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What are AT LEAST TEN reasons why it is UNWISE for children, tweens, and teens t

  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    What are AT LEAST TEN reasons why it is UNWISE for children, tweens, and teens to have friendships

    and other associations with their counterparts from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than theirs?

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  2. kschimmel profile image48
    kschimmelposted 4 years ago

    I grew up poor, and we are not rich yet, but my daughter had friends from among those with the welfare mentality.  They treated her like she was rich and should give them rides, etc. just because she had 2 parents, part-time access to my vehicle, and no EBT card.  While I'm happy to help, coming from a poor background (though we'd never take welfare) I resented the way my daughter was taken advantage of by kids who thought they were "entitled" to others' things and that my daughter didn't deserve to be happy. If I could do it over, I'd take back the couple of years she went to public school. She was too kind and generous for the ungrateful moochers (who were made that way, I suppose, by their parent(s)?)

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    mbuggiehposted 4 years ago

    I am so appalled by this question that I cannot even begin to formulate a response.


    Everything is not money; the bottom-line; cash value.


    That said, I am beginning to think "gmwilliams" that you publish these questions and forums in praise of Mammon with some motive that I have not yet discerned, but suspect, is related to what we might---with all due respect, call attention-getting.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Social class determines so much.Children from affluent socioecnomic classes have a different perspective on life than those from lower socioecnomic backgrounds.Affluent children are raised/inculcated differently than children from the lower class.

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      mbuggiehposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Different does NOT mean better.

      Remember we now have a condition among some teens called "affluenza".

    3. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      There's NOTHING wrong w/being affluent.  It is a GOOD thing!

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    sheilamyersposted 4 years ago

    There isn't even one good reason! Friends are friends no matter how much or little money either of them have.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Not necessary, children from socioecnomically affluent backgrounds have a different mindset than children from lower socioeconomic backgrounds who are taught VERY DIFFERENT things in terms of achievemen, education, & success!

    2. kschimmel profile image48
      kschimmelposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The real question is the attitude of the friends, not their income.  I taught my daughter that the way to tell a real friend is to ask yourself who would still be there even if you had nothing left to give them!

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      mbuggiehposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      This question got me thinking about friends of mine; some friends for over 50 years. We come from very different "socio-economic" backgrounds and we've all done just fine. One reason: Our friendships with each other without reference to class.

  5. deecoleworld profile image81
    deecoleworldposted 4 years ago

    This is crazy question, and I think everyone should have friends but I will tackle this question. (Some of these reasons maybe really silly and far out) but I am answering this question.

    1. Friends can introduce children, tweens, and teens to drugs (pot, meth, cocaine, alcohol).

    2. Friends can introduce children, tweens, and teens to unsafe sex practices/situations (unprotected sex, promiscuity, prostitution etc.)

    3. Friends can introduce children, tweens, and teens to stealing (shoplifting, grand theft auto).

    4. Friends can introduce children, tweens, and teens to lying, cheating, and fighting.

    5. Friends can encourage children, tweens, and teens to act like bullies and be mean to others.

    6. Friends can encourage children, tweens, and teens to not do homework, to skip classes, to cut school and to even drop out of school.

    7. Friends can encourage children, tweens, and teens to not listen/act out to their parents, teachers, the cops, and virtually all adults.

    8. Friends can exposed children, tweens, and teens to dangerous/criminal activities (drug dealing, gang-banging, graffiti art, etc.)

    9.Friends can encourage  children, tweens, and teens to do dumb things (planking, video-taping yourself twerking, sexting, jumping off of bridges, putting firecrackers in your mouth, sucking alcohol out of tampons, etc.)

    10. Friends can introduce and expose children, tweens, and teens to bad influences and situations (introduction to drug dealers, crack/meth/pot heads, parties with illegal drug use, creepy parents that can’t keep their hands to themselves, etc.)

    11. Friends can encourage, teach and expose children, tweens, and teens to bad morals and values (bad work ethnic/not to work hard, to bum off the government and system, to trap people in relationships using pregnancy and other means, etc.)

    12. Friends can encourage children, tweens, and teens to unhealthy behaviors and attitudes that can lead to mental disorders, (such as obsessing about thigh-gap and being skinny which can lead to eating disorders/ body dysmorphic disorder, encouraging cutting and self-mutilation to solves problems that can lead to depression, suicidal behaviors, etc.).

    1. deecoleworld profile image81
      deecoleworldposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Note this can be of friends/associations of different socio/economic backgrounds not just lower ones

    2. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Many children from lower socioeconomic backgrounds have a negative, anti-achievement,&anti-education mindset.They've a consciousness of being satisfied w/very little as opposed to children from more affluent backgrounds who are exhorted to ACHIEV

    3. deecoleworld profile image81
      deecoleworldposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I get that gmwilliams even so, kids of all backgrounds can be exposed to drugs, sex, bad values, criminal behavior, etc. The stuff I list can apply to kids of all socio/economic backgrounds. I'm curious what was the purpose asking this question?

    4. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Glad YOU asked.The purpose was that each social class has its own inculcation. Each social class has its own perspective in terms of worldview..Affluent parents want their kids to associate w/other affluent kids because of the part.mindset/worldview.

    5. deecoleworld profile image81
      deecoleworldposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      i get that gmwilliams!

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      mbuggiehposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      This is all true, but "gmwilliams" believes that rich is better in every way---morally, intellectually, socially, spiritually and that, therefore, we should not allow our children to associate with a diverse group of friends.

  6. tehgyb profile image85
    tehgybposted 4 years ago

    ...what?

    It is socially NECESSARY for children to develop friendships. It is what creates a functioning adult. You can get NOWHERE in life without at least half-decent people skills. Everything you do in life requires it. You can't pass an interview and gain employment if the person interviewing you doesn't like you. You are selling yourself in all you do.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Misunderstood the context of the questioin.  Yes, it is GREAT to have friendships but it is wise to for children from affluent socioeconomic background have such friendships w/similarly affuent children who have something in commonality.

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    brakel2posted 4 years ago

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    Who are we to judge others? This question assumes valid reasons exist for not associating with others beneath you socially or economically

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      mbuggiehposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      And it assumes that wealthy means better and it most certainly does not.

 
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