What separates people who have IT i.e. magnetism/charisma from those who are jus

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What separates people who have IT i.e. magnetism/charisma from those who are just wallflowers or
   
   colorless people?
   
   

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Confidence, good looks, personable, great sense of humor, and are willing to be the (first person) to say "hello". They take an interest in other people and they're great when it comes to establishing rapport on a variety of subjects. They're usually proactive!
   Note: Even those without the "good looks" can have "it" as well. People are drawn towards positive friendly outgoing people. While dull quiet and humorless people darken any room they enter into.
   Most wallflowers wait for someone to come talk to them first.
   Initiating conversations with strangers is a "risk" they're unwilling to take. They want to be "discovered" rather than possibly be rejected or dismissed. They're also afraid of saying the "wrong" thing or something "stupid". Uncomfortable silence also scares them.

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   Tusitala Tomposted 10 years ago

   I doubt there are any 'colourless' people as you infer, Grace, for everyone has within them the 'spark of life' which is the essence of what we all are.   However, the less thick the egotistical shell (the less the self-image) the more we can be our natural self.   It is the Natural Self that shines through (that is natural to ourselves in our own estimation) that is the deciding factor as to whether we are confident, outgoing, and uninhibited. 
   
   (This, of course, is only me opinion.  It doesn't means it's right.  It only means I think it could be right)
   
   Charisma comes from the energy which radiates outward from us.   We give out what we have inside always (unless we are a saint) through the conditioning of our minds, our beliefs.   If we believe we a 'great' (not in an egotistical way) and that we have great energy and power which we can use to lead, persuade and inspire others, then we have it.   
   
   The more we get to know our true self, our real self, the more of charismatic we become.   Confidence springs from self-esteem, real self-esteem, that comes without fear from the self which lies within us all.

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