It's My Birthday & I Just Want to Chat...it's been a rough day........

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   KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

   It's not really the kind of birthday a gal hopes for....it wasn't all bad....nothing ever is....but....I just need a bit of cheering up.

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      HAPPY BIRTHDAY KCC Big Country!
      
      Cheer up! Look on the bright side- It could have been worse.

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      AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Well Happy Birthday!!!! ((( Big Hugs)))

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Thank you for the well wishes and nice big hugs!

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      prettydarkhorseposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Happy birthday to you fine lady,

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Thank you so very much!

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      Ivorwenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry to hear that, but Happy, Happy Birthday anyway!
      

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         How perfect! That's so cute!  Thanks!

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      yoshi97posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      the 23rd birthday is always the toughest for a woman ... I understand.

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         Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         why is that?

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            KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            The joke behind this one Stevennix is I'm no where near 23.

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               yoshi97posted 15 years agoin reply to this

               True story ... she's only 18!

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         LMAO....if only.......thanks Yoshi!

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      Himitsu Shugishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      First of all, Happy Birthday!! Secondly, don't give anyone enough power to affect your happiness!!

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Very wise words Himitsu, but often hard to live up to.  I do try though.  Thanks for the birthday wishes.

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      cosetteposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      sorry you're blue...
      
      

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks so much...that's very pretty.

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      saltposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      happy birthday, happy birthday to you ....
      i can see stevie wonder nodding his head.. applause,
      youve made it through another year... happy birthday to you!!!!
      congratulations

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         KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks Salt!

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   Beth100posted 15 years ago

   Hi Karen,
   
   Happy birthday!  It's a day of celebrating YOU!  You've been great to me and I can't have sadness in you on this special day. 
   
   Why are you feeling so down?

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   KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

   Thanks Beth!  It's been "pick on KCC day".

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   Beth100posted 15 years ago

   By who???!!!

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   KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

   I've had four "fights" today....and have 3 hrs yet to go.

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   Beth100posted 15 years ago

   Oh Karen...don't let them get to you.  Is it here on the forums?
   
   Q:  What is a forum?

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   KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

   No no no....not on Hubpages.  In my personal life.

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   Beth100posted 15 years ago

   Oh, so much easier to escape if its on HP.  Regardless, don't let who ever it is get to you.  Do you want to talk about it? 
   
   A:  Two-um plus two-um. 

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   KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

   My mother and my cousin made it known to me a couple of weeks ago that they had bought my 17 yr old daughter something for her birthday.  Her birthday was the 8th.  My cousin opted to leave the item(s) at my mother's house for my daughter to pick up.  A few days ago, my mother called me to chew me out for not coming by to pick up my daughter's presents.  I was given the guilt trip about how my mother doesn't drive and how we never come to see her and never check on her, etc.

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    lynnechandlerposted 15 years ago

    Awww...virtual hugs...happy freak a deaky birthday girlfriend.
    
    No one is allowed to pick on you on your birthday, humpf..grrr...
    
    Now, let's break out the cake and cookies, party hats and have us a celebration!
    
    Happy Birthday!!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks......cake and cookies, yum!

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    In the meantime, today is my birthday and I went out for a few errands.  While I was out my cousin sent me a text msg to tell me Happy Birthday.  She was at work (and works at Wal-mart).  I went by Wal-mart on my errands and stopped to thank her.  Before I could even get it out of my mouth she blasted me in front of her co-workers and customers asking if I had gone by mother's yet to get my daughter's birthday stuff.

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    cindyvineposted 15 years ago

    Happy birthday girl!  I've been feeling down the last couple of days myself and also just need some hugs!  So we can exchange hugs across the ocean!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Cindy....long time no see!  Hugs are nice...thank you!

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    emievilposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday KCC. Sorry to hear that you didn't have a great day. Spend the rest here and get lots of hugs ((hugz)).

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I knew I could count on my HP friends to help me out.  Thanks!

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    She told me that at least she went to see her mother.  I replied, "Well I guess that makes you a good daughter then".  Her co-worker quickly chimed in that I was a good a daughter too.  She could tell it stung.  My cousin then told me that she guessed she would just have to go by mother's a pick up the stuff she had given my daughter and just use it herself.  I told her that was up to her.  I left.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    Thanks Cagsil, I did admit in my opening line that there was some good in today.  I did get to go out to eat and to the movies.

