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My Husband and Son Just Left to put our Black Lab Down

  1. lorlie6 profile image87
    lorlie6posted 6 years ago

    This has been a terrible year for our pets, we've had to put 2 dogs and a cat to sleep already, and at 4 am my sweet black lab, 'Friday,' began gasping for breath-I'm sure she's in pain.
    She's also riddled with tumorous growths, so it's time.  The vet was kind enough to wake and is coming to the clinic at this time Sunday morn.
    Damn, this hurts.
    I'm alone in the house now and just wanted to reach out to my HubFamily. sad

    1. Lisa HW profile image83
      Lisa HWposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      lorlie, I'm so sorry to hear that.  I know just what you're going through because (besides having gone through it many times), just yesterday we went through the same thing with my daughter's cat (who also lived with me).  The vet didn't expect the cat to make it through Friday night, so my daughter brought her home because she didn't want her to go alone at the closed vet's office.   It became very obvious between Friday night and Saturday morning that the cat wouldn't make it at all much longer (hour maybe).  It was bad, though. 

      Ordinarily I stay away from posts or anything else about losing animals (or anything sad about animals), but I thought I'd "commiserate" for a minute here.  I actually ended up writing a whole, big, Hub about it (but I know it's not one that a lot of people - especially someone who just lost a pet) would want to, or should, read).  I don't know if you may have written one yet, or may in the future; but (even though it's really not the kind of thing I'd ordinarily do) I actually feel a little bit of closure after having written it.

      I guess all you (or anyone in this situation) can do is find those few thoughts that give you just a little bit of comfort, and keep thinking them whenever your thoughts stray toward the sentimental.  There'll be time for dealing with the more difficult thoughts later on.  For now, I know what works for me is to kind of stay away from the thoughts that bother me most.

    2. Avamum profile image85
      Avamumposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Oh dear, how sad for you and your family.  I have shared my life with many great canine companions, including a black lab named Cedric who we had to put to sleep after 15 !! years. That was several years ago, and I find that the best way for me to deal with it is to remember the funniest stories I can about him...whenever we felt sad the kids and I would start a "remember the time Cedric....."sentence, and we would end up laughing as we wiped our runny noses.

      My thoughts are with you and your family.

    3. profile image0
      Kerry43posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      (Hugs)  lorlie6.

      Thinking of you....


  2. Uninvited Writer profile image82
    Uninvited Writerposted 6 years ago

    I'm so sorry you have to go through this again.

    1. lorlie6 profile image87
      lorlie6posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks, UW.  I think this is it for a while, at least I hope so-Our generations of animals are coming full circle.
      I appreciate your words, you are another animal lover here-We're special folk.

  3. lrohner profile image83
    lrohnerposted 6 years ago

    Lorlie, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is to lose a beloved pet. You and your family are in my thoughts...

    1. lorlie6 profile image87
      lorlie6posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks so much, Irohner.

  4. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    It's hard isn't it...had to do the same thing about a month ago...the vet came to my place....it was hard making the call.  That's just too darn many pets to lose in a year.  And, you know, you're doing the best thing for Friday now.  But it hurts doesn't it.........

    1. lorlie6 profile image87
      lorlie6posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      It's pretty overwhelming, I know.  Now I'm worried about my 4 year old Malamute-healthy guy named Ranger-who loved Friday.  He's looking for her as I type.  Poor guy.

      1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image61
        SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Poor Ranger...he'll probably not be himself for abit...

  5. ExpandYourMind profile image82
    ExpandYourMindposted 6 years ago

    Sorry for your loss and tramatic year.  Sometimes, I wish our pets had the same lifespan as us.  They are gone far too soon, but I bet you treated them well and they had a happy life with you. Take care.

  6. 2uesday profile image84
    2uesdayposted 6 years ago

    I am so sorry, please ask your family for a big hug when they get back home to you.

  7. wilderness profile image94
    wildernessposted 6 years ago

    I'm so sorry, Lorlie.  Giving that last gift to a beloved pet is so hard.  As others have said, give the family a hub on their return.

  8. sofs profile image85
    sofsposted 6 years ago

    Lorlie, so sorry, I know this must feel like a terrible nightmare, my heart goes out to you. Lots of (((hugs ))) to you. I am sure that what you have decided to do is the best for your Lab, so be in peace.

  9. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    Oh, Laurel...I weep for you, my friend. Sending cyber hugs.

    1. adrienne2 profile image81
      adrienne2posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Lorlie my heart ached when I read your post.  I am so sorry for your loss, *cyber hugs* we love you Lorlie.

