Ahhhh, I can't take it!!

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   sandieganlizposted 15 years ago

   I love writing, but as I browse this site and become more acquainted with how much traffic goes on here, I can't take it--so many articles, so many issues, so many articles on the same issue. It really is like the info-commercial piece where you say one word and the person responds like a search engine machine. We, as a globe, are at such an alarming pace of information and technology, can it get any more crazier and revealing??! I can ask anything and find an answer to it...well, almost anyway. As a person whom does not like traffic on the road, I am like that with these websites that have so much going on, one gets mind-boggled. Ahhhhhhhhh!!!
   
   Perhaps I am a newbie, or move at a much slower pace, but I like peace and quiet. I'm just that type of person. I don't mean to say I should be fast and "on" all the time, but it is my belief that the turtle does in fact win the race against the hare for a reason. Simile!!
   
   My reason for writing this? I suppose I want to find a site that is more kick back and doesn't involve a topic going into a nasty debate where people mis-intepret everything due to their own insecurity...or means of interpretation. (Ahhhhh!!!)

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      relacheposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I have no trouble not participating in the mud-slinging portion of this site.  It's clear that many of the folks who chose to come here and do so are really unhappy with their off-line lives and use this space as dumping grounds to either complain or just attack total strangers as they are protected by the anonymity of the Internet. 
      
      If there's some part of the forums you don't like, just skip those bits.

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      cosetteposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      
      with over 133,000 members, it's a given that many people will write about the same topic (even you ). this doesn't bother me though because each person puts their own spin on it and makes it unique. as far as "nasty debates" go, in your hubs you can use the comments moderation feature, and in the forums, you can ignore people you don't like or avoid the forums altogether.
      
      HubPages is a lively site and the best as far as i am concerned for this kind of writing. i would much rather write for sites with a lot of traffic than dead ones.

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         lorlie6posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I find myself in agreement with the frog, relache and cosette as well as the other thoughtful responses you've received here on this thread.  There is no need to participate in the forums, though they can be a great source of alternate points of view.  I often look through postings and write nothing, but read and absorb.
         There's really no need to panic, just try to enjoy the bizarre and varied nature of humanity-from a distance.

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   tantrumposted 15 years ago

   Goodbye, then !I don't think you're going to be missed !

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      mod2vintposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      not very polite or reassuring! A lot of people can relate to where the OP is coming from.

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      sandieganlizposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Ha ha--this is the kind of person for which people want to ignore such things. I mean, look at the pic. ha ha

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   frogdroppingposted 15 years ago

   But like an infomercial you can always choose not to view. That's the easiest way of dealing with such things. If you don't have to participate or don't want to, then don't.
   
   Just write quietly away, letting all the hubbub of panet hub pass you by. I have days when I do that, or I'm too busy to take part. I can take it or leave it, no big deal.
   
   My life is here, where I am, what I do, who I spend my physical time with. It's not real you know ... a bit like infomercials and tv

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   Chaotic Chicaposted 15 years ago

   I still consider myself new here and I can see how overwhelming it can be at times.  The truth of it is, though, that while participation in forums helps keep you and your hubs visible therefore increasing your scores, it is not mandatory to participate.  There are alot of hubs on similar topics.  That is the beauty of our world, everyone is entitled to their opinion and we have the right to express it.  As far as the heated debates, I avoid those topics altogether.  There's enough drama in the world without me getting worked up over something someone I don't know said.  I came here to release through writing and found a little niche I enjoy.  Before you get too worked up, take a step back, relax, and remember why you joined us in the first place!

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   lakeerieartistsposted 15 years ago

   I ignore what I don't care to read, and read what I want.  I don't consider it a problem at all.

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   Lisa HWposted 15 years ago

   If you go to the shopping mall you're going to see a bunch of products and things that aren't what you're looking for.  The same is true with a site that's up for anyone who wants to write.  Unless someone has his own website, or a blog that he doesn't allow comments on, he's going to run into stuff that isn't his particular cup of tea. 
   