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    The Ropeposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday dear KC, Happy Birthday to youuuuuu! 
    
    We all appreciate our friend.  It's dark in Texas now so go outside and check out the stars and know that we all think you are one of the great stars among us.

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Awwwww....that's really a nice thing to say.  Thank you.

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    Beth100posted 15 years ago

    Check your mail 

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    Stevennix2001posted 15 years ago

    wow, happy birthday kcc

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you Stevennix2001!

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          Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

          your welcome.  anyway, long time no see though.  did you have a nice birthday?

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             KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             It had it's good moments.  I went to see "A Christmas Carol" in 3d.  That was incredibly good.  I also had a good meal.

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                Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

                thats good.  im glad you had a good time then mostly.  im sorry to hear about your family from your earlier post though.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    So, after my husband, daughter and I went to eat and the movies, I called my mother and told her I'd come by for a little bit.  She decided to cease the moment to chew on me some more and then told me that my cousin had been by earlier to pick up my daughter's gift and took it back to her house.  She told my mother to tell me that if my daughter wanted it she would have to come by her house. 
    
    I just don't understand how any of them think this is a situation that makes us want to come around.  I couldn't care less about the gifts.  I don't come around because I'm busy.
    
    Is that how gift-giving works?

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       Beth100posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       No, but sometimes that's how family works.

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       Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       sorry to hear that kcc

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       Ivorwenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Why is it that some people try to leverage with gifts?  Don't they know that it makes every one involved feel unloved?  Sorry that this is what you are going through.

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       Jillofalltradesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Happy Birthday!!!!!
       
       I can identify with you because there are members of my family who act like that. They are passive aggressive and try to take things out on me...I finally learned to let them be that way to their hearts content, BUT I do not allow them to make me feel bad.
       They want you to feel guilty, as if you have done something to them...(that makes it their problem). I would turn it around on them. Tell the cousin thanks but no thanks. If she wants to give the gift to your daughter fine, if not, that is fine also, but you will not be treated like that by her ever again.
       I would tell your mom the truth. One of the reasons you don't come over more often is because of the way she tries to guilt you out and control you with it. You don't need that in your life, and if she wants you to come over more often, then she needs to be respectful.
       I think if you do that it will make them sit up and take notice that if you aren't treated with respect they won't see you very often, and you certainly won't be controlled by their passive aggressiveness...anyway, that is just my two cents worth:-)
       Have a Happy Birthday:-)

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          KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          I've always been chastised by my mother and cousin because I don't call them enough or come around enough.  My cousin and mother live within 2 miles of each other.  I live 15 miles away from them both.  My cousin only works parttime and my mother doesn't work at all.  I work fulltime and write fulltime.  Essentially, I have two jobs and maintain a household.  I don't have sit around do nothing time.  I'm not someone who sits on a couch in front of a TV saying "I'm bored" looking for a program to watch or someone to call on the phone like they do.  They are always sitting around calling someone.  I never call ANYONE.  I've told them for years not to get upset that I don't call often.  I do check in on my mother.  But, often get chastised for not checking more often.  I do remind her that the phone does dial to my house as well. 
          
          I don't take their crap and tuck my head between my knees.  I do stand up for myself.  But, it doesn't keep them from trying it again.  They honestly won't be happy until I completely stop coming around so it seems.
          
          Thanks Jillofalltrades.

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             Jillofalltradesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             You sound a lot like me...
             Hang in there, and I hope today will be a great day for you!
             You are welcome:-)

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    resspenserposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday to you,
    Happy Birthday to you,
    You look like a monkey,
    And smell like one too!!!
    
    LOL:)

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       LMAO.......you just couldn't resist could you?  LOL  Thanks...you made me laugh.

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       Luciendaskyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       lol
       
       but seriously... happy birthday

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          KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks Luciendasky!

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    That's the thing.  I don't want their gifts.  I didn't ask for their gifts.  If they insist on giving them, I will be gracious and accept them and thank them, but I just don't understand them dangling them and then treating me like crap because I don't run to get them.  Then I don't understand having the gall to chew me out about it.  It really doesn't make me want to come to visit.

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       Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       well, i can't say i disagree with you about anything.  however, i also wish i knew what to say to you to try to cheer you up.

