What words do you associate with being the oldest child in the family:
It depends on the family. For example in one familyu I know it would be
Control freak, favorite, bully, in control, narcissist, self proclaimed queen.
I thin it's a myth and just like with our names, we can overcome anything. There are more important circumstances at play in life.
in small families-cool,hip oldest sibling, the more glamorous, sophisticated sibling
in large & very large families-overburdened, parentified, unappreciated, overused, cast aside/discarded unless ask to be at beck/call of parents and younger siblings, putting own's needs LAST, having no SELF time i.e. a SLAVE.....
Driven. Leader. Perhaps socially awkward at times. Independent.
I'm the oldest of eight: Responsible, stoic, gentle, role model, teacher, pioneer, peacemaker, intermediary, scapegoat, child adult, lonely, productive for others, but not myself. You might have guessed that I'm also female. There's a lot of nurturing in there. Oh, did I say nurturing?
You were the parentified child who put others FIRST while you put yourself LAST. The average oldest child in large & very large families must be on 24/7/365 for parents. LONELY? Never heard of this before. Well, yes lonely because NOBODY was ever there for you, poor little one. I am going to HUG you. My mother was the oldest of ten. What a LIFE many poor oldest of large families "lead". Being unappreciated & overused. It continues even to adulthood. NO RESPITE AT ALL!
I just joined a professional choir. I was very excited. My first performance. 35 member orchestra accompanying us. I invited everyone. No one came.
My sister, "Sunday's are my special day." (And she wants me to take her dogs, cause I have a yard.)
Told you it is NEVERending/UNending. Adult oldest children SHOULDER EVERYTHING. They DO EVERYTHING. When will IT STOP! It is like adult oldest children have NOBODY; younger siblings usually DON'T help, assume responsibilities, and are mostly OUT FOR THEMSELVES! It is ALL GIVING for the oldest child and seldom if any receiving. The mantra for oldest children should be, " I treat others FAR BETTER than they have treated me." They are THERE for everyone in the family but NO ONE is there for them. Sad really. I think I am going to write a hub on this very topic in the future.
Oddly, my sister is known as the control freak, the competitive one, the blamer. There's only the two of us amongst six boys (she's four years younger and more attractive). But she also panics easily, and needs my attention and reassurance when she's going through changes. I should also add for myself . . . and I'm not happy about this . . . resentment.
The oldest child a/k/a oldest sibling in a family. The theme for oldest children should be oh $%^#% again, what do you ALL #$%^& want now, leave me the $%^&# ALONE, $%^&*@! I would not wish being the oldest child on Satan!
TIME to HUG all oldest children, they need our hugs, prayers, and DEEPEST SYMPATHY. I feel SORRY for OLDEST children, really!
put UPON BIG TIME
abused MORE BIG TIME
dethroned.....and dethroned...............and DETHRONED...............(depending upon family size)
HELL is heaven in comparison to lives oldest children live
PRISON CAMP is better than the environment of some oldest children
slaves and forced laborers have MORE FREEDOM than many oldest children, especially oldest children in large and very large families.
Overwhelming and great. First one born is usually first on out the house,yet first borns are responsible for the youngest when the parents can't or don't want to be.
This is SO TRUE. Oldest children are oftentimes the unspoken, REAL parents in the household. There are parents, especially those of large families, who COMPEL their oldest child to parent the younger siblings.
by Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago
I believe that the oldest child in a family have the toughest and roughest path to go. He/she was automatically dethroned upon the birth/births of a successive sibling/siblings. He/she is often held to a higher and stricter standard than his/her younger siblings, ...
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