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One way to be married for life

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    DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago

    Give me one way to stay married for life. Thanks!

    1. countrywomen profile image59
      countrywomenposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Well your question has the answer in it. Ok let me put it this way: Isn't marriage for life? (I personally feel it is the whole attitude that "this is it" and for the rest of my life I have to learn to deal with this)

      PS: I am aware of exceptions like abusive relationships and what I stated was my personal opinion about marriage(especially mine) and not an attempt to generalize marriage. smile

      1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
        VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Indians are always hesitating in each and everything. Why such a hesitation to tell what is good?  To whomsoever it may appeal, let them take it. Dont worry about others.

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        DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks! Great opinion and well said! smile

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      aussie_wifeposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      - unconditional love and loyalty...
      - respect each other...
      - make him your everything...your man, your lover and your bestfriend!!!

  2. frogdropping profile image83
    frogdroppingposted 8 years ago

    Marry the right person wink

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      DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      How do I know who's right? and who's not? smile

      1. GeneriqueMedia profile image59
        GeneriqueMediaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        To divine this answer I will need chicken bones, blood of shaved yak, peyote, an original copy of Dark Side of the Moon on vinyl, and $200 sent to Nigeria. big_smile

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          Motherhood Trialsposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Thats funny !

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          DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Hahaha!... that's funny! big_smile

      2. Lisa HW profile image81
        Lisa HWposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        That's one of the most challenging questions, because so many people truly believe they marry the right person, only to discover, when/if big troubles come; it turns out there wasn't enough of foundation to the relationship after all.   Some parts of people's personalities/coping styles, etc., don't show up until something happens that reveals them.

        Maybe what people need to do is really, really, understand what "mature and well adjusted" is (and honestly ask if both people are mature and well adjusted), learn about how birth order can affect how a person deals with things, and learn about the other's family and how people dealt with things.  Maybe, too, if there are even minor signs of something not being quite right in the relationship during dating; don't do the "well adjusted and reasonable thing" of overlooking such signs and thinking, "I can't expect it to be perfect."  It should feel perfect if it's right.

  3. Everyday Miracles profile image92
    Everyday Miraclesposted 8 years ago

    Make love an action rather than an emotion.

    1. Specificity profile image61
      Specificityposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Yup.  I would say make love an act of will, not a feeling.  Feelings are fickle, but if both of you are committed to marriage, it'll work great in the good times, and you'll be able to gut it out in the hard times. It's worked so far for us anyway!

  4. GeneriqueMedia profile image59
    GeneriqueMediaposted 8 years ago

    Marry and promptly be locked into your own lovely mausoleum! You won't have long to put divorce papers through! wink

    Or write your will, for that matter.

    G|M

  5. Dame Scribe profile image61
    Dame Scribeposted 8 years ago

    lol GM, silly thang. I recommend that your marriage reach that *companionate* stage after the *honeymoon* stage wears off smile

    1. GeneriqueMedia profile image59
      GeneriqueMediaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      My companion is sitting on my shoulder, grinding his teeth happily with his eyes half-closed. =P

      What's this marriage thing? A ploy for easy intimate liaisons? wink One of these days I gotta get on board with the bulk of humanity and start using my hormones for good use. ;P

      Peace and Love,

      G|M

  6. Lgali profile image39
    Lgaliposted 8 years ago

    adjustment and love

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    Janettaposted 8 years ago

    Complete trust, faith in one another, honesty and be open about your feelings.  And like froggy said--marry the right person smile

  8. GeneriqueMedia profile image59
    GeneriqueMediaposted 8 years ago

    What are my chances the right person is in the back of my copy of "OC Weekly" and she just happens to be in Russia, looking for the right person too...?

    G|M

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      DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      LOL! big_smile ... I don't know what to say....smile

  9. lawretta profile image78
    lawrettaposted 8 years ago

    Always look your best and be submissive to your man.

    1. GeneriqueMedia profile image59
      GeneriqueMediaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Hey, the 1950s called, they miss you. wink Haha, no hard feelings. Just hadta.

