Hmmm, I think you pose questions to make people respond Marinealways24. I don't think any question you ask goes without some kind of ulterior motive. I really don't care though, like I said, I enjoy people, I love conversation, and actually my most enjoyable past time is a good debate.
However, in response to your question, I do know why I judge. I'm human, and more than that, I was raised in an environment that wasn't really safe and I had no choice but to be careful. That tainted my point of view and my trust in others, but the fact that I recognize it and admit that I have a problem in that area kind of helps me to understand it better. And being defensive is rare for me and I'm almost ashamed that you got it out of me...almost, but not really. And trust me, I ask a lot of questions of myself. I ask a lot of questions period. I am not being defensive, just stating fact! And not once in my life have I been told that I was difficult to communicate with. Weird that it should come from you!