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  1. Ms Chievous profile image77
    Ms Chievousposted 8 years ago

    I don't usually do this putting my personal stuff out here.  But I am just so sad.  I am at work and I just learned my dad has a mass in his lung.  It is bad enough he is in a nursing home, but now this..this just devestated my day

    I can't concentrate on anything else at the moment.I need to vent, throw things or both

    1. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That is awful news sad. I don't blame you for needing to vent and throw things. My dad 2 years ago suffered a collapsed lung and they found spots on his lungs that they could not test until his collapsed lung was stable. It was pretty damed scary! He got lucky and the spots were just scars but not a lot of fun at any rate yikes

    2. TheGlassSpider profile image71
      TheGlassSpiderposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      MS. I have no words that can possibly give you true comfort at a time like this; I am very sorry to hear about it.

      If I may offer some advice, however: Go home; maybe, if you can, take some time off. Spend some time with your Dad. Work through these emotions, and give your body and mind *some* rest, if it's all possible.

      You need it now, and as hard as it is to face, you will need it in the future. If I were where you are, I would offer you a warm, tight hug. I hope you have someone who can give you one (or many!)

      You're in my prayers.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image65
      prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      oh, you want some HUGS, heres my HUGS, hang on here and I will also say a prayer for you and your family, and importantly your DAD

    4. Ohma profile image75
      Ohmaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      So Sorry to hear of your families trouble. Take strength wherever you find it and be strong for him.

    5. Wendi M profile image79
      Wendi Mposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so sorry Ms Chievous.

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    cosetteposted 8 years ago


    i'm sorry.

  3. Christene profile image70
    Christeneposted 8 years ago


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    seasoningposted 8 years ago

    AW,i am so sad and sorry about your bad news, glad we are here for you, do you want to talk about him.....

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    Poppa Bluesposted 8 years ago

    I`ll keep you and your dad in my toughts and prayers.

  6. Daniel Carter profile image74
    Daniel Carterposted 8 years ago

    Wow. This kind of news is always so devastating. I'm so sorry. sad

    I hope you there are many more good memories with him ahead.

  7. Ms Chievous profile image77
    Ms Chievousposted 8 years ago

    Thanks for the advice and hugs everyone. Advice is sooo welcome.. This is hard for me because I just know it is the beginning of the end.  Situation is tough for me cause I am his only family around.  I am a problem solver but this is just one problem I can't solve..

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      sorry to hear this ! sad

      I can't give any advice. I wouldn't know what to do myself !

      Staying calm and concentrating in the solution ,if not of the disease, of the suffering, and trying to do the best for him,is all you can do at the moment.

    2. Daniel Carter profile image74
      Daniel Carterposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This may sound like the last thing you want to hear, but from my own experience, I learned that if I could accept the reality of what "is" and work with that, I have a lot better sense of how to proceed. You may not be able to control the events about your dad's health issues, but you can control how you respond to it. And as sh***y as it sounds, and as difficult as it is, he will appreciate your love and trying to make him smile through this more than your grief at the thought he may not pull through this.

      I held my dad's hand as he took his last breath. He bled through his ears, eyes, nose and mouth. He died a slow horrible death, but he cracked jokes till he couldn't speak, and so I kept going until he was completely unconscious. He has no idea how he saved me from falling into the abyss of devastation, and he taught me have a sense of humor in the worst of situations, and it really does help.

      This is tough stuff, and if you can't find happiness or humor, then it's fine. You have to do what you have to do. But as you already know, we're thinking of you sending our hugs and best to you and your dad.

  8. Beth100 profile image74
    Beth100posted 8 years ago

    I'm very sorry to for this devastating news.  Sometimes, we cannot solve the problem as it is out of our control.  Feeling powerless is a terrible feeling, but within you have the strength to overcome the trying times.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dad.  ((HUGS))

  9. SandyMcCollum profile image66
    SandyMcCollumposted 8 years ago

    Yeah, what Daniel and everyone said. (((((hug))))

    Do as Daniel suggests, it is the best solution. I'm so sorry for you and Dad. Having been there, I know it's possible that he could recover, but it sounds like his health was already compromised and that may not happen. I'll pray, you pray, everyone here is praying. Even if there is nothing more we can do, we can 'listen' if you need to vent further. May God bless you through your troubles, and Dad, too.

  10. Ms Chievous profile image77
    Ms Chievousposted 8 years ago

    Thank you all for your kind words thoughts and prayers.  They really did make a difference in my day.  I went to see my dad today to discuss options.. that was hard.  Thank you all so much again

    1. rebekahELLE profile image88
      rebekahELLEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      so sorry to hear, big hugs and love to you and your father. daniel gave great advice as really all you can do is what is necessary at this time. talk, inform yourself as much as you can of all options. also to talk with someone at his nursing home who can help you. biggest advice for you is somehow to stay calm and rested.  when I look back at the times when I had to help my dad and then my mom, I don't know how I did it, but somehow adversity brings strength. lots of love and tenderness. you both are in my thoughts.

  11. Hmrjmr1 profile image80
    Hmrjmr1posted 8 years ago

    wishing you comfort and hope and offering a humble prayer.. God Bless and keep you...