Lying with no reason

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   Stella Faleskesposted 13 years ago

   I wonder , why do some people lie  with no reason?!
   I mean why cant they just simply say everything the way it is?
   Is it a kind of bad habbit or....they just simply dont trust the person that they are having conversation with ?
   I have this problem with my cousin. He lie's me all the time. For no reason . Even when i ask him a question that we both know answer he will still lie knowing that i know the answer.
   I dont know what is the problem. Maybe the problem is in me.....or in him..?

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      Brenda Durhamposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Why would his lying be a problem within you?
      
      Habitual lying is huge damaging problem caused by the liar!
      Maybe sometimes people feel compelled to answer a question with something even if it's a lie, but that shouldn't be.  They could simply tell someone it's none of their business without lying.
      I think some people LIKE to lie, just to see what confusion they can cause.

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      LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      The introduction to a lie goes like this....
      
      "See, what had happened was......"

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      Dave Mathewsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Some people cannot handle the truth.
      Some people cannot recognize the truth.
      Some people are afraid of the truth.
      Some people are afraid to hurt someone else with the truth.

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   Stella Faleskesposted 13 years ago

   You are right Brenda, i think he just lie all the time and then he is waiting to see what is gonna happen. But i have no idea why is he doing to me , i am always nice to him , and we never had fight .
   Thank yo ufor your comment  !!!

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      Brenda Durhamposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I have a book called "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck.  It's got some good insight into the way people manipulate others and try to make their own reality, etc., and those who get caught up in the whole vicious circle.  Hard to tell the difference between illness and evil sometimes.  Of course, the Bible is pretty clear about it.

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   R.S. Hutchinsonposted 13 years ago

   I used to date a girl that was a habitual liar. We could both be looking at a blue glass and she would claim it to be red. What's worse is that she was soo good at lying, she would convince me it was red!!! I'd be so confused and start to get paranoid (the deeper lies were because of her cheating) I cam to the conclusion that she just could not help but lie.
   
   Part of the reason she lied was because she didn't want to hurt anyone.
   Part of the reason she lied was because she wanted to build herslef up (make it look like she was more than she was)
   Part of the reason she lied was to protect herself (f rom looking like she made a mistake, or did somethign stupid).
   
   I believe it can all be summed up like this: The habitual liar has low self esteem and a high need for acceptance.
   
   Her mother was also a habitual liar and I surmised that she learned the habit from watching her mother.
   
   I believe people can stop lying once they realze they are doing it and WHY they are doing it. But it takes a very strong minded person to make a change (about anything) and even stronger person to hold them accountable and say to thier face "I know you're lying- now tell me the truth" I tried to be that voice of reason for the girl I dated, but it took a toll on me and finally I gave up and dumped her. We are still friends but I dont trust anything she tells me- at all. Which is very sad, because other than that she is a beautiful person through and through.

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      Stella Faleskesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      R.S. Hutchinsoj
      
      I understand you very well, especially whe u said '' I 'd be so confused and start to get paranoid ''
      I started to get paranoid as well! It drives me crazy!!!!!!!
      I also think that  people can stop lying once they realize they are doing it, but the problem is that majority dont want to realize . I told my cousin sooooo many times that i know that he is lying and tell's me always 3 same words ''i dont care''
      
      I feel really sorry for your girlfriend, but LIES make people bad ,even if they are really good...
      
      
      Thank you for your comment!

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         LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Best way to deal with a person who lies is to stop them in their tracts and say...."You are so lying... You know it, I know it and God knows it; so you might as well tell the truth."

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            Stella Faleskesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            LeslieAdrienne you  are so right!!!!!!
            and honestly i told him that 10000 times, but  i guess he has no any feelings!
            Imagne that u are lying to me and i tell  u that i know the truth and that u are lying, and ur reaction is ''so what?!i dont care''
            it weird,,,,
            
            Thank you for your comment !!!

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         EmpressFelicityposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         If it drives you crazy, then obviously it's got under your skin which is what the habitual liar wants. It's a control thing, IMO - they want to manipulate you and "yank your chain". They might not even consciously realise it, but I bet anything you like that this is most compulsive liars' ultimate reason for what they do.

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            Stella Faleskesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            You are absolutely right!
            
            Thats what i am trying to figure out what is he doing it for!
            I always help him and we never had this broplem before , but for last few years he has something against me, and he lie, i talked to him sooo many times and still nothing good haven't get out of it......
            
            Thank you for your comment!

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   Cardisaposted 13 years ago

   I recently had a co-worker like that. She would call on the phone and say something about her life that was totally the opposite. She would tell stories and there was always some dram going on in her life. We figured she suffered low self-esteem so she tried to compensate by making her life seem interesting.
   
   It was difficult because not only did she lie about her life but she often made promises that she never kept, it was difficult to tell when she was speaking the truth.

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      Stella Faleskesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      The worth thing when u have a co-worker that lie! I mean at home u feel free to discuss it , to get all ur emotions out, but at work its not possible becaue of 2 reasons 1) u will mess up with your reputation and  2) at ur office everyone will start to gossip (what is not so good)
      
      Thank you for your comment!!!

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