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    dohn121posted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday!!!  Many happy returns!!!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Dohn!

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    mistywildposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday!

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    Thanks Stevennix....I know no one really has the answers.  I guess I'm just venting. 
    
    Thanks Mistywild!

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       Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       its okay.  besides, we all need to vent every once in a while.  if you keep that stuff repressed it'll eat you up inside.  trust me, i should know because i've had that problem my whole life, so i know how repression can feel for someone.

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    elayne001posted 15 years ago

    Aloha and Happy Birthday to you from Hawaii. You could move your whole family down here and then you wouldn't have to worry about your meanie family. Just a suggestion. lol

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    My husband and daughter probably wouldn't argue about it, Elayne.  LOL  I've always considered myself lucky because I'm an only child.  That way I don't have siblings to fight with....so why do I have to have a cousin to jump in a do it?  LOL

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    logic,commonsenseposted 15 years ago

    Have a Happy Birthday!
    You can only control what you do, so do not worry about others.
    Kick back relax and let it go, you'll be fine.

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       You are absolutely correct.  I should go find the other half of my piece of cake I treated myself to.

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    Miss Belgraviaposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday, KCC! I'm so sorry that your mother and cousin felt the need to mar your birthday. The tactic I take with my family is to remain aloof from all the drama, and just live my life, without excuses or explanations. Although it's difficult to remain unaffected when the people who should be closest to you behave badly, I've found that engaging in their silliness just makes it worse. I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       LOL  I thought that's what I was doing too.  Generally, that works ok, until they want to play the blackmail game with the gifts.  I could have easily texted my cousin back and say thanks for the birthday wishes, but since I was at the store she works at, I decided to swing by and thank her in person.  I never realized I was opening the door to abuse.  Then, I thought going by my mother's would appease her, but again I opened the door.  LOL  It'll be awhile before I go back around.
       
       Happy Thanksgiving to you too and thank you!

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          Miss Belgraviaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          LOL! I know -- just when you think you have it handled, they think of a new way to zing you! And it is especially maddening, of course, when they involve your children in it. So sad.

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       maudine_05posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I agree, thats true especially with family, but I know it'll soon pass and you'd be close again, don't make it ruin your bday though..Happy!happy! Birthday girl!

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    Randy Behaviorposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday to you... Happy Birthday to you... Happy Birthday dear KCC... Happy BIrthday to youuuuuuuuu (you should be really thankful you can't hear me)

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I bet it sounds lovely.  Thank you so much.  I reall appreciate it.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    18 with a 17 year old daughter....LOL  No wonder she and I get along so well!

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       yoshi97posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Early adoption?

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    I'm not sure you guys and gals caught in an earlier post in this thread, but I saw "A Christmas Carol" in 3d with Jim Carrey.  It was an excellent movie.  I highly recommend it. It was entertaining and the graphics were incredible.

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    Beth100posted 15 years ago

    I think Steven just wrote a review on that one today.  Heard it's really good too.

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    Stevennix2001posted 15 years ago

    yeah, i thought it was pretty good also.  however, i think its a bit too dark for kids though.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    I just went to your hub and left a comment.  My husband thought it might be too scary for young kids too.  You may be right.  I loved it.  It sure made my husband homesick.  He's from England and flying over the rooftops was fun for us all.

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       Stevennix2001posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       thats cool. thanks for the comment. have you ever been there before?

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    Yes, I've been to England twice in 2006.  I love it there.  It made me want to go back too.

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    mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday KCC, and so sorry it hasn't been a great one for you. If it makes you feel a little better I ended up attending my 1st Husband's cremation on my Birthday in 2001.

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       OMG....I certainly appreciate that my day could have been worse.  It did have it's shining moments.   Thanks Mistyhorizon.

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          mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks KCC, another Brithday of mine (although not as bad), was when I lived in Tenerife with my ex  (see my hub on living with a control freak). He was a singer, and just to spite me he announced there was a Birthday in the house at the venue he was singing at. It turned out there was a girl in the bar whose Birthday it also was. He then sang Happy Birthday to her, and ignored the fact it was mine completely.

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             KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Ouch.  That's horrible.  I hate that my husband has an ex-girlfriend whose birthday is today too.  He also has two former girlfriends by the name of Karen as well.  It's like I can't have anything to call my own.