      Peace and Love,

      G|M

    2. Jamie Gates profile image60
      Jamie Gatesposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Oh God No, please. No. Not submissive. Don't believe that B.S. unless you're a masochist.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 8 years ago

    MARRY A GOOD FORGIVER AND BE ONE YOURSELF

  11. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago

    First understand yourself. Then understand the purpose of marriage.. not only for sex.. just a companion for life full of emotions, ups and downs... Then understand your opposite.
    Place yourself in his or her position and then analyse their behaviour.. If you find it reasonable and you in that place would have done the same thing... then forgive and forget.  Think that everyday you get a new life and learn to live as an youngster; make your partner happy and be happy yourself.

    Emperor Akbar of India (17th century- ruled Delhi for 64 years) started a new religion called "Theene Ilahi" which preaches that we should place ourself in the opposite and analyse others' behaviour. What are all we hate, we should not do to others. Eventhough the religion has died, its preachings are fit for all seasons!

    1. Capable Woman profile image65
      Capable Womanposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      You are God in the form of Sivagna...and I am the same God in the form of Capable Woman. This way of thinking creates compassion for each other (at least for my mind it does).

      Still...I don't know if this helps you stay married or keep a hot girlfriend...

  12. apeksha profile image61
    apekshaposted 8 years ago

    Don't look for a perfect person but love the imperfect person perfectly.....
    Love like light ..respect him/her...you will be happily married forever.....

    1. countrywomen profile image59
      countrywomenposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Very well said smile

    2. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Commendable indeed!
      Please dont go in search of imperfect person... Select anyone and love him perfectly. If your love is perfect, there will be no need to worry about perfection of the opposite.
      Respect him... that will make him perfect.

  13. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago

    Then he will win the client's case. And lose his own case.

  14. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 8 years ago

    Oral sex. I'll post a more thought out answer later smile

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      DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      ....smile

    2. Shil1978 profile image87
      Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Lol -- that was a good one smile

  15. SoManyPaths profile image61
    SoManyPathsposted 8 years ago

    I agree with Janetta's comment but would add really listening and remembering.

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    DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago

    Thank you all for the wonderful feed backs! smile

  17. packerpack profile image60
    packerpackposted 8 years ago

    I read it on a quoted T-Shirt and this quote is very old but because no one has spoken it yet so I will steal the opportunity. it is very simple

    MARRY SOMEONE WHOM YOU CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT AND NOT SOMEONE WITH WHOM YOU WANT TO LIVE.

    Howzzat?

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      DjBryle Worksposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Great!... not everyone is blessed with someone they can't live without... thanks for sharing this thoughtful and wonderful insight! I love it! smile

  18. Elynjo profile image60
    Elynjoposted 8 years ago

    Honesty and Communication.

  19. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago

    The spouse's mistakes should be overlooked. Make her happy by turning every one of her/ his words as jokes and make her laugh whenever she tries to bite you. Even the harshest words should not be taken seriously... There are tactics to overturn their words against themselves. But before that find out where the mistake is... if it is yours, say sorry! If it is hers, take it into your mind and apply whenever she accuses you for the same mistake. Instant retarding will complicate things... Take breathe, select words and then apply.  Men or women, everyone wants a cute and intelligent partners..... so, try to be more intelligent than her or him.

  20. Isela profile image60
    Iselaposted 8 years ago

    Ride out the bad times thinking about the good ones! It´s like a roller coaster ...grit your teeth during the scary parts. Treasure the moments, a kiss, a hug, and during the bad times go those "happy moments". But...it´s hard! (married 18 years this January arghhh!!!)

  21. Capable Woman profile image65
    Capable Womanposted 8 years ago

    Always remember that the truth of human romantic relationships is that someone is in charge. Someone has to be. Make sure it's you.

    The one who loves least is the one who controls the relationship. I think Dr. Phil said that...he's a turd but that statement is true.

    Does this sound cynical? If so, just know that my GF is 10 years younger than me and gets mistaken for Angelina Jolie all the time and, oh yeah, and she's a genius, witty and mad about me.

    Every other girl she's ever known has fallen all over themselves to be with her. Don't do that even if every bit of you wants to.

    Counter-intuitive but truth.

    hmmm..I may write a hub about this wink

  22. Research Analyst profile image77
    Research Analystposted 8 years ago

    Be forgiving!

 
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