Do You Know Yourself?

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   marinealways24posted 13 years ago

   -Do you spend more time learning yourself or others?
   
   -Can you view yourself in a 3rd person perspective?
   
   -Do others know you better than you know yourself?
   
   -How well do you know yourself?

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      goodfriendiamposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      "Do you know yourself"
      Lets see the last time I looked, I was me, yep looked again, and its still me, unless, all NO that isn't me, and I'm just thinking its me, no that's me, wait maybe not, let me go check again, wow that was close its me ....lol....Just teasing you marinealways. You know I like your questions...

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         marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         lol Did you see your reflection or did you see what the person saw that was looking at you looking at your reflection in the mirror?

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      Kaie Arwenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I find something new to learn everyday, and I'm reminded of just how much I haven't learned more than once a day.
      
      Third person? Of course! That's when I talk about myself, and describe the person I think I am.
      
      I know her like nobody else! :-)

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         marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         lol excellent post. The 3rd person view is really important I think to keep ourselves in check, even if it does make us appear insane.

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      julie20201posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      1) Probably learning about others b/c I think I've got a decent handle on who I am.
      2) Yes, it's weird but do-able.
      3) No.
      4) What scale are we using? On a 1-10 scale, with one being low and 10 high, I'd say I know myself on a level of 8.5.

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         marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I liked your answers julie. Very humble and honest in my opinion. Thank You

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      1. Do you spend more time learning yourself or others? Others. that's because i already know myself very well.
      
      2. Can you view yourself in a 3rd person perspective? Absolutely. Very self-aware, which makes me my own harshest critic.
      
      3. Do others know you better than you know yourself? NO WAY
      
      4. How well do you know yourself? See #1.
      
      'k, this was a cool post. thank you.

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         tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

           And this was a 'cool' you.

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         marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Excellent answers. Very thoughtful and honest. Thank You.

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   pgrundyposted 13 years ago

   I'd give myself a B- in myself.

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      marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      lol What do you mean a B?!? Why not an A++. I think I have a pretty good idea of you. You definately deserve an A+++ from me.

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         pgrundyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         What a nice thing to say! Thanks.
         
         I give myself a B- because, even though I think I know myself pretty well, I like to 'forget' the flaws and stuff. My car remembers some of them though (you should see the back end of it) and my sweetie remembers the rest (but he's usually too polite to mention them).

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            marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I think realizing that you have flaws is something in itself. Many are not humble enough to admit or see that they have flaws. I think you know more than you think you know. lol

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   Crazdwriterposted 13 years ago

   I know quite a bit about myself but am always learning new things too thanks to family, friends, my hubby, and new people I meet, off line and online.
   
   If I had to grade I would agree with pgrundy and give myself a B-

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      marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      lol another B?? You have to give me some examples of what you don't think you know about you. lol

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   Davinagirl3posted 13 years ago

   I think I learn more and more about myself everyday.  I spend too much time trying to make others happy, and I need to spend more time on finding out what really makes me happy.  I know that, in order to empathize with others, you have to put your self in their shoes.  I think that when I put myself into the shoes of others, it helps me know myself a little better.  I would have to say that I know myself pretty well.

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      marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It sounds like you know yourself pretty well. It also sounds like you take a 3rd person perspective.

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   frogdroppingposted 13 years ago

   I know who I am. I like me. But having said that, I've knocked a few bits of me on the head this last year.
   
   Horrible events have that effect I guess. You make mistakes, you learn, and move on.
   
   I'm not sure others know me well. I don't share enough in some ways - which isn't helpful for them.

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        It's very difficult 2 understand frog droppings, don't u think ?

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         frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         You think? Ask and I shall answer
         
         Marine, I agree. I learned a few tough ones (about myself) and let's face it, knowing you were wrong in some way isn't easy to swallow. Or rather, its accepting it that's the hard part.
         
         Ryann - yup!

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            tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I'ts impossible not 2 make mistakes.you shouldn't b 2 hard on yourself. I always forgive myself and move on.

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               marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I don't forgive myself until I learn from the mistake.

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                  tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    only dumb people can't learn from their mistakes! that's obvious !

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                     marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     Yes, and they often end up "back" in jail.

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            marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Ah,, Well said. It takes losing arrogance and ego to humble yourself to learn from your mistakes. Agreed?

