What do you think of the "other woman" IN A relationship
There should be NO "other woman." If you make vows before God, you need to honor them for life.
What if they didn't make any vows? From my point of view there has to be a "commitment" BEFORE I would exchange vows with anyone. If there was no "exclusive relationship" prior to taking vows it's not likely that marriage will curb their appetite.
True, but then I said if you make vows before God--that definitely makes it exclusive.
I think the "other woman" in a relationship is just being used by the man when he gets tired or fed up with his wife or partner. I don't want to be "the other woman", I just want to be the only wife of my husband. Sounds selfish but I don't believe in having an affair when you are married or in a relationship as you put it.
I wouldn't judge another person, because I don't walk in her shoes.
For myself, I've avoided ever getting involved with a person who is married, because my feeling is that anyone who makes a commitment to another person, and then doesn't honor it, isn't worth my time. Why would I enter into a relationship with someone I know is a liar and a cheat? I deserve someone better than that!
There are several types of "other women".
1. There are the ones who never knew the man was supposedly in a monogamous relationship or possibly married. In her case she'd be as much of a victim as the girlfriend or wife.
2. There's also the "other woman" who knew his relationship/marital status before she got involved but didn't care because she was only out to have some FUN times. This happens quite frequently with men who are rich and famous. Everyone knows the guy is married and yet many women will throw themselves at these rock stars, actors, athletes, and politicians with the hopes of experiencing a fantasy or being a "Sugar Baby". They don't want to marry the guy or co-parent with his would be ex. It's all about money, good times, & sex.
3. Lastly there is the other woman who knew about the man's relationship/marital status and had no plans of going beyond "platonic friendship". They might be co-workers or associate in some other way. Their friendship was rationalized in their mind as : "Just because I'm married doesn't mean I can't have friends!" Over time they talked about various subjects and eventually covered each other's home life. The friendship gradually becomes an emotional attachment between people who "empathize" with one another. Initially they may have offered each other "advice" to better their respective marriage/relationship.
One day they give into their physical desire or one of them confesses he/she has fallen in love. Naturally this causes the other to confess their love as well.
In this scenario if the man is caught cheating that's when you'll hear him say; "I never (planned) for this happen". This is the type of "other woman" where a man might actually leave his wife or significant other for. It's got all of the "romantic storylines" of two people falling "in love" while belonging to others. "No one on the outside could understand us." blah blah blah
Odds are the wife/girlfriend could care less which type of "other woman" he's involved with unless she wants to stay with her man. Nevertheless it is the third type that is the most deadly as it was something that (evolved over time). This woman was not some human sex toy for him to secretly hookup with. He (cares) about her.
I agree completely!! If the other woman knowingly gets with an involved man, to me she is not only disrepecting his relationship, but also herself. Why would anyone wanna be second to another. Its mind boggling!!
glassthoughts, A lot of the "other women" aren't looking for any commitment. They're just out to selfishly have some fun times and remain "free" to do other things. Not every mistress wants to be a wife. Those who do must think men are scarce:)
If there is another woman in the relationship, the couple has either not made it clear that they are exclusive or there are big problems in paradise. Not sure what kind of info you're seeking here, but I'm my opinion if there's another woman involved and there have been no vows taken AND the couple isn't exclusive then this relationship is in trouble.
Unfortunately not everyone one who makes vows keeps them! There are lots of marriages that are destroyed by infidelity! Many people who are in "exclusive relationships" either cheat or are cheated on. Vows/promises are words unless one honors them
Well by my experience of being the OTHER women, Some of us do not know we are the Other woman and then I found out later that there was still yet another woman besides myself.
That makes it so much harder to leave even after because your already in love
He told me that he was divorced. Then I met the Other Other woman in person and we confronted him and we both left. He wanted a harem!! lol That was a long time ago.
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