Bill is in the hospital again

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   pgrundyposted 14 years ago

   My best friend and life partner was admitted to the hospital again this morning. He was discharged yesterday with after being hospitalized since last Sunday, but he woke up this morning with severe pain and we had to rush to the ER where they admitted him again.
   
   He can go home tomorrow if his pain becomes manageable but so far he's full of IV opiates and still in pain. He was out of it and falling asleep at 6:30 so I came home. They aren't going to run anymore tests tonight.
   
   I'm pretty freaked out.

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      Scott.Lifeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I am really sorry to hear that, and hope for a better tomorrow. I know sometimes it seems that we go to the doctors and hospitals coming away with more questions then answers. I hope your partner will be well. My heart goes out to you.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      sorry to hear about that, stay calm yourself and things will get better...bless you

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      emievilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry to hear about your life partner. Hope he will recover soon.

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      yoshi97posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I hope all is better soon.

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      Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Very sorry to hear about this, Pam.  I hope they find out what it is and take care of it...and he can come home soon.

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   Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

   Why did they discharge him?, that is barbaric!!
   
   What a dreadful stress to place on him and his loved ones.
   
   My sincere best wishes for your friends partenar.
   
   Try and rest ,you may need even more engergy later on

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   Nelle Hoxieposted 14 years ago

   I'm so sorry to hear that. It sounds like a very scary situation. I hope they figure things out, so they know how to help him get better.

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   pgrundyposted 14 years ago

   Thanks Eaglekiwi.
   
   He had a bad day Wednesday, but Thursday he was feeling really good and by Friday morning there was no reason to keep him. The pain this morning was not expected.
   
   He had his gallbladder out on Monday, but the surgeon said at that time she didn't think that was the real problem, but since it needed to come out and he's had trouble with it before, she was going to start there. So he was recovering well from that (except for Wednesday), but then, boom. As soon as he got home he had another attack--without his gallbladder.
   
   They don't know what's wrong and the pain is so intense. That is what is scaring me. I've been living at the hospital, but he's knocked out so he told me to get some rest if he fell asleep. They have my # if anything happens.

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   pgrundyposted 14 years ago

   Plus I'll be back there first thing in the morning.
   
   I only slept there the first night. I've been going home when he is knocked out and coming back before the sun is up. There's nowhere to sleep there except in a straight chair.

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      get some sleep if you can. try to take care of yourself, he will need you when he comes home. im so sorry your going thru this....youll be in my thoughts..

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   pgrundyposted 14 years ago

   Thank you Scott Life and prettydarkhorse.
   
   I hope they can find what is wrong. Not knowing what it is just makes it all worse.

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      try to get some sleep, it will help. so sorry to hear, it's good to let others know, it helps! wish him the very best.

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   Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

   I hope the doctors find out what's causing your partner's condition, PGrundy, and wish him a speedy recovery. Take care.

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   lrohnerposted 14 years ago

   pgrundy, my thoughts are certainly with you and your partner. I know this is a horrible time. Believe me. I've had first-hand experience with this, so I can tell you -- don't leave the diagnosis up to the docs. Do your own research. They have hundreds of patients to deal with. You have one.
   
   You and your partner are in my thoughts and prayers.

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   pgrundyposted 14 years ago

   Thanks flighkeeper and lrohner.
   
   I haven't had time to do much research but I was thinking the same thing today when it all fell apart so fast.
   
   Sometimes you scare yourself doing that, but in this case, it could not hurt. They clearly are not getting it.

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    Uninvited Writerposted 14 years ago

    Sorry to hear it, I'll keep you both in my thoughts.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

    Im sorry I misread your post Pam ,but I did get the inefficent part.
    Wont say what I wanna say because I know you already are aware of the realities of the health /welfare system, etc.
    
    Take a sleeping bag and camp on the floor...damn , where is the family room at ? they got them in other states...
    
    Are you far from the hospital?
    
    Its hard for the person on the end of telephone too, I been there...the mind goes crazy!
    
    Ya know Bill is proud of ya being fiesty n strong lol ,
    
    Hang in girl

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    R P Chapmanposted 14 years ago

    Hope he's better soon. They'll work it out I'm sure. For some reason doctors just like to leave us in the dark too long. Get some rest, he'll be wanting proper looking after when he's feeling better

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    Sorry to hear that I'msure it's nothing. Nowadays they make you leave too sonn from the hospital.Maybe it's a mild infection.  Don't worry. It happens all the time

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    lynnechandlerposted 14 years ago

    Here is hoping for a speedy recovery. I'm sure they have already checked for infection around the incision and all but if not or if they haven't done a scan maybe you could suggest it.
    