  10. SandyMcCollum profile image71
    SandyMcCollumposted 6 years ago

    Aw, Lorlie, I'm so sorry! We have a cancer-ridden black lab also, he's not got much time left. Every day I wonder if today's the day. They become like our kids, or family members, and when they go it hurts us just as if a relative had passed. Please be comforted by knowing that your Lab will be waiting at the gate when you go Home.

  11. SandyMcCollum profile image71
    SandyMcCollumposted 6 years ago

    You know, one year we got two dogs and three cats. Sixteen years later they all died... I'll never get all my animals at close-together times again.

  12. lorlie6 profile image87
    lorlie6posted 6 years ago

    Thanks everyone, for giving your support so freely and generously.  My family is stunned, though Friday was going downhill for a while.  It is always hard, though, to lose a family member.
    The HubPages community is balm for my soul.
    Thanks again.

    1. rebekahELLE profile image88
      rebekahELLEposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      sad  so sorry to hear.  my dog is part black lab, they're so gentle and loving.  you gave him love and affection, that's all they ask of us.  {{hugs}}

  13. Mighty Mom profile image89
    Mighty Momposted 6 years ago

    There is a special pain to watching a beloved pet suffer and finally having to make "the call." So sorry you are living in that surreal grief state, Lorliegal.
    It HAS been a terrible year for you.
    Which means 2011 can only be better. I KNOW it will be, dammit!!!

    I hope that, when you are ready, you will get a new companion for Ranger (and a new cat, too, cuz I loves kitties).
    The happy thing about pets is while we can't, and would never want to replace them, we have the opportunity to refill our homes and hearts with new love. And that really helps the healing (in my experience, anyway).
    Hugs to you, dear Lorlie.
    We are ALWAYS here for you.

  14. Dale Mazurek profile image62
    Dale Mazurekposted 6 years ago

    Our chocolate lab died in my arms about a year and a half ago and I think about him every day.

    Our pets are most definatly big parts of the family. 

    Hugs to you and your family.  While the memories dont go away the mourning does get easier.


  15. LindaJM profile image80
    LindaJMposted 6 years ago

    I'm so sorry... sending condolences on your loss. It is so hard to lose a beloved pet.

  16. lorlie6 profile image87
    lorlie6posted 6 years ago

    My hubby's really taking it hard, he's determined that we NEVER get another animal again.  I know that's grief speaking, since we've always had creatures in our lives and always will.
    I can't imagine life without them-everything would be so COLD!

  17. wordscribe43 profile image93
    wordscribe43posted 6 years ago

    Hugs to you, lorlie.  I know how much it hurts, I really do.  And the people who don't understand that just boggle my mind.

    I've had a bad pet year, too.  We're in the midst of making a decision about our beagle/lab, poor 16 year old girl.  It's so hard and it is just excruciating, no doubt.  But, I'm with you, the trade off is just too wonderful...  I can't imagine not having at least one animal in my life, how lonely, quiet, hair-free (ha ha) and boring.

    Thinking of you and your family today.  sad

  18. Pearldiver profile image86
    Pearldiverposted 6 years ago

    All the best Lorlie smile
    Always a hard call to make... sorry for your loss mate.

    I lost my pet frog earlier this year, but that was alot easier because he just hopped off and I can always wonder if he found love? hmm

    Hi there WS.. hope you're ok smile

    1. wordscribe43 profile image93
      wordscribe43posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I'm well, PD.  Why wouldn't I be?  smile  Oh, I guess you mean my pooch? 

      How are you?

  19. thismamaworksit profile image62
    thismamaworksitposted 6 years ago

    I am so sorry to hear that...I have a yellow lab and I cannot imagine the day when she leaves us.

    Hugs to you and your family.

  20. mistyhorizon2003 profile image91
    mistyhorizon2003posted 6 years ago

    So truly saddened and tearful to read this Lorlie. I have been through this a fair few times now, and it never gets any easier. The best comfort I found was in my resolute and unfaltering belief that we will be reunited with our pets in the next life, and the short term comfort of the poem "Rainbow Bridge", which I am sure you know of, but if not you should most definitely look up and read. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  21. IvoryMelodies profile image68
    IvoryMelodiesposted 6 years ago

    I am so sorry, Lorlie.  Whoever said pets are like children is so right.  It's rare to find that unconditional love in people.  I took in two kittens, brother and sister, when they were about 12 weeks old.  She passed from cancer at age 17, and he died of old age at 19.  They were truly my kids, like so many others have expressed.  I pray strength as you grieve, and that very soon that grief is replaced by only cherished memories.  Big hugs to you and your family.