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               frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Marine, I was never arrogant or even bothered with an ego, as such. I really am incredibly laid back. But I have been humbled by some of my mistakes, definitely. And felt a little silly for good measure

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      marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Good point on mistakes. I think the only time something is a mistake is when nothing is learned.

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         ryankettposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Good piece of advice that. The cliche of course goes "Learn from your mistakes". I too believe that as long as you learn from negative experiences, it is difficult to label it as a mistake.

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            marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Ty

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   wesleycoxposted 13 years ago

   I know myself pretty well but lately I've been finding new hairs in really weird places. C.

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      frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Age?

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         wesleycoxposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         30

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   frogdroppingposted 13 years ago

   tantrum - I'm good with 'me'. I regret nothing. So, I'm fine with mistakes I've made, and bad choices. I can't change them so ... I'm forgiven

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       
      
      

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   mtsi1098posted 13 years ago

   i think i know myself pretty well so i spend the time getting to know others

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   ralwusposted 13 years ago

   I am an enigma even to self.

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    megs78posted 13 years ago

    I know myself pretty well.  I know I am too insistent when I shouldn't be. I judge too quickly (shameful, really) and then beat myself up over it.  I am too quick to say yes and then angry at myself for not thinking first (credit cards, new cars...etc) and I worry too much about things I can't change.  BUT, I am docile, I love people (mostly), love conversation, and am always ready to try something new.  Certainly not perfect, but trying always to be better than I was yesterday...its a daily challenge

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Nice description. Sounds like you have things covered. Maybe instead of judging, you could find common ground looking at faults in yourself. You can't change that you judged in the past, all you can do is learn not to judge.

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          megs78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I have already found fault with myself (as I just pointed out above) and am trying to be honest about that part of myself with you and to me.  Its not easy admitting things like that, but like I said, I'm trying to be better each day.

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             marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

             What is making you still judge people?

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                megs78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Are you judging me?  Seriously?  Are you? Because you seem to be taking the position of someone who can ask all the questions, but never take any responsibility for your own actions.  Honestly, I'm not trying to start anything here, but you just can't leave well enough alone.  You remind me of someone who needs to keep digging even though you already found all the bones possible.
                What more do you want me to say?  I try everyday not to judge, but as a human, its difficult.  And I know you struggle with it too whether you admit it or not.  We all do.  Its inherent in us.  But the difference is that there are those who admit to it and try to change and those who don't or who refuse to believe they do.  I don't judge people harshly all the time if thats what youre asking.  I can be quick to think 'I don't think we'll get along', only to be surprised when we do.  Thats what I mean when I say quick to judge.  I wrote a hub about it, its called A Calling To Compassion.  I don't know what you think of me Marinealways24, but I have a feeling you have pre-judged me and I would like to know why,
                Megs

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                   marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                   lol You aren't a very easy person to communicate with. I didn't expect you to get defensive from that question. I'm not judging you. Do you not think if you figure out "why" you judge, then maybe you won't judge anymore? How well can you learn of yourself if you get defensive of questions about yourself?

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                      megs78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      Hmmm, I think you pose questions to make people respond Marinealways24.  I don't think any question you ask goes without some kind of ulterior motive.  I really don't care though, like I said, I enjoy people, I love conversation, and actually my most enjoyable past time is a good debate.
                      
                      However, in response to your question, I do know why I judge. I'm human, and more than that, I was raised in an environment that wasn't really safe and I had no choice but to be careful.  That tainted my point of view and my trust in others, but the fact that I recognize it and admit that I have a problem in that area kind of helps me to understand it better.  And being defensive is rare for me and I'm almost ashamed that you got it out of me...almost, but not really.  And trust me, I ask a lot of questions of myself.  I ask a lot of questions period.  I am not being defensive, just stating fact!  And not once in my life have I been told that I was difficult to communicate with.  Weird that it should come from you!

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                         marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                         Wow, That was an excellent in depth explanation. Thank You for posting that. I have judged people previously for some of those same reasons in the past. Maybe in the society we live in, we have to judge to an "extent" to protect ourselves. I give you huge amounts of credit for being humble enough to recognize and explain your faults. You are easier to communicate with now. lol

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       Song-Birdposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       It sounds like you have a great outlook

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          megs78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Thank you Songbird (love that username).  I kind of said 'jeez, did I just admit all that to a lot of people I don't know?' and then I thought 'that felt kinda good!'    Always learning I guess, take care
          megs

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    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    I accept that none of us can know anyone else as well as we know ourselves, so at this point in my life I more spend time working on myself than learning about me or others.
    
