Failure

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   gmwilliamsposted 5 years ago

   
   What was your parents' attitude towards failure & mistakes?  If you made a mistake or failed, were your parents encouraging or were they discouraging, even unforgiving regarding your mistakes or failures?

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      The0NatureBoyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      After four-years-old I was raised by a School Teacher mother in the house with her Pastoring uncle, after 8, who only provided a shelter for raising her five children. By moving to Texas she lost her teaching rights.
      
      I failed very little in her sight, I was mischief and punished for doing what it was I wanted to do although I didn't stop anything for long. Whatever I wanted to do I did and accepted whatever the punishment was. The only way to become educated is to objectively explore and reason with the various outcomes one finds while accepting the consequences. Because I always worked providing for the house and what I was doing didn't get me in police type trouble, I wasn't a problem. 
      
      She did hate failures although she only considered my eldest sibling to have failed and couldn't do anything about it although she tried. Little do we know that our lives are predestined and we will follow that destiny to the letter, including everyone we meet under ever circumstance.
      
      My only failure was disobedience and nothing she did could stop that if I wanted to know. The path to understanding life is a painful path and is rejected parents-en-mass and teacher of the ways of civilization.

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   Castlepalomaposted 5 years ago

   I loved my parents, although did not like them growing up. We were poor with a terrible alcoholic father. Mother thought I would be a criminal just for stealing cookies. She was unforgiving for my  adventist side.
   
   I had to retrain my parents once I became an adult, even on how to hug. Yet lucky me, most of our adult lives,  we got along really well. That is very important because most important part of history in your life is your immediate family.

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   Rookery12posted 5 years ago

   My parents were also forgiving my lapses-but guess if I had chosen something ideal for me then the problem wouldnt have risen but guess some learn-trump American president may not be a perfect politician but definitely he has picked up-but he has made his money elsewhere so something like that wrong choices arent properly understood by parents but some like my parents guess were different-let my parents rest in place-guess career counsellors will be helpful in this picture or career choice books to aid people

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   MizBejabbersposted 5 years ago

   My dad was very forgiving, problem was, he didn't give his children too many chances to make mistakes. For instance, he would not teach us to drive. My mother gave me one driving lesson when I was 15, and as soon as he found out, he put a stop to it. After graduation, my sister went to secretarial school and got a job. After a couple of months, she bought a car and called daddy at work to tell him he would have to pick up the car and teach her to drive it. Since she was footing the bill, he did. My first husband taught me to drive.
   On the other hand,  my brother got into some trouble as a teenager. My dad after a good lecture to him, paid his fine and forgave him. We girls never got into any real trouble.
   
   Daddy had taught school for a few years, but he didn't like it. It did give him an understanding of student's problems, and he really encouraged and helped me to be a good scholar. I was an A and B  student because I was too hyper to make all As, but he was still pleased with that. I took chemistry my senior year in high school and made a few Cs because it wasn't my forte. I think my problem was because they would have the labs weeks before the lesson, when my mind was designed to learn the lesson and then practice the lab. One six-week period, I simply couldn't grasp the materials because the labs were coming before the lessons. My percentage that period was 66%, which was an F. My first and only one.
   
   I slunk into the house with that report card and handed it to him, expecting an explosion. He looked at it and said, "Well, don't think about the 34% you didn't know. Think about the 66% that you did learn."
   
   That was the way he handled our mistakes. Most of the time we just got a lecture if he didn't like what we did. My mother didn't handle our mistakes, she just yelled at us.

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   RachaelLeflerposted 5 years ago

   My mother was very understanding. We were poor and struggling. She always encouraged me no matter what I did. I did many activities as a kid; swimming, dance, theater, art, crafts, video games, creative writing, cheerleading, etc., I sure had a lot of energy before I got sleep apnea.
   Anyway, if I ever wanted to quit something, mom would accept that. If I wasn't doing well, mom would either try to help me do better or accept me if I quit. She was all about unconditional love. And I feel lucky because not all parents do that. Some want their kids to win and will treat them badly if they don't.

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   Castlepalomaposted 5 years ago

   GM
   
   Looks like your getting many true confessions about their parents. It has a deep impact in everyone's life

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