Good God no. They are all loved completely and unconditionally the same. Or at least I was and as are my children.
I think my mom loves me more than my sister and my father loves my sister more than me..
I've seen several instances where that notion can be perceived. I love my children equally, but differently.
I don't know if I would say a favorite. I have three and I wish that my second (girl)was more like my first(boy). My third is in a league of her own and I can already tell she is going to be a handful! I originally wanted all boys...now I know why LOL
I can't believe that any responsible parent has a "favorite" child. Though I am not a parent myself, I still, nevertheless, find the "favorite" child concept difficult to fathom.
Certainly parents might have specific children, in their families, with whom they "identify" with more so than the other children -- but this is NOT the idea of favorites. It is possible, in families, with two or more children, that one or both parents might perceive x child as "just like me" (in terms of interests, basic personality, etc), or "a chip off the old block" even, but again, this is not the idea of favorites.
I would certainly like to think that most parents appreciate each child for her particular characteristics, but you get cases in which a parent perceives x child as "a carbon copy of me," and so forth, but this is not the idea of favorites; it certainly shouldn't be!
No, I hope not. I love both my children equally, although I am fully aware of how different they are. I could never and would never choose between them.
While we love our children the same, that does not mean we don't relate to each one differently.
An example is I have two granddaughters, 6 and 4. The 4 year old loves to snuggle and cuddle with her mom, or any family member. The older one is always moving and not really into snuggling although the offer is always made. She will sit next to me and lean against me and that is her version of a hug. but if you try and push her into affection, she backs up every time, even with her mom and dad.
But....from her perspective, she may grown up and say her sister was snuggled more that she was. Perspective can be very interesting.
I believe because each child is unique in their own way i would have to say being a mother that no i don't have a favorite one.The thing that we do get confused is that some children need more attention than other because of actions and behavior when the other child might be doing ok in most areas.
I think for any parent to have a favourite child is unthinkable.... children are ( hopefully) conceived in love and should all be loved equally however many there are in the family..I have 2 sons and a daughter ....I do more with my daughter now she is a grown woman,shopping etc but thats what mums and daughters do there is a special closeness .....but that does not mean I love her more than my sons , I can honestly say I love all three of my children with equal measure and always have.
So called evolutionary science shows a strong measured effect of increased parental investment - more time spent, words talked and positive emotional exchanges between, parents and the first vs later born.
They say the first born has already got more "reproductive resources" (time energy) invested in them by the parents and is most likely to survive and reproduce under difficult environmental conditions. Better to invest in an already strong reproductive contender,the evolutionists say, and that this parental investment bias is constrained through behavioral genetics through increased reproductive fitness.
I cannot speak for "most" parents, but I absolutely do NOT have a favorite child.
Most parents have a favorite child whether they admit or not. If parents have more than one child, they often have a child who they like and/or inadvertently treat better than the others.Favoritism is a fact of life in many multichild families...... read more
by HouseSeller 6 years ago
It's true.. I don't care how much you deny it but if you have more than one child, you have a favourite child. Yes you will utterly deny it if someone asked you who your favourite kid was. Hell I bet the majority of you that will reply to the post will say "oh I love my kids all the...
by KevinC9998 5 years ago
Were you your parent's favorite child? If not how did it make you feel?
by Marc Lee 2 years ago
Parents, be honest, do you have a favorite child? And how do you cope with it?
by Elena 3 months ago
Is it possible to love all your children equally? Can you love one more than the rest?I have noticed in many families that the last child is the one that is loved so much.
by Elena 3 months ago
Is it Possible to Love all your children equally and not have a favourite?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 5 years ago
If YOU were the favorite child in YOUR family, what would YOU want to say to your parents andsiblings?
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