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What's the right age to start having kids?

  1. saturdaymusings profile image56
    saturdaymusingsposted 7 years ago

    What's the right age to start having kids?

    Like, what's most important - financial stability, a solid marriage.. etc.

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    twhite94posted 7 years ago

    Many people would tell you never, but I think 30-35 is a good time. This gives you time to get into your career and live life a little. Many others would disagree. It is all personal preference.

  3. jennshealthstore profile image90
    jennshealthstoreposted 7 years ago

    This differs depending on the person. Many people want to go to school and start a career first, while others want to start a family and then get an education or start a career. Unless you are pretty wealthy, if you wait to be financial stable it might never happen because how do we really decide when we have enough money to raise a child? A solid marriage is important but who knows what will happen in five years from now? So I think the right age is when you and the person who is going to have a child, is ready to love a child unconditionally no matter what, and be willing to put the needs of the child first. If you are ready for that, then you are ready for a child.

  4. Mr.Iridescent profile image52
    Mr.Iridescentposted 7 years ago

    I think it depends on u. If u know u r ready and cn afford a baby and hv the time 2 put in and the patience the go right ahead. But think about hw u life is at the moment and see do u want to give up the single and fun life 4 a baby right now only if u are living that kind of life.

  5. Aficionada profile image88
    Aficionadaposted 7 years ago

    After I had the first of my four, I decided that the ideal age to have a kid is when you are two years old so that you will have enough energy to keep up with it!  (LOL) 

    Seriously, I was in my late twenties and while that is not a bad age at all, I can see some value in having children at younger ages and also at slightly older ages.  An important consideration, though, is the age of the mother.  After age 35, a mother's likelihood of giving birth to a child with various types of problems increases dramatically.  But I had my youngest after I was 35, and he did not have any of the difficulties that concern would-be parents.

    If you are selecting between financial stability and a solid marriage, I would go for the solid marriage.  People who are poor can give a wonderful, loving home to children; people with a shaky marriage will probably have children who are or who become insecure or who have a host of other psychological problems.  With a solid marriage, a couple is more likely to find ways to overcome or rise above financial difficulties.

    But I would say even more strongly than either of these considerations, that a child needs parents who are mature and who are not self-centered.

    So many factors are involved, that it is difficult to give any one answer that applies to everyone.

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    jasper420posted 7 years ago

    When ever you are ready mentaly physicaly emotianly and financaly

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    deidarasgrl55posted 7 years ago

    Well, in my opinion, I think you should have kids when you finish school of course. You should have enough money and your own place. Of course you should be 20+ because in your teens is way too early. My sister was 18 when she had her first child and struggled a lot. She had to earn enough money so she could finally get a place of her own. She rents a condo with her husband now. She waited 4 years for this and she is still in college. It is very hard for her to finish her school work with my niece and nephew running about and asking questions and being loud. Children are difficult to take care of for some people, but people who wait patiently have no struggles because they have enough money to put aside for the baby. I think you know what basic things you need to have like a crib and dresser, diapers, clothes, toys, and food. You also need to be ready. When you are ready you will know. I hope this helps.

 
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