   It's pretty easy, though, to come to a site like this one, just write, do your thing, and not get involved in looking around at what you're not interested in.  I think it's common for people here to just write their Hubs and do their own thing - and then, if they feel like taking a break or getting into a discussion (fun or otherwise) they may pop on the forums.  Lots of people don't go there at all.
   
   I don't know.... (no, I DO know...)    I've run into far more positive, friendly people than nasty ones (and most mind their business and just do their own thing anyway); and much of the time the "nastiness" in the forums is just silly anyway.  It's a nice site and, as relache said, it's easy to stay away from whatever we don't want to be involved in.  People can choose what route they use to get somewhere without going through the part of town known for traffic jams and honking. 

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   shazwellynposted 15 years ago

   It is difficult and overwhelming when you are new.  I understand this, just stick with it and take it one day at a time.  Small steps make great strides and it is really rewarding when you find that you are progressing and learning. 
   
   You know people come and people go, new relationships get established and you do find people with common thoughts. 
   
   I would say that if you cant stand the heat in the religious forum, for example, get out of the kitchen. ie. dont visit that space.
   
   I hope this helps

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   foreignpressposted 15 years ago

   Might I suggest you try a Foster's beer. Or several.

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      shazwellynposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Why fosters?  Are you biased to other beers? LOL

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      Home Girlposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      You could add something into your beer, you know, though I am not a specialist in that cannot recoment anything, sorry.

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      sandieganlizposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Mmm, fosters beer is good. My choice is Heineken!!

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   timorousposted 15 years ago

   You're overwhelmed by the big picture.  You need to focus on your main interests and read hubs that revolve around those interests as well as some peripheral topics.
   
   Same goes for forum interaction.  Pick and choose.  It's too easy to get caught up reading 100+ posts in several forum topics.  Posting comments gets you noticed, and you make some new friends, but don't spend too much time at it.  Concentrate on what you came here for..writing.  I'm attempting to write more, but I haven't had as much spare time lately.
   
   Just relax, there's no deadline here.

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    SwampDonkeyposted 15 years ago

    Maybe you should move to the swamp.

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    thisisoliposted 15 years ago

    hehe yeah sounds like you have been taking all this way too seriously, you can easily pick and choose which parts of Hubpages you become involved in!

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       Home Girlposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       As my son usually says: "Mom, you are worried too much!"

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       Disturbiaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I pretty much said exactly this same thing (we are adults and can self-censor and if there are hubs or posts we don't like, we are free to not read them) on another thread and was attacked by people who told me there are "rules" and maybe this was not the place for me, etc.  I could tell they were trying to bait me into an argument... as if I'd ever waste my time on something so foolish.  Guess some of us have more free time on our hands than others.  Anyway, I hear what you are saying, and things can and do get a little bit crazy out here.  If you can't take it anymore, step away from it for a while and leave it be, or just go with the flow and enjoy the insanity

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    sandieganlizposted 15 years ago

    Wow,
    this is all great advice and feedback. It helps me realize what kind of writer I am. Perhaps I don't have thick skin when it comes to debates. I mean, I am all for debates because I honestly believe it's what makes the world spin round, but I suppose, as a writer, I am more for writing a book--perhaps a book of essays, and getting feedback on it, vs. writing a topic and having people argue his or her point of view. It's great that this site allows writers to unite and get their point of view across in little time, but I suppose it allows millions of people to do so anonymously, brutally, and without verification.
    
    Thanks to everyone, anyway, except the bikini bum. ha ha, j/k.

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       tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       

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          mega1posted 15 years agoin reply to this

          that's ok, tantrum, don't feel bad - I still like you!  and anyway that new person doesn't got no sense of humors - ya know!

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             tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Hi mega!
             I think it was hilarious !!

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             sunforgedposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             There was no humor in that statement to be missed, a smiley face doesnt make something funny.

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       west40posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I enjoy the forums but try and stay out of the heated debates and get involved in the more light-hearted parts of the forums.  Hope you stick around.

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    sandieganlizposted 15 years ago

    "ha ha, j/k"

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