    With the exception of my outward appearance/demeanor, I can step outside myself and see my side to things/thoughts as if I were an objective third party.  With the outward stuff, I'm more than familiar with the person in the mirror but I have no clue about what others see.
    
    Nobody knows me like I know me.   

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       You are a very smart lady. Have I said that before? I think if you see yourself doing good from a true 3rd person perspective, you can guarantee it will influence others to do good. I think as long as you are honest with yourself and others, the others will see what you want them to see.

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    tantrumposted 13 years ago

    I know myself so much, that I fell in love with myself. Such a nice ,handsome guy....Maybe I'm bisexual?

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I thought you was a woman. Oops.

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          tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I hope you didn't fall in love with me !

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             marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

             lol No, kinda hard with that eyeball picture.

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    Pearldiverposted 13 years ago

    I know myself enough to Never Question my own Sexuality

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       tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I know myself enough...so sometimes I question my sexuality

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    Jess Killmenowposted 13 years ago

    To know oneself is a life long quest.

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       ...That some give up on.

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    Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

    I would hope I know myself by now

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       You would be surprised at how many don't.

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       GreenMathDrposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Me too! In my life I've often thought that I knew my self, and then I realized something new.  I hope I've finished these realizations- but you never can tell.

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          marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I don't think you finish until you stop looking.

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    earnestshubposted 13 years ago

    I'm working on it, gimme another 50 years or so.

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       You and me both.

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    earnestshubposted 13 years ago

    When I look in the mirror I see this funny looking old guy! That is definitely not me!

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I see a St. Bernard when I look in the mirror.

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I see a funny looking old guy too! lol jk. The mirror is lying to you, I definately think you have a young soul.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 13 years ago

    i am beginnig to get to know and accept myself more now, and not to be so hard on myself which i would have learnt how to do it years ago .....

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       ah, we gotta take the wrong way to find the right way. Maybe some never find the wrong way? If never finding the wrong way, could they truly understand the right way?

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    Susana Sposted 13 years ago

    I think I know myself pretty well - it's been one of my missions in this lifetime. After about 7  years of psychotherapy and also training to be a psychodynamic counsellor I've learnt a ton. One of the most important things is I know that some things you can change about yourself and some things you just can't. Then it becomes a quest to accept the things you can't change.
    
    I use my dreams and nightmares to get some real insight into who I am and not just who I think I am or what I would rather be like! It's a constant thing this learning about oneself. I can't imagine a point where I'll say, "ok, that's it - I know everythng now."

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Thank You for posting. What do you think when someone can't remember dreams? Do they really have purpose to our conscious life when some of us can't remember them? If the dreams are replaying what we have learned the previous day, are they just not repeating what we have already seen?

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    tantrumposted 13 years ago

    I'm passing by to say hello !. I can't think deep thoughts on a Sunday

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Hello is a pretty deep thought for me on a Sunday morning. Hello to you as well. We are deep thinkers this morn.! lol

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       \Brenda Scullyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       hello

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          marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Hello back

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    ralwusposted 13 years ago

    I think I 'found' self back in the late 80's. I know myself pretty well and still don't like meself at times.

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I'm glad you found yourself rawlus. You should like yourself, you definately defy the odds. Maybe you would like yourself more when you realize you odds you defeated.

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    ralwusposted 13 years ago

    LOL, well I am grateful for many things. But sometimes my 'old man' wants to return and I must fight him off. He is a baaad character that likes to raise his fugly head now and again. I am very grateful and thankful for finding so many people who I now regard as friends right here and am having fun getting to know more and more about you all.

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Well said. I think we can only learn others when we "finally" understand ourselves. Or else, we are only seeing what we want to see if learning others before learning ourselves.

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    cosetteposted 13 years ago

    well thank you.

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    Tom Cornettposted 13 years ago

    My other personality gives me a B. OK, OK a C+...satisfied now!  Yes.

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       marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       A C+ is certainly better than an F! lol

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          Tom Cornettposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I tried to tell him that!  No you didn't! AAAHHHHH!

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             marinealways24posted 13 years agoin reply to this

             He will listen eventually. No he won't. Yes he will. Maybe.

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