What causes some highly educated and accomplished women be attracted to less

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

    What causes some highly educated and accomplished women be attracted to less

    educated and socioeconomically non-accomplished men who are going nowhere?


  2. AuniceReed profile image77
    AuniceReedposted 3 years ago

    I think that there could be several reasons for this, but the most obvious is that self-esteem is lacking.   They may not hold high standards for themselves enough to consider the "worthiness" of the guy in question.  Another plausible reason could be that some accomplished women are in fact attracted to "bad boy" types which many women admit to.  Bad boys tend to not have much going on as in the way of a job and education.  They also tend to have frequent run-ins with the law.

    It could also be that the highly-educated, accomplished woman is focusing more on whether she is actually "in love" with the guy than whether he has a good paying job or not.  Sometimes such women compromise for what they consider to be true love.

  3. Emmyboy profile image81
    Emmyboyposted 3 years ago

    Well, I can't really say.

    Maybe, it's the physical attraction. Maybe it's the guy's personality. Or maybe it might just be the need in the woman for someone to dominate.

    The thing with attraction between two people is that quite a lot is going on beyond the conscious level that we can access.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    I imagine there could be a variety of reasons.
    Some women are naturally attracted to men they consider to be "good looking". This is especially true during their youth or if they've already decided they have no intentions of getting married.
    In other instances they may have dated successful men who treated them like crap or didn't give them the kind of attention they desired. These women may have decided: "I make more than enough money and (I don't need a man for financial security). As long as he treats me right, is honest, caring, reliable, and has a job that's fine with me."
    Past relationship experience has a large bearing on folks. If they've had a lot of bad experience with one type of man/woman they will consider a different type to find happiness,
    A few years back author Lori Gottlieb wrote a book titled:
    "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough"
    Essentially the premise was that women would be happier if they found a man who adored them and treated them the way they wanted to be treated as opposed to continuing to search for "The rich handsome knight In shining Armor".  She might be saying don't overlook a guy who is going bald, shorter, who earns less money or has less education if he treats you right. From her point of view it's  better be practical in making their relationship choice rather to be driven by physical attraction or income. (Also less competition)
    The fewer options one leaves for them self the more difficult it is to find a suitable mate. No one gets "everything" they want.
    Having said that there are many women who never outgrow their "bad boy" phase. They themselves have it all great looks, education, and great income and yet only the "bad boy" makes their heart beat faster. The sex is off the charts! They convince themselves they'll be able to "help him" or (change him) over time. They allow themselves to be used financially and they bend over backwards to earn his time and attention from other women. The more difficult it is to win "his love" the more valuable he is to them. A part of them enjoys the drama and competing with others.
    Any guy who openly adores them and is honest and caring is placed in the "friend zone" because he is also seen as not being a challenge and boring.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I forgot to mention some women need to feel "needed" and dating men who already "have it all" makes them feel disposable and insecure. Where as a man without much going for him other than looks/sex appeal is seen as a potential "project" for her.

  5. Robert the Bruce profile image60
    Robert the Bruceposted 3 years ago

    Maybe because a person's happiness is not totally dependent on their level of education and wealth or that of the person they love. Some people fit well together even though they are from different economic backgrounds.


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