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                mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years agoin reply to this

                That sounds awful too, I would find that really hard to deal with!

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                charanjeet kaurposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Hey Sweetie, Wishing you many many happy returns of the day. Sending you warm hugs and best wishes that will last not only today but the whole year ahead. You have us hubbers who are your very own. Sending you something to cheer you up.
                
                

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                   KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   Awwwww...thank you!  What a nice cake! Cake for everyone!

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    rsmalloryposted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday KCC. Hope tomorrow is better for you! At least there will be turkey!   Chin up!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Rsmallory....I haven't had turkey in about 5 years.  My husband is from England and they don't celebrate Thanksgiving.  *sigh*

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    rsmalloryposted 15 years ago

    I'll eat a double portion for you!

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    Okie dokie, thanks!

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    torimariposted 15 years ago

    My birthday was yesterday and it was...lonely. I hope yours gets better or the rest of your week is dandy!

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       logic,commonsenseposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       A belated Happy Birthday to you torimari!  Hope each day gets less lonely!  We are all here to keep you company!

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          torimariposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          That's sweet. Danke schon!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Happy belated birthday Torimari!  I'm sorry it was lonely.  If I had known I could have sent my mother and cousin to see you.   Guess that wouldn't have worked.  They would have just called you and demanded that you come see them. 
       
       I have had some good moments this week.  It's not all bad.

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 15 years ago

    KCC Happy Birthday and just ignore your cousin. I can't believe she took her present back! In the spirit of HubPages I'd give her a 3-day ban. And tell her if she can't act better, she's getting 30 days.

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       mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I agree, it wasn't even as if the present was for you.... it was for your daughter. Why didn't she deliver it to your house, or even post it to your daughter???

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          KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          She just called my bluff when I called hers earlier today.  When she said she might as well go pick up the gift and keep it, I told her to go ahead if that's what she wanted to do.  She didn't waste anytime doing it.  It bothers me much more than it does my daughter.

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             mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Good on your daughter for not being materialistic and looking at the actual sentiment that should be behind a gift

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       LOL... thanks Nelle.  She evidently tried to call me on my cellphone while we were at the movies.  I had my phone on vibrate and never heard it.  She didn't leave a message so I didn't call her back.  I don't plan to either.
       
       Funny thing is, she had also bought me a couple of blouses at a garage sale recently and left them at my mother's house too.  She left those there and took away my daughter's gift.  My guess is she didn't want the clothing back because 1)it wouldn't fit her and 2)they smelled of smoke because my mom smokes.  LOL  She's just being spiteful.  I don't care to play her games.

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    mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years ago

    This is what I love about Hubpages, it is a proper community of people who will rally round when you need their support

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I couldn't agree more!  That's why I came here tonight because I knew you guys would cheer me up...and you have.  Thank you!

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    I couldn't care less about the gift, it's the manipulation that's irritating me.

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       mistyhorizon2003posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Well sounds as if you are handling it really well, so keep smiling and keep your chin up... we are all behind you 100%

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    Thanks Mistyhorizon, I really appreciate it.

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    ralwusposted 15 years ago

    haappy birthday KCC, muwhaaa

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you, Ralwus!!

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    Zsuzsy Beeposted 15 years ago

    Awwww, KCC happy belated birthday, sorry it wasn't a great day for you. These are for you to cheer you up a little
    and giant sized bearhugs too.
    
    
    
    I have a sister like that too, a total pain in the watoosy. Just let it slide down your back....

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Zsuzy Bee!  I appreciate the sentiments and the big hugs.

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    apricotposted 15 years ago

    Ah bless!  I know how you feel - I always feel rotton on my b'day!  Happy Birthday!  Keep your pecker up!

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Apricot!

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    flread45posted 15 years ago

    Happy Birthday KCC and just be thankful everyone is alive and well in your family.
    Eat some more turkey,mashed taters and gravy,that oughtta help.

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Flread.  My husband is from England and doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving and my daughter goes off with her father for his family's Thanksgiving because he comes from a large family.  No Thanksgiving trimmings here today.
       
       I am thankful however.

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    samsbrposted 15 years ago

    Very Happy Birthday Dear...Enjoy life

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you very much!

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    seasoningposted 15 years ago

    hi sorry you had problems family's can be a pain,,,,,, thinking of ya

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       KCC Big Countryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Seasoning!

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