, unconditionally, faithfully etc. etc. I'd marry them even if I knew they were dying.

      It's better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all smile

  11. theirishobserver. profile image60
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    Ghost32, your a man of great passion and humanity, may God Bless you in lifes journey

  12. Black Lilly profile image59
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    If I (ever) fall in love and if I (ever) decide that it's serious enough to take that step, all illnesses/disabilities/appearance/etc will be of zero importance.

  13. The Rope profile image55
    The Ropeposted 7 years ago

    I did.

  14. Pearldiver profile image81
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    We all Have a Terminal Illness....
    Do you know your Date of Death? hmm

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      OK that was fucking hilarious lol

    2. Sara Tonyn profile image59
      Sara Tonynposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Actually, I do. December 16, 2024.

      Don't ask.

      1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
        AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Actually mine is hanging over me at this moment. didn't say before cause I wanted extremely truthful answers to a very personal question to help me decide some things.
        Thanks to all smile

        1. tantrum profile image60
          tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I think that kind of decision is too personal.
          It doesn't matter what our opinions are, you'll have to find your own .

        2. Sara Tonyn profile image59
          Sara Tonynposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Extremely sorry to hear you're in that situation. But I have a very good feeling you'll make all the right decisions. Best wishes and take care.

          And I'm only an email away if you need me.

          1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
            AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            thasnks sara, actually I'm doing quite well with the whole thing but there are changes and things are different now. kinda like a whole new mindset for everything lol My family refuses to talk about it and sometimes you just need someone elses eye on things with out pity gettin in there. smile

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        wordscribe41posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I must ask.  Say what?  A dream?

        1. Sara Tonyn profile image59
          Sara Tonynposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Yes, a dream. And I'm not a believer in prophetic dreams. I lean toward the psychoanalytical interpretations of dreams -- and I question those too!

          But the dream I had was like nothing I've ever had before or since. Very hard to describe but it chilled me to the bone. I can't help but wonder if it'll come true.

          The bummer is... If it comes true, I won't be around to say "I told you so!". smile

    3. Dao Hoa profile image61
      Dao Hoaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I thought the doctor will give the length of time left!

  15. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    Just a thought... if I was myself terminally ill, I'd never ask anyone to marry me. Ask him to move in perhaps...but no, not marry....just doesn't seem fair to anyone really.

    1. Mikel G Roberts profile image81
      Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Me too, If I was terminally ill I'd probably find a place off by myself to live out what time was remaining. I wouldn't want to drag someone else into a relationship with me.

      1. myownworld profile image80
        myownworldposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        smile

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    poetlorraineposted 7 years ago

    if they were very rich and signed everything over to me, when they died, then i would make their life comfortable until their death for them.....

  17. ksha16 profile image56
    ksha16posted 7 years ago

    If the person is rich then why not?

  18. Sara Tonyn profile image59
    Sara Tonynposted 7 years ago

    If I loved the person of course I'd marry him...or her.

    Love isn't about money or only the nice, perfect things in life.

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    poetlorraineposted 7 years ago

    my comment was tongue in cheek, and after The Rope's comment maybe not a nice thing to say, i take it back........ it was only a joke.....

  20. Mamelody profile image60
    Mamelodyposted 7 years ago

    I think in my case if I met them when they had the terminal disease then probably not but if they had the disease during the time I've been with him then I guess so.. easier said than done.

    I mean I'll be a friend and support in any way I can but not sure about the marriage part.

  21. h.a.borcich profile image61
    h.a.borcichposted 7 years ago

    I was diagnosed terminally ill six weeks after we married. I offered him the easy out and he would not take it. He has walked this walk with me and has not waivered, for which I am grateful. Life is what it is.

    1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
      AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Now that IS VERY encouraging smile

    2. h.a.borcich profile image61
      h.a.borcichposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Feel free to email me Artsy if I can help. And you are in my thoughts and prayers, Holly

      1. AnythingArtzy profile image81
        AnythingArtzyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        thanks and you too. it helps knowing someone who can truly relate.

  22. NewYorker profile image63
    NewYorkerposted 7 years ago

    That's a very good question, and really something to think about. Would I marry someone with a terminal illness?

    If I would really love that person more than anything, YES. But if not, if it were just .. a fling, it'd not take the risk. The pain from his or her death would be enormous when that person would take it's last breath.

  23. sexeducationnow profile image57
    sexeducationnowposted 7 years ago

    love is a strange things dear...logics fail and the best of you overpowers u..!!

    1. NewYorker profile image63
      NewYorkerposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Sex Education Now?

      Please tell me you meant this name as a joke.

 
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