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Is it possible that one can love two girls equally?

  1. cenarius27 profile image75
    cenarius27posted 3 years ago

    Is it possible that one can love two girls equally?

    I have two girlfriends. Is it possible that I love them equally...at least I think so. What should I do? I know that sooner or later I will have to let go one of them. But how would I decide which one, if at all I decide to let one of them go?


  2. C.V.Rajan profile image78
    C.V.Rajanposted 3 years ago

    Ah you are quite smart! Our mind normally hoodwinks us to believe so, so that we don't want to lose the rare opportunity of having two girlfriends! For that matter, why not extend the idea and try a couple of more girlfriends too and find out whether you can love all of them equally?!

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    My guess is it's possible to love them for (different) reasons.
    However if you were "madly in love" with the first one you never would have made time to fall "in love" with the second one.
    Most cheaters are looking to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.
    It is nearly impossible to find (one person) who has all the traits and qualities you could want. Mature people eventually reach this conclusion and learn to accept and live with the 80/20 rule.
    "At best you'll get 80% of what you want/need from any mate."
    Is it worth risking losing 80% by pursing the missing 20% from another? Clearly cheaters feel it's worth that risk.
    They refuse to settle for less than 100% of what they want.

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    jfischerstoneposted 3 years ago

    First of all why would you post a picture of such lovely children on a question like this. You are a cheater and will always be!

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I suspect because children portray (innocence). I recall when I was in Kindergarten adults would often ask me:
      "How many girlfriends do you have?"
      They implied it was okay to have more than one! LOL!
      In all honesty these kids look like siblings!

    2. cenarius27 profile image75
      cenarius27posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I am sorry if you are hurt by the use of rather innocent picture. I just wanted ppl to think about the matter(rationally) more than who did it.

  5. realtalk247 profile image71
    realtalk247posted 3 years ago

    No. You are being selfish and inconsiderate of both women. Love is an action word and to love two women equally (in your mind) only confirms you are interested in a multitude of women sharing your needs. A selfish act.  Everyone has flaws, including yourself, however we can not have 100% of what we desire in one person-that is rare.  Dr. Phil stated if you have a majority of what you want and a small part is missing, you have hit goal.

    I'm curious if you have the dual relationship: the wife material complimented by the fun party chick that exciting in bed.  My assumption, and I could be wrong, is that you would not pick two women with the same personalities.

    Do the right thing. Do not commit to either one as it appears you are not at a mature level to be faithful and honest to one woman.  If you do not enter into a committed relationship, AND EACH WOMAN IS AWARE OF THAT, then you may continue to get to know each person. You take the risk of losing each one but at least you are honorable and respectable with your actions.

    1. cenarius27 profile image75
      cenarius27posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Love is a complicated thing...and many times we make mistake. I admit that I am at fault and  would not use any excuse. I only think that the time has come to take the right step.

    2. realtalk247 profile image71
      realtalk247posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Why don't you make it right before 2015. If you are not considering marriage tell both women you want to take a break and let's be friends. 0 girlfriends and continue to date them and others. It's only wrong with you make commitments without truth.

  6. Sara Jofre profile image77
    Sara Jofreposted 3 years ago

    You are the only one who knows the honesty of your feeling for each of them. But you shouldn't be lying to them. If you are a honest person just talk to them and tell them you love someone else. Maybe by forcing yourself to tell the truth to both you them, you really find out which one you love the most and just be honest with you, and the girls, and let go the one you like the least.
    I don't condemn the fact that you have two girlfriends, I condemn the fact that you are lying to both.

    1. cenarius27 profile image75
      cenarius27posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You for sure don't know what led me to this situation but ya...I should be condemn for what I did. I take a step further and say that why shud I even get a chance to choose one as per my comfort. But seems that only path is to reveal truth.

  7. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    i don't think so. Most twins are identical. One is clever and the other is less the ability. One is good looking and the other is a little weird off. So, most people prefer the good looking and clever twin