Is it Possible to Love all your children equally and not have a favourite?
It isn't. In families where there are 2 children or more, one child is going to get the parent's lion share of resources, attention, & love while the other children suffer. That is a part of life in multichild households. In multichild households, one child is going to be treated preferentially. Facts are FACTS.
I think it is possible to love them all equally, but not necessarily to like them all equally. It is almost impossible to treat them equally, as their needs vary with their strengths and weaknesses and their personality. You can only do the best you can for each child, and the likelyhood is that at some point they will feel hard done by, but hopefully that will not last.
I only have two children but I know that neither is my favourite. I would be equally devasted if something bad happened to one or other of them. I like different things about them and enjoy my different relationship with each of them. For me it's all about valuing what's special about each of them as individuals.
Although I know there are some parents who will reluctantly admit to having a favorite, I also know it is more than possible to love all equally and certainly not have any "favorite". I have three children, and I know that I love them equally.
Writing from the children perspective I would say yes. I am the middle of three - only girl. Although being an only girl gave me some advantages (my own bedroom, not having to wear hand-me-downs, etc.) I can say that my mother and father both love me and my brothers equally and we have never felt like one sibling was the favorite. I'm not sure how they achieved that but they worked really hard to treat all of us equally as well as to forge special relationships and experiences that were unique for each of us. Plus, my mother always calls all of us with the same frequency - she just gets through to me more than my brothers!
You're supposed to, but...one of my kids is very difficult and another is a lot more like me, so I like him more. I have had to learn to love unconditionally because one of my kids is VERY disrespectful.
by HouseSeller 12 years ago
It's true.. I don't care how much you deny it but if you have more than one child, you have a favourite child. Yes you will utterly deny it if someone asked you who your favourite kid was. Hell I bet the majority of you that will reply to the post will say "oh I love my kids all the...
by Lady_E 6 years ago
Is it possible to love all your children equally? Can you love one more than the rest?I have noticed in many families that the last child is the one that is loved so much.
by Bianu 12 years ago
Do you love all your children equally?
by Chandan Sharma 9 years ago
Is it possible that one can love two girls equally?I have two girlfriends. Is it possible that I love them equally...at least I think so. What should I do? I know that sooner or later I will have to let go one of them. But how would I decide which one, if at all I decide to let one of them go?
by Chris 12 years ago
How do blended families make step-parenting work?I am married for a second time and blessed that my husband believes my three kids are his own. His interactions, reactions and parenting are all those of a biological parent and we work together well as a parenting team. But a lot of our...
by Nira Perkins 12 years ago
I had about 4 favorite teachers throughout my years. They were great in different ways. I remember actually visiting with a couple of them after class just to talk and ask questions.
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