Should you keep a baby if the father does not want to know????

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   nessemilyreeceposted 7 years ago

   Should you keep a baby if the father does not want to know????
   
   Soooo basically ive been in a on off relationship with a guy for a year and ive became pregnant ive told him and he said get rid and we will be fine he said I will ruin him if I have this baby what would you do? Baring in mind I have two other children from a diffrent relationship thanks

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   LoliHeyposted 7 years ago

   Think of the baby!  Not of this deadbeat boyfriend you should cut off totally!  I know you have other children, but don't get rid of the baby because the father wants nothing to do with it--get rid of him, and find a good man who will care for it.  So the baby will ruin him?  From the sound of it, he doesn't sound that he could possibly have that good of a reputation to begin with--probably a fake one and he will be exposed as a fraud.  Not your problem.

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   RTalloniposted 7 years ago

   As far as he goes, your comments sound like he may very well be lying to you about who he is, therefore using you, meaning, at best, your life isn't what it could be.  It would not be wise to believe more lies from him. 
   
   There are groups that are able to help you choose life.  Check out AbortionNo, for instance.  It's not an easy situation, the choices you face are difficult, but with help you can make a positive decision and then get help to go forward in life making better choices than most people do their entire lives.

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   Aime Fposted 7 years ago

   Do what is best for YOU.  Ultimately you are the one who will be affected most by the choice you make.  If you want to have the baby then have it knowing that it doesn't sound like he has any interest in being involved.  If you don't want to have another baby then look at your options.  I am all for freedom of choice but saying "get rid of it because it'll ruin me" doesn't sound like a very well-thought out or considerate opinion.  Don't let him guilt you into doing something you don't want to do.

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      nessemilyreeceposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Ive had time to think things over and am totally against abortions but I had a slight doubt that I would be doing more harm than good fetching this baby up but you know I look at my kids I have now and I know I wouldnt love or treat it any different

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      Aime Fposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Then there you go.   Congrats on your pregnancy!

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   tamarawilhiteposted 7 years ago

   1. If he doesn't want to have the baby or help raise it, the best you would get is child support. The child is going to be off to a bad start in this case.
   2. Without the father's support and with two other children with two other fathers, the best thing you can do for this baby is put it up for adoption to a married two parent family that can provide the support and attention it needs - and give you the bandwidth to help take care of the two you are already raising on your own.

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      nessemilyreeceposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I dont think so what because I have no support you think I should give it up for adoption are you kidding me??? How could I judtify when it gets older and asks why I give it away but kept 2 other kids this response was not thought through at all

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      Cissy1946posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes it was. You're not putting the baby into foster care or an orphanage, you're providing a loving and caring environment in which it will be able to flourish. If the child ever asks tell the truth, you did what was best for child.

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      Aime Fposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You guys know literally nothing about this woman other than that she's a single mother and you're suggesting that this baby is better off somewhere else? Good grief.

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      RTalloniposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      It is an option, and a viable one. If the only reason not to is fear of the child asking why later in life, then the answer is the truth. If she thought about it, got good counsel on her situation and decided it was best, that's the truth.

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   WordCrafter09posted 7 years ago

   On the one hand, your question asks "should you keep....".  Then you note that you're against abortion.  Apparently you've already decided that adoption isn't an option (at least as far you're concerned, with the two children you have).  So it doesn't look like there's really a question here
   
   Maybe a re-worded question would get you better answers.

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      nessemilyreeceposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes I am against them BUT like I said in another post I had doubts that maybe it was an option! And that I did want others opinion but when the replys started coming in I was like christ why did I think or ask this

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