  22. WryLilt profile image88
    WryLiltposted 6 years ago

    That's awful. Do you have any other pets? I know how hard it is to lose a pet. I lost my dog when I was 13 (over 10 years ago) and I still miss him.

  23. wordscribe43 profile image93
    wordscribe43posted 6 years ago

    Well, lorlie... Looks like we are in this together.  We are taking our dog in to be euthanized tomorrow at noon.  Wish we could hang out in person right now...  It's just an awful experience.  I hope you are okay today, let us know.

  24. lorlie6 profile image87
    lorlie6posted 6 years ago

    My love to each and every one of you who have responded to the OP.  It seems there are many animal lovers here on HP, more than I could ever imagine.
    I am proud to be a part of this community and my prayers go out to you who are going through the same sorrows.
    PS: Rainbow Bridge is absolutely beautiful!

  25. wordscribe43 profile image93
    wordscribe43posted 6 years ago

    We put our beloved dog to sleep at noon today.  She passed peacefully, a very humane death, no doubt.  We will miss her terribly.  RIP Boofus McFadden.

    1. lorlie6 profile image87
      lorlie6posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Oh Wordscribe, I am so very sorry to hear this.  I send you my good thoughts and know Boofus is out of pain now.
      Your pain is left, but you know it will soften over time.
      Much love and many((((HUGS)))).

  26. Flightkeeper profile image72
    Flightkeeperposted 6 years ago

    Lorlie, sorry to hear about your lab.  They are such sweet dogs.  But I think your sweetie would prefer to be out of pain.  Pets will be missed terribly, but like any member of the family, good memories sustain us.

  27. ahorseback profile image41
    ahorsebackposted 6 years ago

    Laural; I am soo sorry , if I could I would make it all better, somehow, but I can't. Only your memories of these babies will do that for you. They will too ,you know! I too have a choc. lab  and a golden retriever.  I don't know what I'll do when that time comes. And I also can't believe how close I have become with them both. And they are mid life! Five and a half and three and a half, respectively. My heart is with you and them too! Smile for us . Your friends.

    1. lorlie6 profile image87
      lorlie6posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks so much, ahorseback.  You're a dear for posting.  Every day it gets a little easier, though I'm still seeing her and hearing her in this house.
      Strange, but understandable-I think!

  28. wordscribe43 profile image93
    wordscribe43posted 6 years ago

    ahorseback and lorlie, thanks.  I know we made the right decision which helps immensely.  But, it just hurts so much.  She was the first dog my husband and I got together... before we were married.  So, it's kinda like closing the chapter on some significant history, if you know what I mean. 

    I just finished washing and putting away her special blanket and bed.  I won't be able to look at her cute little butterfly/dragonfly collar for a long time.  Reminders everywhere, Lorlie.  I totally know what you mean... It's just empty, and well, sucky.

    Hugs to you, wish we could go have coffee together.

  29. Diane Inside profile image81
    Diane Insideposted 6 years ago

    Lorlie, sorry you are having to go through this, it is so hard to let them go. I have had to do this myself a time or two so I know how you must feel. At least now he won't be in anymore pain. I know you will miss him, greatly.

  30. Stevennix2001 profile image83
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    Aw I'm sorry to hear that Lorlie.  I know exactly how you feel, as I had to go through the same thing a few months ago when i put my dog down.  I wish I could say the pain of losing them ever goes away, but you can always comfort in knowing that at least they won't be in pain anymore.  Anyways, I'm sorry to hear this happened, and i hope things will be okay for you.

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    sandra rinckposted 6 years ago


  32. profile image0
    Aleister888posted 6 years ago

    Im so sorry to hear of your loss, i had to have my dog put down just last week, its a terrible thing to happen, rest assured, its better that its no longer in pain.

    God Bless smile

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    Toby Hansenposted 6 years ago

    So sorry to read about your loss. In the last 7 months I have lost two cats, so I know what you are going through. It sounds like Friday had a great innings, and I know that she will be missed but never forgotten.
    Best wishes, Toby.

  34. Zsuzsy Bee profile image86
    Zsuzsy Beeposted 6 years ago

    Oh Lorlie how sad. It's never easy losing a best friend.

  35. Dena Bez profile image67
    Dena Bezposted 6 years ago

    As an animal lover myself, I am very sorry for your loss.