Word Association

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   
   What words do you associate with being the oldest child in the family:
   
   For instance,
     controlling

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      cfinposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It depends on the family. For example in one familyu I know it would be
      
      Control freak, favorite, bully, in control, narcissist, self proclaimed queen.
      
      I thin it's a myth and just like with our names, we can overcome anything. There are more important circumstances at play in life.

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   The Examiner-1posted 9 years ago

   being called names;
   told to go away;
   told to shut up;

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   SAQIB6608posted 9 years ago

   responcible

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   caseymelposted 9 years ago

   responsible

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   Casey van Bposted 9 years ago

   leadership, patience, on call  (yep, I'm an eldest, too)

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      in small families-cool,hip oldest sibling, the more glamorous, sophisticated sibling
      
      
      in large & very large families-overburdened, parentified, unappreciated, overused, cast aside/discarded unless ask to be at beck/call of parents and younger siblings, putting own's needs LAST, having no SELF time i.e. a SLAVE.....
      

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   rainsanmartinposted 9 years ago

   Driven. Leader. Perhaps socially awkward at times. Independent.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Always blamed for what younger siblings DO, punished MORE.

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   Kathy Stutzmanposted 9 years ago

   Yep, responsible

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   The Examiner-1posted 9 years ago

   Pain in the neck;
   nosy;
   "just like a parent"

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Many oldest are pressed into being "parents", especially those in medium large, large, & very large families.  The life of an oldest child is quite onerous.  It is TOUGH being the OLDEST CHILD!

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   ladyguitarpickerposted 9 years ago

   Bossy

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    Marie Flintposted 9 years ago

    role model (sometimes)

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    watergeekposted 9 years ago

    I'm the oldest of eight: Responsible, stoic, gentle, role model, teacher, pioneer, peacemaker, intermediary, scapegoat, child adult, lonely, productive for others, but not myself. You might have guessed that I'm also female. There's a lot of nurturing in there. Oh, did I say nurturing?

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       gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       You were the parentified child who put others FIRST while you put yourself LAST.  The average oldest child in large & very large families must be on 24/7/365 for parents.  LONELY? Never heard of this before.  Well, yes lonely because NOBODY was ever there for you, poor little one.   I am going to HUG you.   My mother was the oldest of ten.    What a LIFE many poor oldest of large families "lead".  Being unappreciated & overused.  It continues even to adulthood.  NO RESPITE AT ALL!

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          watergeekposted 9 years agoin reply to this

          I just joined a professional choir. I was very excited. My first performance. 35 member orchestra accompanying us. I invited everyone. No one came.
          
          My sister, "Sunday's are my special day." (And she wants me to take her dogs, cause I have a yard.)

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             gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

             Told you it is NEVERending/UNending.   Adult oldest children SHOULDER EVERYTHING.  They DO EVERYTHING.  When will IT STOP!   It is like adult oldest children have NOBODY; younger siblings usually DON'T help, assume responsibilities, and are mostly OUT FOR THEMSELVES!  It is ALL GIVING for the oldest child and seldom if any receiving.  The mantra for oldest children should be, " I treat others FAR BETTER than they have treated me."   They are THERE for everyone in the family but NO ONE is there for them.  Sad really.  I think I am going to write a hub on this very topic in the future.

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    watergeekposted 9 years ago

    Oddly, my sister is known as the control freak, the competitive one, the blamer. There's only the two of us amongst six boys (she's four years younger and more attractive). But she also panics easily, and needs my attention and reassurance when she's going through changes. I should also add for myself . . . and I'm not happy about this . . . resentment.

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    word55posted 9 years ago

    Elder? Eldest? Senior? Vet?

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       gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       The oldest child a/k/a oldest sibling in a family.  The theme for oldest children should be oh $%^#% again, what do you ALL #$%^& want now, leave me the $%^&# ALONE, $%^&*@! I would not wish being the oldest child on Satan!
       
       TIME to HUG all oldest children, they need our hugs, prayers, and DEEPEST SYMPATHY.  I feel SORRY   for OLDEST children, really!

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    gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

    doormat
    martyr
    put UPON BIG TIME
    abused MORE BIG TIME
    dethroned.....and dethroned...............and DETHRONED...............(depending upon family size)
    HELL is heaven in comparison to lives oldest children live
    PRISON CAMP is better than the environment of some oldest children
    slaves and forced laborers have MORE FREEDOM than many oldest children, especially oldest children in large and very large families.

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    MrsKoya1314posted 9 years ago

    Overwhelming and great. First one born is usually first on out the house,yet first borns are responsible for the youngest when the parents can't or don't want to be.

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       gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       This is SO TRUE.  Oldest children are oftentimes the unspoken, REAL parents in the household.  There are parents, especially those of large families, who COMPEL their oldest child to parent the younger siblings.
       
       

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          gmwilliamsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          dethroned, discarded, disparaged, unappreciated, overused, parentified.
          

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