    You take care of you. He will need you to be well rested too. My thoughts are with both of you.

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    Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

    My thoughts are with both of you.  Try and get some rest and some good nutrition before heading back in the morning.

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    bgpappaposted 14 years ago

    Wishing you nothing but the best

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    Elena.posted 14 years ago

    Sorry to hear that Pam, I hope Bill gets better very very soon. Animos, chica.

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    Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

    Best wishes Pam.. I'm sure he is in the best place atm. You take care.

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    dohn121posted 14 years ago

    My condolences Pam.  I wish him a speedy recovery.  All my best.

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    earnestshubposted 14 years ago

    So sorry Pam. Give yourself my love and that offered by other hubbers, and my best wishes to your loved one.
    I wish good luck to you both.

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    Jewelsposted 14 years ago

    Hugs Pam, thinking of you both.

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    Sufidreamerposted 14 years ago

    
    
    Thinking of you both - hope that they manage to find out what the problem is.

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    cindyvineposted 14 years ago

    Hang in there Pam and bo strong!

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    Zsuzsy Beeposted 14 years ago

    Pam, strength to you both. You're in my thoughts.

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    patfulposted 14 years ago

    Try prayer. It can't hurt. When human situations are bigger than we are, God can do some amazing things. I'll keep you in my prayers, too.

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    Jerilee Weiposted 14 years ago

    So sorry to hear that Pam -- you have to be proactive when either you or someone you love is in the hospital.  You'll both be in my thoughts and prayers.

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    Rik Ravadoposted 14 years ago

    Thinking and praying for you Pam - hang in there!

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    B.T. Evilpantsposted 14 years ago

    I'm keeping you and Bill in my thoughts Pam. Stay strong.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    He has my thoughts Pam...

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    Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

    Pam, sorry to read this.  Hope it turns out to be some relatively minor thing, which so often it can.  Not that I think this is his situation; but in view of the fact that gallbladder surgery is involved..   When my mother had her gallbladder out years ago a few staples/clamps (I don't know which) that should have been taken out weren't.  The only way it was discovered was that they eventually worked their way out her skin.    After that, pain that had been attributed to muscle damage just disappeared.

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    Linda Myshrallposted 14 years ago

    It's never easy to watch someone you love suffer - especially when it's coming out of (seemingly) nowhere.  He is lucky to have you.  It takes a good, strong, starchy spine to stand up through a thing like this.  Sounds like you are both made of tough stuff.  Stay strong- he'll need your strength, and his, so eat well and sleep.  I will say a special prayer for you both. Best, Linda

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    Don Wposted 14 years ago

    Best wishes to you and your partner Pam.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 14 years ago

    Take care of yourself, Pam while tending to Bill.  I'm sure they'll get it all figured out quickly.  I wish him a speedy recovery!

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    pgrundyposted 14 years ago

    Thank you for all your kind words. I guess I needed them or I wouldn't have posted this.
    
    Today they are doing a procedure to see if he has internal problems from the surgery. A specialist came in last night to say he thinks there might be a leak in the cystic bile duct (yes I had to look up what the hell a cystic bile duct IS) and that it is causing a sort of irritation of his insides and freezing up his digestive system. If they find it they'll insert a stent--a small tube--to repair the leak.
    
    I hope that is what it is. I was doing some research online last night, and if that is it, it could explain the whole thing. Two years ago he had a gallbladder attack that was pretty bad but he didn't have the surgery because he started to feel better. Why have unnecessary surgery? At that time he passed a large stone--it would have gone through this little duct. So maybe when that happened it tore a little, and when they removed his gallbladder last week it was enough to wreck the little monster. So now he has this bile spilling around his internal organs.
    
    I'm headed back up to the hospital shortly. I'm feeling more hopeful. At least somebody knows what to look for now. I'll tell you one thing--don't let anyone tell you this laparoscopic gallbladder surgery is a piece of cake. They talk about it that way, but he's had complication after complication and such pain as I've never seen.

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    frogdroppingposted 14 years ago

    I only just saw this - I wish him the speedy recovery he clearly needs. And you the heart to handle it. None of this must be easy, whether it's you in the bed or your partner.
    
    Healthy vibes all round.

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    pgrundyposted 14 years ago

    Thanks frogdropping.

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