The F and M Words

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   
   There are those to whom failure is akin to a severe and quite damnable moral transgression.  They see failure whether it is in an academic endeavor, career, and/or relationships as unforgivable thus making them severely flawed individuals.   They are also highly/vehemently intolerant of their spouses', significant other's, and most of all, their children's failures.  There are parents who view their children's mishaps as an affront to their position as parents.  They simply refuse to see that failure is part of growth, learning, and development.  They see failure as THE END.
   
   Another subset to this scenario is mistakes.  Mistakes are part of learning and the growth process.  However, there are those who view mistakes as a mortal sin which should have NEVER been made in the first place.  These people could be your parents, teachers, bosses, and/or significant others.  They maintain that making mistakes are signs of ineptitude, incompetence, and/or worse.  These are the parents who endlessly denigrate their children for making a mistake, thus creating risk averse and fearful children who are loath to use any time of initiative lest they fail.  They also create children who choose the easiest path.  What makes such people see failures and mistakes as catastrophic and the kiss of death?

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   Zelkiiroposted 10 years ago

   How many mistakes are you willing to accept from the guy responsible for not pushing The Button?

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      Silverspeederposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Pushing the button and acceptance of mistakes.............
      
      The person pushing the button on the trash compactor could rightly expect to be forgiven for making a mistake or two as long as those mistakes did not involve any injury either to himself or others.
      
      The person with their finger on the Nuke button should be made aware that no mistakes will be tolerated under any circumstances.
      
      Alas neither comes to fruition in reality. The person operating the trash compactor is more likely to suffer the wrath of the people and be punished for a mistake than the President who could probably get away with murder.

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         Kathryn L Hillposted 10 years agoin reply to this

         good point.

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   Kathryn L Hillposted 10 years ago

   Right On, gmwilliams! (But, I do love that jacket! It might be uncomfortable, but with today's fabrics it might be stretchy enough.)

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Why thank you for stopping by and adding to the discussion!

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   paradigmsearchposted 10 years ago

   Being born was my first mistake. And it's been going downhill ever since.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      NOW, NOW, don't say that.  It isn't as bad it seems.

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      Kathryn L Hillposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      - luckily, there are do-overs next time around… (because God thinks exactly like gmwilliams who said:  "...failure is part of growth, learning, and development." and "Mistakes are part of learning and the growth process."  If God gives us so much leeway, so should our parents, mentors and guides.)
      
      But, I have been worried lately about making the same STUPID mistakes!  Some mistakes we make in this lifetime can't be undone until the next… and even then, only if we are really lucky! (Since we don't have a memory of our past lives.)
      
      Would you (anyone) want to make the same mistakes next time around????

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   paradigmsearchposted 10 years ago

   Seriously, I was just wiggling along, minding my own business. When suddenly I see this large orb in front of me. Now if I'd just turned left, instead of going for it, none of the rest would have happened. Next time I'm going to remember that.

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      Kathryn L Hillposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      well, Good!   Actually, that is exactly what I could have done when I fell while riding my bike. My brakes went out for some unknown reason. I dove smack onto the hard asphalt when all I had to do was pull the bike to the left and into some soft Ivy. It happened so fast. I hope I will remember next time.

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