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Awesome answer, MarleneB! That's how I was raised, too. My parents never held me back, they just held me safe (with words or otherwise) and encouraged careful thought before making decisions..
Yet another great mom, peachpurple! Your kids are VERY lucky to have you as their guiding light.
Sometime we learn by failing at something for example I failed math but I am great at writing and art and creative pursuits. Failing math, in my opinion, does not mean I am a disappointment to someone or that I am not a success.
Exactly, Lizam1! Failing gracefully in something is another important way of demonstrating excellence to your kids, especially if you encourage them to get the math grades you couldn't. (Kids love challenges.)
Bravo! Well said, A. Riter! We all know THAT parent, and it's a nightmare for parent and child!
Awesome! I use this trick when managing employees/team members: praising them in advance for the work that you know they can do. Works magic! Example introduction, "Yes and Fred, here, is our expert at ____". Soon, Fred makes that come true.
Lizam1, I respectfully disagree. I think that what you just said, "Being the best you can be..." while enjoying life DEFINES excellence! It's not about being the brightest kid in class on a particular subject, it's about doing YOUR best. Win-win!
Oh yes, that is true Laura. I was addressing the possibility that I often see as a parenting educator with parents pushing only excellence in everything and ending up with stressed out and anxiety ridden children and teens.
I know what you mean. "Stage parents" or "sports parents". Poor kids if that's their lot in life--a parent living out his/her dreams through their kids. Or maybe it's a competition with other parents: my kid's better than yours... Sad. Very sad.
pstraubie48, you're another great mom! Your kids are so lucky to have a mom with expectations of personal excellence from the child: not winning, necessarily, but doing the best they can. I like the way you think!.
I agree with you Chitangada Sharan. Well said.
Excellent points--"hard work" needs to be demonstrated more often to kids. While kids enjoy appreciation, adults shouldn't need it to achieve success. Getting a kid from childhood to adulthood--independence--involves preparing them for hard work.
I love your reasons and quote Xpressrite! Thank you!
I love, "Getting children to believe that they can become whatever they want". I, too, think that's essential. To get them to believe... ask what she thinks she CAN'T do, then tell her to really pretend that she CAN and go do it! Success!
Thank you K Morris! I recently married and my husband and I are thinking of adopting, since we both have a grown-up child from a first marriage. My daughter lives in Germany and his son is sadly distant. We want to have children of our own to grow as
Cool! Sounds like your child might thrive in "gifted" programs! Check out www.us.mensa.org/ for guidance (esp. on toys). Contact her schools now. Encourage her multiple interests--focus probably isn't workable for a gifted child. (I was one.) Luck!
You made me laugh, but you're definitely right: computers are immensely important! Kids need to get an early start (preschool) in order to "Excel". If a kid can't use a computer, it's a disaster: almost all jobs in the US require computer skills.
Sounds like you've got one great kid, DDE! Good job! (Maybe he's gifted even? Maybe he can take some special classes because of it? Just a thought/wish for you.)